Monica's Motivation Book

monikuddle said:
I was in a bit of a depression tonight. My sis called from Texas and apparently my mom has been having some trouble. She's had heart problems for quite some time now, but the symptoms my sis was describing sounded awful close to a stroke or something. She's only 46!! I hate that I"m so far away from her right now.
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Oh crud, I'm sorry your mom's not doing well! I know it's little comfort, but at least Houston's got one of the best medical centers in the world, including I don't even know how many places for heart issues. My thoughts are with you and your mom on this one.

monikuddle said:
I know that's no excuse for eating terribly...but I felt like I couldn't help it. I felt like I couldn't even control it. And THAT makes me feel horrible. ...like eating is not even in my control. It sounds so retarded and ridiculous.
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It's neither retarded nor ridiculous, hon. It's really hard to ignore comfort food, especially when you're upset-- and you're even thousands of miles from your family! That must be really difficult.

Last night I almost gave in after a conversation with my mom (my grandma's not doing terribly well), and the only thing that stopped me was... well, now this is going to sound retarded/ridiculous... it's like I have a bet going with the cookies on my kitchen table. I've bet them that I'm not going to eat handfuls of them uncontrollably. They've bet me that I can't do it. And I'll be damned before I lose a bet to an inanimate object, or even a pile of them! :D

So yeah, kinda silly, but that's what works for me. Congrats on meeting your water quota, and don't worry about eating badly tonight... it's something to work on, and tomorrow will be a better day.

Sifen
 
Its okay Monica.. we all have our down days. We just pick ourselves up and dust off and start again the next day. I hope your mom is doing okay. Hang in there. We are all here for support.
 
Ms. Monica try not to beat yourself up about it. It's not the thing to do but I do it as well. Emotions drive a lot of our habits....... no worries

Edit: sorry your mum is feeling bad.
 
Ohappydaye said:
:eek: Hey you! Stop spreading food rumors about me! :p

Don't believe a word she says about me Monica! :D ..well, ok a few of 'em you can believe. :D
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In all truth Moni Ohappy is one of the MOST supportive people you will ever meet on this forum :D!!

I am praying for you and your mom as well! Don't beat yourself up - you are moving forward. So yesterday is behind you! Today is a new day! Can't wait to you get here is Houston - we've missed you :p !!
 
hi guys, thanks for all your encouraging words. You actually did make me feel better, believe it or not. I'm still worried about my mom and I'm still down in the dumps a little bit about it. But I went to bed feeling so horrible last night that I made a pact with myself...today I am having absolutely NO junk food at all. Not one little bit of ice cream or frozen yogurt. Not one french fancy, not one CHIP! I will stick to healthy foods all day long. And I'm not going to allow depression to win, not as far as my diet goes anyway. I can beat this. I have control over what goes into my mouth. I want to go to bed tonight feeling accomplished. Feeling like a winner. :)

So today I've had a turkey fillet, broccoli and sweet corn. I"m drinking a cup of coffee now. Haven't even started my water yet, but I guess I sort of have cos coffee counts, and I'm drinking 16oz at the moment! :O Oh my...that's a lot of coffee...but I haven't had any coffee or tea for the last 3 days...so I guess I'm OK, right?

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Monica
 
Hey Monica!!!!! So sorry to hear about your mom. I reallyhope she gets better. And you are taking this well, You are still going strong. Stay Positive. Have an AWESOME DAY and drink that WATER!!!!!!:D
 
I messed up once today. So much for making a pact with myself. lol Well it was only about half a serving of low fat ice cream. I had a craving. shut up. haha

But I'm finishing up my water as we speak and I'll be off to bed pretty soon here. It's just 9pm now and I want an early night cos I've got an early morning tomorrow. Hope everyone else has done well! :)

x
Monica
 
I'm sorry about the health problems your mom is having. And I would have turned to food as well I'm sure. Well it's done, so shake it off.

Next time, what else can you do? Come visit us here at WLF? Call a friend and have them meet you for coffee? Read a book? Go for a walk?

Maybe make a list, and consult it next time.

My sister's 3 yr old son was diagnosed with a serious, deadly illness this summer in June (Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy). She and I get on the phone and talk for an hour at a time about it. We spend time researching on the internet. It is very stressful. My heart breaks for her.

If we let these situations negatively affect our weight, then it will affect our ability to be healthy ourselves and to deal with it.

Good luck to you and your mom. I'll be thinking of you both.
 
Hope you have good day today!! You messed up once yesterday... no bid deal! I would have done it for ice cream too!! ;)
 
So sorry to hear about your mom, I hope she gets better soon. And as for your slip today. Don't set yourself up for failure! Instead of saying 'I will have none!', say 'I will do better than I did yesterday!' I'm an emotional eater too, Patty had a wonderful idea:

Next time, what else can you do? Come visit us here at WLF? Call a friend and have them meet you for coffee? Read a book? Go for a walk?

Maybe make a list, and consult it next time.
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Hang in there, don't let the depression win. ;)
 
Well, it's been a busy weekend. And I'm thankful for it...it kept me from eating too much. On Friday night I had a slice of carrot cake, but I didn't stress too much over it cos shortly after I taught my Kiwi friend (she's from New Zealand) 2 country line dances! haha We danced for an hour and a half. It also helped to get my mind off of things. Yesterday I did really well cos I spent the day traveling out to Surrey and visiting a friend. So I had only a chicken salad sandwich for lunch before going bowling and then chicken and chips for dinner. And I still managed to keep up with my water. :)

I've been talking a lot with my sis and my mom on the phone. They all seem to be in good spirits and my sis is working on getting my mom some insurance so she can get her proper medical attention. I'm just glad I'll be home in 2 1/2 weeks to see with my own eyes that everything is OK for now.

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Monica
 
wow! I just took M2M's advice and registered at fitday.com. I figured I'll give this whole calorie counting thing a try, cos I can eat as little as 1000calories a day, according to the BMR calculator that someone on here suggested in order to lose 2lbs a week. Today, I had about 1100 calories according to fitday, so I guess today was considered a good day?? lol Anyway, I'm gonna bookmark it and use it on a daily basis! It's amazing!

Thanks M2M! And tomorrow starts my new dance-exercise regimen. hehe Should be fun!

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Monica
 
Monica counting calories is a little overwhelming at first but as you do it you tend to remember what foods have how much, and if you can decipher labels well enough you can get by with just about anything. I think the meats are the hardest things to calculate because here in the states they tend to say something like so many calories per serving and under servings it will say something like varies. So the only way to get through it an be accurate would be a food scale but I will find how much the package weighs and just calculate it that way. Everything else though is pretty easy....
 
Hey, I'm sorry to hear about your mom, but you're doing great. If you have a craving for ice cream and manage to regulate your intake to half a serving (and low fat to boot) that's nothing to be ashamed of--that's a victory. I go through about a pint and a half of ice cream per week and I still get all the good foods in and keep my calorie intake to about 1300 to 1700 calories per day. I have more wiggle room with my large frame, but nothing is really horrible if it is in moderation.
 
Hey Monica,

I too hope your mum will be better soon, nothing is more stressfull than worries.
Anyway, I just wanted to give you some snack-prevention-tips. I try to keep my apartment as free of the bad things as possible. Other than that, to prevent me from raiding the cubbords when there is something there I shouldn't eat I brush my teeth. Then it taste nasty, and takes the fun out of it... Well, I hope you have a nice day.
 
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