My Newest Excuse

[wendieann]

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Lets see.. excuses are great... but if you think about it.. your words are why lose weight to meet someone.. you want them to love you just the way you are.. but maybe think about this...

Why would someone want to take care of you or want you to take care of them.. when you can't even take care of yourself? How you look reflects on your personality. It reflects on your ability to make healthy choices for yourself, and for others.. either a mate or a child on the future.

And if you can't control your own eating habits.. how can you be trusted with the responsability of looking out for another person.. and co-running your guys' lives together? If you can't take care of yourself... how can you take care of someone elses' needs?

Just 'food' for thought.

Sorry but, my words were just EXCUSES for the day...they change all the time...

I was single for 10 yrs after my 1st husband died, and I was 140 pds... SOOO, I know weight isn't everything. Its a personal choice whether to get involved or not.

As for taking care of someone else? I have 5 children. I'm pretty darn good at being a mom... My children are 1 and 2 yrs old... plus teenagers...

I am here for a reason. To read hope from others, to vent when I am frustrated or sad... To hopefully receive some understanding on issues/emotions and to build friendships.

JMHO

 

[Pineola]

I think you just have to be ready to do it Wendieann. I was not ever really one to make excuses....I always knew why I was fat. I ate too much, I didn't exercise enough...on top of that genes or other things you can't control. That doesn't mean I didn't hate it....it just means I didn't have the self control. I think you have to get into a place in your head where you can take control no matter what the reason. You can do it. Just be patient and do your best everyday.

 

[maleficent]

you're in the right place for support and encouragement... But to be perfectly honest with you Wendianne, we all have excuses as to how we got to where we are... What's done is done... What happened yesterday is old news... The only thing that matters here is what you are going to do today and tomorrow... Excuses dont get you anywhere except further into the hole.

You have to decide for yourself... that if you want to lose weight, you will do it.. Make some sort of plan for yourself and put the excuses away...

We all have down days, and that's what this place helps with - to encourage and life you up a little... but you have to meet at least half way - dont just make excuses...

Why don't you start yourself a diary to begin your journey - use it to record your victories and your challenges... and see how much support you will get..

 

[Journey2Butterf]

I am actually VERY happy that I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he fell in love with me overweight - and he doesn't care what I weigh - he just wants me healthy!

 

[Kaitie]

Speaking first hand here.

I've been married to a guy for almost 7 years now...and he is morbidly obese. It's not good. I miss out on things because his weight is grotesque to me. I really can't stand it anymore. I love him and he loves me...but there comes a point where either he gets busy losing the weight so that our lives can be fulfilling or I'm just going to look elsewhere.

You of course are not morbidly obese and I don't think that 190 pounds is going to repulse anyone, but if you are unhappy then you need to make a change. It's not easy. No one wants to freakin' give up the yummy chocolate bars and the DQ blizzards but if you want to be skinny, you have to sacrifice. I've also found that after the first week, I wasn't super hungry all the time and that by eating the right carbohydrates in the morning I get through without snacking and feeling shaky. I think I was o.d.ing my body of simple carbohydrates...I was probably addicted to the sugar high and when I started crashing I craved more.

Anyway. You can do this, and we'll be here to help, to listen, to push, to hug. It's not easy but think about how great your body is going to look after all of your hard work.

*super-duper-squishy-hugs*

 

[jennifuffa]

I'm gonna second the excuse arugment. It is always so easy to blame others or make excuses and I'm so guilty of doing that myself. Why is it so easy to make an excuse but so difficult to go to the gym or go for a walk or do that exercise video? Ugg

 

[Manaloa]

Why is it so easy to make an excuse but so difficult to go to the gym or go for a walk or do that exercise video? Ugg

You want to know what my theory is to why it's so difficult to exercise. I think it's a vicious cycle.

When you start your exercise (let's just assume bike riding) You feel fantastic that you're actually exercising! Great morale booster!! You're actually doing it! Yay!!
Then while you're exercising, you're thinking, hey this isn't so bad, why didn't I just go ahead and do this without trying to think of excuses?
Then you start to tire. And then you're thinking, whew! when do I get to stop???
Then when you're finally done with your scheduled exercise, you're thinking, Good Grief!!! I'm exhausted, I'm proud of myself but boy, I'm really really bushed.
And that's what you remember. How tired you were at the end. How sore your muscles are. And so, when the next time comes around to exercise, instead of remembering how you felt at the begining of the exercise, you remember how tired you were at the end and you don't want to do it.

What I try to do right after I finish exercising is to remember how I felt at the beginning of the exercise. Then the next time I get ready to go, I'm all excited.