My Emotions are Controlling Me

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Brenda's Ready

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Today I have decided enough is enough.
I am tired of lying down and feeling the fat roll on my stomach.
I am tired of looking at myself and knowing there is a hidden person inside who is trapped in this fat shell.
Physical appearances are not everything, for sure; however, there comes a time, like today for me, when you realize that your health is being compromised and your looks are truly suffering a result.

My whole life, I have gone up and down due to emotional eating.
Several times I have regained control, health, and true well-being, only to fall back into the trap of letting the stress in my life turn me into a balloon of fat. Right now, I am sad to say that the health I achieved two years ago has once again given way to fat trapping me and keeping me from living life to it's full potential. I am sad :(
These last few years have seen me commuting an hour to college and back; my daddy passed away, my cousin, and two dear friends.
Really, the stress is eating me. Literally!
The hectic schedule I keep provides me plenty excuses to indulge in fast food, and keep myself fat. It's hard as a commuter to keep food good in your car long enough to eat it.
Anyway, I just need a place to type this out and put my feelings down so that I can take the first steps to regaining some sense of control.
Thanks. Good luck to all of you.
If there are any emotional eaters who have a forum I could join, it would be greatly appreciated-Brenda
 
From one emotional eater to another, welcome! I know that when I'm bored, depressed, anxious, lonely, etc, I tend to turn to food for what is called "shadow comfort". It temporarily makes us feel better, but this illusion soon passes and we feel even worse. It's a vicious cycle.

I am working towards replacing food with physical activity. Exercise is proven to boost mood and self-esteem. So, how about we trade our vicious cycle for a more positive chain-reaction??
 
Hello brenda,
Dont give into the sadness that is surrounding you right now, with the help of this forum we can all help each other.
 
Thanks so much.

Thank you everyone for making me feel much better about what I consider my "secret" emotional eating.
It's funny how a person can think it is so secret when I am obviously changing and growing larger day by day!
I plan on using this forum as a support (and encouragement to others ) tool and hope to help someone else one day who is in the boat I find myself in now.
thanks again
 
we can do it

Hello Brenda,
This is my first day here and what a inspiration this site is, i have spent the whole year coming to terms with my eating disorder so i know exactly how you feel, what i liked about what you said was your true feelings, you just said what was on your heart and that really spoke to me, i to have pretended that there has been nothing wrong but yuo are right its a secret that we keep from our true feelings, i guess i have had the attitude i can do what i like when i like in regards to over eating and when ever my inner voice has spoken i have eaten more food, like you i am going to use this forum as a means of support of real people with real experiences and hopefully i can help other people to. Email me if you like it would be great to lean on you on a bad day. Best of luck bud x: :hurray:
 
for what it is worth, i am an emotional eater as well (yeah guys can be that way to) ...

it is a tough trend to break but it can be done ... best is to find something positive that you enjoy... (something you truely enjoy, not just something you think you like, oh and that is not food) ... and focus on it and use it as goals .. or for something to think about when things are tough ...

the people here on this forum is great ... just remember to use it ... esp when you are feeling down about stuff ... others can not help if you do not talk about it.
 
Just wanted to say that I am jumping on my treadmill and bike for 10 min. each time I crave comfort.
It is just a distraction for now and I figure I can increase activity on it from there.
By the way, this time last year I weighed 140 lbs and now I am 180.
So not morbidly obese, but so many people around me do not understand that you can have a disordered eating pattern at any weight.
Thanks again! later
 
Brenda - Good for you for starting to work out! I am still ill :angelsad2:, but very much looking forward to being able to get moving more. I've been walking to work in the mornings (2.1 miles) and also about 20 minutes of walking on my breaks, so at least I feel like I'm doing *something*.

Disordered eating... that is me. I really need to make myself eat breakfast every day.
 
Brenda I have resisted posting here for a long time, but your issues are too close to mine, for me to pass up.

I like your idea for what to do with your cravings, and I'd like to stay in touch.
 
Brenda's Ready said:
Today I have decided enough is enough.
I am tired of lying down and feeling the fat roll on my stomach.
I am tired of looking at myself and knowing there is a hidden person inside who is trapped in this fat shell.
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Been there! Know how that feels. That and having to unbutton your pants just to be able to tie your shoes... that can really make one crazy.

Physical appearances are not everything, for sure; however, there comes a time, like today for me, when you realize that your health is being compromised and your looks are truly suffering a result.
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True, but I personally feel that the physical appearance can have some affect on the mental and emotional health. I know my self confidence was in the crapper when I was at my heaviest.

My whole life, I have gone up and down due to emotional eating.
Several times I have regained control, health, and true well-being, only to fall back into the trap of letting the stress in my life turn me into a balloon of fat. Right now, I am sad to say that the health I achieved two years ago has once again given way to fat trapping me and keeping me from living life to it's full potential. I am sad :(
These last few years have seen me commuting an hour to college and back; my daddy passed away, my cousin, and two dear friends.
Really, the stress is eating me. Literally!
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I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dad, cousin and friends. That's a lot to have to handle in such a short time. But you have taken a step in the right direction with coming to the realization you are wanting to become healthy again.

