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:I think I was at my heaviest when this pic was taken July 2005.



This was taken in the summer of 2006, less than three months after I started the weight loss. (-26 lbs)


This was taken the next Christmas, 2006. (-55 lbs)


Summer of 2007... (-101 lbs)


And this was taken last week, me wearing the same jeans than in the pic from the summer in 2006.


I haven´t seen any progress in the scale since the last pic was taken last summer but I´m actually much smaller now. I´m still very motivated but to tell you the truth, it´s really eating me... :( It only makes me more obsessed, if that´s even possible... My life revolves around food and exercise. It´s started to affect my relationships with others. I just don´t know what to do anymore... I´ve tried everything. Any tips?
 
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hello..I want to start off by saying CONGRATS!!!!!!!!! you have done very well with you loss!!! Have you tryed changing the foods that you eat, maybe your body is use to what you have been doing, also maybe changing your workouts...dont know if it will change but its worth a try. PLease whatever you do DONT GIVE UP, you have came to far!!!!
 
Wow! You look amazing!
Congrats on everything you've done so far! I agree with Amber; try changing your work-out routine a bit. After a while you're body just gets used to it.
I wish you all the best, and don't give up! <3
- Maya
 
I know exactly how you feel... my weight-loss journey has definitely affected my relationship with my boyfriend, who is overweight and refuses to change anything. Ultimately, though, I know it's going to come to either him or the diet, because you can't have a household where one person eats healthy and the other person eats whatever they want to, it just doesn't work.

(Fortunately, my family is TOTALLY supportive and 100 percent behind me on it, and that helps.)

As for my friends, it's not as bad as it is with my boyfriend. When I talk about my weight loss, I can see their eyes start to glaze over and I can tell they don't really want to hear about it anymore, so I try to wrap it up quickly.

But I think bottom line -- the idea is to get healthy so that you have MORE TIME on this Earth. Your loved ones should understand that and be supportive of you. And if they aren't... well in the case of your friends, be honest with yourself and try to analyze WHY they aren't supportive. Are they jealous of you because you're looking good and they're still overweight? Or on the other end of the spectrum, have they always been the skinny one in the limelight, and now that you're losing weight and getting attention, thus taking it away from them and they can't handle it? If those reasons (or ones that are similarly negative) smell familiar, it sounds as if those are toxic relationships, thriving upon your unhappiness. I would recommend getting away from them, however sucky it may feel (in the long run, you'll be happier).

If, however, your friends are more like what my friends are -- bored to tears by my one-note conversations these days -- then in conversations, say your piece, whatever your news is ("I got to 75 pounds off!" or "I found out my blood pressure is no longer high!" etc.), and move on with the conversation. I know it's exciting when all of these changes are happening to your body, but relationships have to be a two-way street, and you have to be sure you're not just dominating the conversation.

Now, if it's your family members that aren't supportive, try sitting them down and telling them that you want to be healthy so you can be there for them for all of life's adventures (or something that doesn't sound quite so cheesy :blush5:) and that it's important that they support you. I think that if you approach it sincerely and really ask them to be there for you, they will.

I hope this helps you!! Best of luck with everything!!
~Katie
 
You say that you haven't seen any changes in weight, but that you're much smaller now. That's a good thing; it means you have burned off fat and gained muscle. When we say we "want to lose weight", what we really mean is "we want to lose fat". And that's what you're doing! Don't let the scale ruin how you are feeling about yourself! Yeah, it's nice to see a smaller number... but what would you rather do: lose 5 lbs and still wear the same size, or lose no weight but go down a dress size? My advice to you is to throw your scale out the window!
Okay... I know that's probably not practical. I guess like Amber says, switch up your routine. Are you lifting weights? If not, start! If you're eating 3 times a day, start eating 5 times a day. Honestly, I feel kind of weird trying to give you advice, looking at your progress. You look fantastic! I should be asking you for advice!
 
