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IAmGoingToTri said:
No problem, you seem like a nice person and you inspire and support me as well! So, it's reciprocal!
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Wow, no sarcasm, that's probably one of the nicer things a stranger has ever said to me. I've taken so much inspiration from the other people here who have drastically transformed themselves.

It's hard to imagine someone getting something out of my insights and experiences, but I'll try my best not to disappoint! I want to do this WITH a group of people because I don't think I can do it alone.
 
I'm feeling really great again today. Part of that is just because it's Friday and it's been a stressful week, but I managed to squeeze in 50 minutes of walking today (over 3 walks) and I've kept strictly to my diet all week, in spite of 3 separate birthday dinners.

I still get tons of unsolicited commentary on the fact that I'm trying to diet at all. At lunch, someone pushed a beer at me and insisted I drink it or else I wasn't having enough fun. Mind you, this is a co-worker who drinks 5 times a week so the behavior was expected. I just don't get that it rubs certain people wrong that I want to do better for myself... as if it somehow insults them.

I don't gloat about it, I don't rub it in anyone's face, and I actively go out of my way not to mention that I'm doing this unless THEY ask me, but I still keep getting all of this weird aggression from people. Maybe I'm just being overly sensitive. I just want people to take what I'm doing seriously.
 
I found the same thing Mowens- usually from people who are very overweight. That's the main reason I searched for & found this forum 9 years ago.
We are good support for one another. Keep on doing what you are doing. You are doing this for your health & I think that's to be admired.
 
This is going to sound like a really jerky thing to say, but the person giving me the most grief is someone who has tried 100 different "fad" diets and never managed to lose anything, mostly things like 3 day juice cleanses or other methods that don't actually involve changing what you continue to eat afterwards.

I don't know if they feel bitter that I'm finding success with what I'm doing or what their motivation is. I consider most of these people friends and I'm not saying I dislike the people, just the attitudes they sometimes have.
 
We're none of us angels or demons. Nice people do unpleasant things sometimes, often without thinking. It may have to do with their own insecurities, they could have internalized the crap other people tell them when they're trying to lose weight, it might be plain old jealousy or they could be testing whether or not you're really serious about this... but ultimately it doesn't matter. You are doing what you know is right for you, and I think that's awesome. Some people will need time to adapt to the new situation but ultimately a person who doesn't want you to be happy and healthy isn't your friend.
 
;iagree: with LaMa & I don't think that sounds at all jerky either. I think it's awesome what you are doing.
 
Haha, LaMa. I use "just" too often and go back and remove it after the fact if I catch it. You can see it used it like 10 times in my first few posts.
 
:D I know, it´s silly, isn´t it? It´s not even a word I use regularly. We all have our hang-ups.
 
It's one of mine too. I look on it as a strength, though, rather than a weakness. I love language :D
 
I'm on a 3 day streak of losing. Hit a new milestone this morning, 25lbs lost!

We took the kids to our state fair which, lucky for us, is just a 45 minute drive from where we live. Got tons of walking in, the kids both had a lot of fun.

The shuttles were packed full and we had a hard time getting the stroller, both kids and both of us onto one, so I took my oldest, put her in the stroller and walked the mile and a half back to our car at the end of the day. I jokingly told my wife, "This is the moment I've been training for". :p

Here's one of us in the humid 90 degree heat today:

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You guys are such a cute family! And it must have felt great to have the option of "ok, I´ll walk then" when everything was packed. Good work Mowens!
 
What a gorgeous family Mowens & well done!!! :D:D :D
I think you should copy & paste your face from this photo for your avatar. Love that smile!!
 
Yeah I know what you mean. I actually never told anyone I was dieting. It was easy for me since I'm not really social but it was easier to keep it on the down low. People only started to realize I was doing something when I got skinnier.
 
Such a nice family! Great to hear that you had a nice day at the state fair! :)

Congratulations for hitting another milestone! A great accomplishment!
 
Mowens1984 said:
I still get tons of unsolicited commentary on the fact that I'm trying to diet at all. At lunch, someone pushed a beer at me and insisted I drink it or else I wasn't having enough fun. Mind you, this is a co-worker who drinks 5 times a week so the behavior was expected. I just don't get that it rubs certain people wrong that I want to do better for myself... as if it somehow insults them.
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Just do THIS next time that happens. I guarantee he doesn't do it again.

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Haha, I don't recognize Leo from that movie. Must be one I haven't seen.

I'm prone to having an explosive temper because I don't vent nearly enough (in a healthy way). I could see myself doing this to a select few people.
 
Mowens1984 said:
I'm prone to having an explosive temper because I don't vent nearly enough (in a healthy way). I could see myself doing this to a select few people.
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I see you being an active, supportive member of the forum & I'm sure it is helping you learn to express your feelings better. I will now picture you with your lovely family & that Mowens isn't an angry person :D
 
I try really hard not to be angry! I hope I didn't just tarnish my image. It's just that I internalize way too much instead of just telling people how I feel, and then I kinda blow up and people wonder "What's wrong with him?"

I don't want people to think I'm a violent person. And I don't think anyone who knows me thinks I am, just that I ought to vent my frustrations instead of bottling them up. :eek:
 
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