The hectic schedule I keep provides me plenty excuses to indulge in fast food, and keep myself fat. It's hard as a commuter to keep food good in your car long enough to eat it.
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Ice chests... that's the key to keeping food fresh in your car. There are some out there designed to keep food cold for days. You could probably find one that would be small enough to keep in your car all day. Do a google search... you will find a lot of different options.

Anyway, I just need a place to type this out and put my feelings down so that I can take the first steps to regaining some sense of control.
Thanks. Good luck to all of you.
If there are any emotional eaters who have a forum I could join, it would be greatly appreciated-Brenda
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Welcome!:cheers2:
 
I'm taking those first steps.

:willy_nilly:Ice chest! What an original thought I obviously never had.:)
Seriously I wonder sometimes if I don't pull some sort of self-sabotage.
For instance, when I was thinner for that time, and looking really good (if I do say so myself) do you know, it was kind of overwhelming?
Like scary somehow-to have people looking twice, instead of through you.
I mean, I enjoyed it! But at the same time, lots of attention I may have not known how to handle at that moment.
Another therapy session in print.
Later!
 
Meh, not too original, but it gets the job done. And it definitely negates another excuse for hitting the fast food places.

And I fully understand the 'self-sabotage' thing. Been there. Start getting on a roll with the weight loss then you realize you are succeeding... then you fuck it all up and gain the weight back. Yeah... I've done that.

This time around I told myself loud and clear that there would be no self sabotage. And yeah, its a bit disconcerting at first with the 2nd looks, etc. but fuck it... I'm enjoying it! I'm 40 now, gottat enjoy looking good for as long as I can. :biggrinjester: Hell, I WANT to be a sexy 'cougar', even if I won't be pursuing much younger men. Happily married and all that. :biggrinjester:
 
Hello Phoenyx,
Well done! you look fab! i am starting my diet on Monday and need some hot tips for my pitfalls? What shall i eat at breakfast? i love toast [bread] u know the type, egg on t one morning, next day, bacon on t then beans the nevt day etc. It makes me feel i am not having a full English breakfast lol, HELP! i was going to buy special k???????????????????????????????????????????? you loook fab girl x
 
Hiya Brenda, I hope you're going to keep posting here.

Did you find the ten minute bursts of exercise effective?
 
Yeah, it really helped-so much so that I now try to do 1/2 hour every day. It really does something for your feeling of well being, overall.
Also, I managed to drop 5 lbs and so really got on the right track.
The thing that pis*ed me off and kept me from posting for a few days is that I discovered in my browser's History section that my boyfriend has been going on "adultfriendfinder.com" and other sites obviously looking at profiles. I got really sick and upset about it and totally fell off track for a few days now. I talked about this on another thread today-it's weird to post personal info, but really-weight's about issues too, not just food. for me anyway.
Thank you for checking in on me and I noticed you had said you were also an emotional eater-I claim that too, but I know it's a combination of that AND laziness on my part!
Hope you all are doing well and don't give up the good fight-
much love
Brenda
 
Hi Brenda,
If we dont talk about our emotions and how we feel we dont know the deep things we need to share in order to help our bad eating habits. I just want to let you know that i regard you as a friend and the good thing about the internet is you can say anything you want to say, I have talked to you about things i would never tell my physcial friends, I feel more at home here then any other club on my doorstep, its private and confidential, if you really think about it, best of luck this week. caroline x
 
Brenda's Ready said:
Yeah, it really helped-so much so that I now try to do 1/2 hour every day. It really does something for your feeling of well being, overall.
Also, I managed to drop 5 lbs and so really got on the right track.
The thing that pis*ed me off and kept me from posting for a few days is that I discovered in my browser's History section that my boyfriend has been going on "adultfriendfinder.com" and other sites obviously looking at profiles. I got really sick and upset about it and totally fell off track for a few days now. I talked about this on another thread today-it's weird to post personal info, but really-weight's about issues too, not just food. for me anyway.
Thank you for checking in on me and I noticed you had said you were also an emotional eater-I claim that too, but I know it's a combination of that AND laziness on my part!
Hope you all are doing well and don't give up the good fight-
much love
Brenda
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Wow. That's a big issue to have to deal with, Brenda. You are right, weight is usually about issues not just food, and I agree with bodymatters, they can be deep things.

I'm really glad to see you quickly back here though. Also, it's very cool that you are noticing the benefit of your exercise in the way that you are.

"you were also an emotional eater-I claim that too, but I know it's a combination of that AND laziness on my part!"

I found this comment, really interesting. The way I think about the worst of my eating, is that I have a binge eating problem, and that the best way for me to work on that is to deal better than I have been, with stress and anxiety. I'm trying to work on those things directly. Additionally, I see that dealing with those issues also requires me to show more discipline and more will than I have done when the eating is controlling me. I'm practicing! And it is working.

I just checked your other comments. It sounds like you are still doing the exercise regardless? I hope so, because if you keep reading and posting and exercising at least you have some things moving you forward. Being on the right track the way you were is a big deal, and the sooner you get back there, the easier it will be to get back.

Thanks for the encouragement.
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