Need diet friends... accountability.

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4myfamily

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I'm have so much trouble keeping myself accountable. My hubby likes me fat so he is kinda sabotages me and I see him doing it but I want that damn piece of pizza!
I feel like this first week of my diet he brings home sonic and Whataburger. I know that he is trying to be helpful. Baby Girl and I were both really sick that day and I couldn't MOVE to make food... but Sonic and deep fried deliciousness... really?!?
He did bring me home a salad the last day of my illness, but then he had Taco Bell.. lol...

Is anyone else going through this? Being the only one on the house on a diet and having to cook regular food for your family.
Well... I'm not on a diet, I am just trying to replace the processed, high fat food I use to eat daily with fruit and whole food. I'm not decreasing the amount I am eating. So it's not like I want to feed him Grilled chicken every night.

Thanks
Arwen
 
Why does your hubby like you fat? Is he overweight as well?

I believe your hubby should be your biggest form of encouragement. It is a great choice, trying to create a healthier lifestyle. Better for your health, energy, and confidence. Is there a a reason why you think he prefers you to be larger?

You can make delicious meals that are healthy, it just takes some research and time. I'm sure as long as the food is tasty, no one will complain. Try to substitute some of the processed foods you use to cook for fresher, healthier alternatives.
 
My husband is the same. I'm trying to eat healthy, he nags about wanting to order out. He keeps asking me to buy chocolate, and he keeps offering it to me. He gets himself sweets and gives half of them to me, then looks surprised if I get angry at him. I'm sure he does it on purpose, but I have yet to find out the purpose behind it.

I am not sure what I would find worse - if he did it purposely to sabotage my weight loss somehow, or if it was something that is done out of thoughtlessness.

But no, you aren't the only one. I am in the same boat, and it's driving me insane.
 
Cook healthy food as your regular food. If hubby does not like it, he cam go hungry, but it sounds like he knows how to navigate the local drive through scene. Your family will be so much healthier if you provide healthy food, and my guess is, he will grumble but then eat it anyway because it is there. Do this for you, because you are worth it, and ask him, why doesn't he want you to be healthier. It would be interesting to hear his response.
 
I can tell you a bit about the why I believe, as I must admit that I used to be the same with my wife. Now, she is not overweight (not by my standards but also not by BMI standards :)) but she doesn't like to order out or eat unhealthy for health reasons, even though she enjoys the food.
For me, I liked (well, to be honest, I still do!) to order chinese, pizza, or fries, as I felt it was part of being "at home", being "cozy" together.
The matter of the fact is, I knew she did not want to have it, but I also knew that she liked the food, so I wasn't really discouraged, and felt like I had to convince her from time to time. For me, it was kind of part of the "rewards" of our relationship, one of our "moments" together.
The solution, in our case, was rather simple: We made a deal to only order out once every month, and as I am the cook (new man and everything :)), I vowed to cook healthy every other day. For us, this works.
A few additional tips, you might already know but I mention them just in case:
- make your husband see that healthy food can also be delicious. Pasta with fish, chicken or turkey, mashed potatoes instead of just potatoes (only potatoes and a little non-fat milk is enough, no butter or the like!!), Risotto instead of just rice, you can use some 5% cream occasionally instead of the 40% kind, etc. Also, use fruit, nuts, seeds (in moderation) to flavour the food.
- Try to replace the unhealthy food moments with something else, playing a game together, going for a walk (get a dog!), something he likes. A relationship is always a matter of giving and taking, so when he does something you like (i.e. eating healthy), he deserves something he likes (besides fast food)
- Have a really serious talk with your husband, tell him you would feel better about yourself if you lost some weight, and ask him to support you in that.
 
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