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angiportus1

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Hi All,

I was pretty overweight a few years ago, about 180 lbs. I slimmed down to 140-ish, and feel great! I go to the gym regularly and am very aware of what I eat. Noticing my weight loss, my sister decided to try and shape up. But we are very different and it seems that no matter how often she works out, nothing changes..

First of all, I'm 19. She's 30. She's had two kids by C-section and I am definitely without child. She juggles work, marriage and kids and I juggle college and.. well, that's it. Her weight -- probably about 200 lbs? -- seems very stubborn. I know it makes her depressed because of her size. She constantly talks about it and makes fun of herself for it. She was thinner than I am before her children, probably around a size 4 and now is around a 14. I know that she's happy for me but I almost feel bad about losing the weight because she doesn't seem to able to get hers off! She's been going to the gym since late November and hasn't lost a pound. I told her it was the holidays, and that not losing anything is a good thing (she could be gaining, right?). I think because I lost the weight she comes to me with questions, and I can't answer them!

I honestly don't know why she isn't losing weight! I mean, for the most part, she eats very healthy.. salads and roasted vegetables, etc. She has two young children, but I don't think it's baby weight. They are five- and three-years-old. So obviously she does juggle their diets as well, but, I mean, she works out more regularly than I do. I know that I'm younger but I feel as though she might give up on the gym soon because to her, nothing is happening. I told her to hang in there, that she'd notice something soon, but... I'm not sure if that's the truth? ): My mom has a thyroid condition, and I've asked her to go to the doctor, but she doesn't want to admit it to herself.

I don't know what to say! I guess I'd really love some feedback. Anything you could suggest for me to tell my sister/focus on/have YOU been in a similar situation? I'd really love anything. I just don't want her to be unhappy, because she is the best sister I could have ever asked for. :\
 
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Hi All,

I was pretty overweight a few years ago, about 180 lbs. I slimmed down to 140-ish, and feel great! I go to the gym regularly and am very aware of what I eat. Noticing my weight loss, my sister decided to try and shape up. But we are very different and it seems that no matter how often she works out, nothing changes..

First of all, I'm 19. She's 30. She's had two kids by C-section and I am definitely without child. She juggles work, marriage and kids and I juggle college and.. well, that's it. Her weight -- probably about 200 lbs? -- seems very stubborn. I know it makes her depressed because of her size. She constantly talks about it and makes fun of herself for it. She was thinner than I am before her children, probably around a size 4 and now is around a 14. I know that she's happy for me but I almost feel bad about losing the weight because she doesn't seem to able to get hers off! She's been going to the gym since late November and hasn't lost a pound. I told her it was the holidays, and that not losing anything is a good thing (she could be gaining, right?). I think because I lost the weight she comes to me with questions, and I can't answer them!

I honestly don't know why she isn't losing weight! I mean, for the most part, she eats very healthy.. salads and roasted vegetables, etc. She has two young children, but I don't think it's baby weight. They are five- and three-years-old. So obviously she does juggle their diets as well, but, I mean, she works out more regularly than I do. I know that I'm younger but I feel as though she might give up on the gym soon because to her, nothing is happening. I told her to hang in there, that she'd notice something soon, but... I'm not sure if that's the truth? ): My mom has a thyroid condition, and I've asked her to go to the doctor, but she doesn't want to admit it to herself.

I don't know what to say! I guess I'd really love some feedback. Anything you could suggest for me to tell my sister/focus on/have YOU been in a similar situation? I'd really love anything. I just don't want her to be unhappy, because she is the best sister I could have ever asked for. :\

Hi, your sister situation is very close to my own story, and I can understand how does she feel. Below you will find my story and what I did to succeed in my weight-loss goals. But most important point in weight-loss it is right mind-set.

By the age of 25, I got married and two years later, I had my first child. I believe my weight crept after the birth of my child. My family has a history of health problems that are weight related. In addition, working long hours in dispatch office with minimum physical activity did add extra pounds too. Weight was always important factor in my life; when I was younger, and a healthy weight, which is 150 – 155 pounds, I felt full of energy, attractive and sexy.

However, as I was getting towards my thirties; I became unhappy with my weight, I began to feel heavier, lacking in an energy, which lead me to dislike my body and feel bad about myself. I knew it was because I was not living my life in a healthy way but every day I made excuses that’s everything was fine I had nice job, wonderful husband and awesome child, I just had little bit of a weight problem, not to worry much about.

By the age 31, I was 198 pounds. Therefore, you can imagine how I felt. I stopped feeling of as energetic and not at all sexy. I was eating more and more and blaming myself for doing nothing. My husband tried to support me and he used to say me "look at me I am fat too and look at our child so no big deal we will be now fat family". Whilst I appreciated his support, more importantly, I realized that I am not the only one who is getting over weight, I also was over feeding my family too, so I came to conclusion that I needed to do something. I also realized that I have to make changes in my life that I could live with for the rest of my life or it would not last.

I was so determined to lose weight moreover, I wanted to help my family too. Therefore, I began my research on the Internet and discovered what a minefield of information there was – it was so confusing! Much of the information was misleading and to add to the confusion was full of outdated research, or the latest fad diet or crazy supplement company trying to sell you their latest fat loss pill or miracle potion.

Nevertheless, I started to pay attention to what I ate, do regular exercise, and stopped eating late at night. In two months, I dropped down to 187 pounds not to bad is it. However, I was not still satisfied I wanted to be able to wear size 8-10 and look attractive and feel sexy again.

I continued to analyze my eating behavior my negative thinking patterns about being overweight and I found very interesting thing. The more I reprogrammed my brain the easier it was to lose the pounds, I was on the way to love myself again and enjoy life. During one year of my research on my weight problem, I tried so many programs; if I were list them here, it will take at least another 100 pages. Some did have short-term effects but were so expensive to keep up.

On my 32 years birthday my husband gave for me a present where initially I was little bit upset about as the present was how to lose weight. I believe you can understand me. He explained he didn’t want to upset me but had been doing some research of his own. He also said, that he had found a product, which seemed to work and this product had seen many happy customer, moreover his friend was using the same product and he saw how quickly he was slimming down. My reaction calmed down but I was still skeptical that I could have the same success, I had seen these promises over the Internet enough, and all of them promise the same but results are different. However, I did not want to upset my husband and I promised him that I would give it a try.

Next day I began to read this information and naturally, after reading a few pages I wanted to put this info on a shelf but my inner voice was telling me "Alexandra if you are not going to fully devote your time and really try this program you will not know whether it works or not". I eventually decided to give my best to this program. As we know, we all can be little bit lazy but we also know that if you want something you need to work for it and get it. By the time I started, I was 184 pounds in two months I dropped another 20pounds. It took me three months to reach my target weight.

Now my weight is 155 pounds, I am wearing size 10 and I am very happy about my changes. My husband is happily smiling now even my child is joking by asking daddy where half of mummy has gone. My life has never been better. I have more energy to enjoy my family and life. I also very glad now that I had this wonderful present. If you would like to get this present for yourself, then please click here.

I wish you all success overcoming your weight problem


I hope this will help your sister.

Alexandra
 
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