The best piece of advice I can give you is to find friends with similar goals. My best friend started losing weight with me and we're both almost done now, however, that was a BIG help. Having somebody who understands not wanting to fill my face with shit constantly is great. The new guy I'm seeing is very fitness/health oriented. I would say a good 50% of my friends now are people I have met and become very close with at the gym. You have to be realistic- this isn't something you get to quit in a year when you're done or you will slowly gain everything back. You need to make this work for life, which obviously means making it enjoyable (which for ME is making is social).

For the first two months I wouldn't eat out at ALL, now I'll go out once a week, I'll have a drink here and there- and I keep losing. I've realized its ok.. I've also realized that I was borderline ED and some people still think I am. If you feel like you're getting too obsessed maybe take a week or two off (assuming you're on some sort of restriction plan) and eat your maintenance calories. If you're eating to maintain, in theory, you shouldn't gain- and you'll give yourself a chance to breathe, reorganize your plan, be 'regular', etc. I did this over Christmas and it really helped :)
 
Thanks for the advice!! :)

I just talked to a personal trainer yesterday and he said he´d give me some tips after he´s read my food diary. There were a few things he´d change, more calories for starters. I already eat 2200 calories/day. I exercise a lot, gym twice a week, body balance and body pump once a week. I also walk a lot, about 6 hours/week. So, I exercise about 3000-3500 calories/week. My physical activity at work is also quite high.

My family and fiance have always been very supportive. I couldn´t have done this without my fiance... I sometimes feel bad for him having to listen to this all the time. But he´s never told me to shut my mouth. :D
Of course there are always jealous people but I´ve heard mostly positive comments. Recently people, mostly from work, have started to tell me not to lose too much. "You´ve already lost so much, be careful that you won´t take it too far..." Hell, do I look like I´ve taken it too far?? :rotflmao: They just don´t get it that I´ve still got a lot to lose, it just doesn´t show that well when I´m wearing my uniform...
 
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maybe you could try measuring yourself by inches instead of the scale?
 
ps. you've done an amazing job for yourself! you should be soooooooooooooo proud!!!
 
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Thanks for this link Darth Pooh. This post is quite excellent. I'll definately follow it.
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Good. It's the best advice I've probably ever gotten from someone in regards to weightloss (don't get me wrong, I've learned a lot about nutrition and exercise) but these words were so helpful in the past two months of my life. I can honestly say that Steve changed my life with that post (and the one following my reply too!).

So, in case he reads this, thanks again. I am really appreciative of the time you spend on responding to me and everyone else around here. It's might not always be sugar coated advice, but it shouldn't and doesn't have to be. Being overweight and obese is a serious topic and shouldn't be handled with kid-gloves. I got myself in the fat mess and telling someone they look ok when there is obvious room for improvement is bullshit... If I hear from someone I work with "You're wasting away to nothing" one more fucking time... ah well. I love how my students are the only honest ones. They don't have that filter yet :-D

Oooh, wow... sorry about that :rant:
 
I never talk to my friends or family about my weight loss. Well maybe I just don't start to the conversation about it. I have always tried not to be the center of attention I guess, I just hate it (I have never had a birthday party that I've planned). But this has helped get my sister and some of my friends on board. I think people respond differently to weight loss advice. But when they see the change in me and they want to do it too. Or maybe they think "If this fat ass can do it maybe I can too" lol. So when they ask me that's when I blab on about what I've been doing and what I've accomplished.

Oh and btw obsession isn't a strong enough word for what I feel about weight loss. I must think about it every 3 seconds. Trying to find new ways to exercise and cut calories. It's like a religion.
 
Steve, I agree with you. And I´ve done a lot of those things.
It´s just making me frustrated... I know I´m losing fat now, I´m physically stronger than I was last summer and I do see the change in the mirror. It´s been like this for 7 months now... I can´t stay 240 lbs forever. It has to come down some day.

I wonder if this my body´s way to charge the batteries... I lost the first 90 lbs fast.

:rant:
 
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