Milas diary

Mila2

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Ok, lets see, I am gonna start this diary today although I started my diet yesterday.
Yesterday I managed to eat a lot less than usual, I had
-breakfast: muesli with light yoghurt
-lunch: small pasta salad
-snack: 3 thin rice cakes
-dinner: half a cup of soup, half a green salad, apple and green tea.

About 1000 calories, so that was good (although I don't want to stop eating, anorexia is not an option), also I started with my sit ups. I study and work so I need to start exercising slowly so that I don't ache too much and can go on with normal life (I nanny 4 children, so I need to be able to lift the kids up). I feel so weak from not doing any sports so I am really afraid to start exercising.

The library I am in is cloing, so I will write more tomorrow or on Monday.
I do feel better with myself since yesterday which is quite a start,
love Mila
 
Welcome to the forum!! Congrats on starting a diary - a big step in the right direction. Anorexia is never an option. And actually - your calories may be a tad low? Have you started a meal plan? How are you going to reach your goals?

<- great tools to get you started.

Have a great weekend & good luck!! :D:D
 
yeah i know my calorie intake was low that day, I would like to stay on 1500 kcal per day actually, if i do less, especially on days when i don't work out that is ok, but I am very frequently ill and I don't want to trigger more sickness by eating too little!!

i have been doing a great deal of thinking these days and I want to write that down but have no time today,
thanx for reading me, Mila
 
ok well lets see, I am first gonna write a bit about what I have decided to do to lose weight.
I have made myself a list of YES, NO and SOMETIMES food I can eat:
Under NO is: sugar (as in sugar in tea etc... I can't avoid all sugars), red meat (I never eat it anyway), sweets (choc and co), pastries, greasy things (crisps, chips, anything fried except for stir fried vegetables).
Under SOMETIMES: pasta and rice (I don't want to eat them daily), certain fruit (bananas and grapes), juices, sauces (I am a lover of oyster sauce) and my absolute favourite and hardest thing to quit: ice tea!
Under YES: vegetables (raw, boiled and lightly stir fried), most fruit, white meat, fish, soups, broth, low fat yoghurt, muesli and granola bars (in small amounts) and lots and lots of tea (oolong tea).

to be honest this is not a great change in my life, I am one of those really really healthy people foodwise (more out of health issues and fear of the unknown than because of the actual healthyness of the food).
i don't drink, i don't smoke, i don't drink coffee, i don't eat in junk food restaurants (I am afraid of germs (i know i am a nutcase!) in small take away food places, and i get tummy aches from the food at mcd, KFC etc...), i don't eat red meat (because I am from argentina and am used the best meat in the world and british meat is not yummy!), i don't eat ready meals and i cook almost all the meals myself from fresh vegetables.

My problem is that i am a snacker! i eat normal amounts of food at the table, even little in comparison with my superthin sister and my boney brother, but i love to munch in between meals! even when i could eat a plate of nice good food or a hundred tiny things like pretzels, granola bars, chocolate, cookies etc... i will go for the second option!! that is what i want to change! my main meals are actually fine, although I have changed my breakfast from cookies and juice to tea and low fat yoghurt with muesli. oh and since i need to eat lunch at the lab i am currently working at (project for university) i used to eat a lot of sandwiches. I have changed that and now bring in my own food, which I think is great (and also I don't trust the sandwich people not to put germs in my food!!!).
without snacking i easily consume under 1500 kcal! i am trying to get more healthy cals in and all the yucky ones out!

for sports my plan is to go to the gym 3 times a week, ideally take a class (probably pilates and yoga, and later when I have some muscle to train i want to do some cardio boxing) and do an hour of aerobics on the machines (although they bore me to death!) every time. once a week i take a dance class at a professional dancing school (where i will be embarrassed at first i am sure!!!) .
since I have a belly to get rid of and no muscles underneath it i am doing sit ups (well trying to do) before going to bed and after waking up. I have started with 10 and 10 (i know how lame i sound... this from a person who used to do 7 hours of dancing a day, every day!!!!) and am working up to do 150 and 150 by increasing by 10, when i feel too tired i stay at that level for a few days and then increase by 5.

i really hope to be able to pull through with this, i really wish to be thin this time around and i think that is what i need, but i have always been very lazy and i give up easily so i need you people help me go through with this!
next time, tomorrow I hope, i will write a bit about me, about my experience as a dancer and about my experience with being chubby.
love, mila
 
hi,
so today was a great day, I managed to eat little fat and a lot of fruit and finally moved my big bum to a 2 hour dance class and man, i loved it!! i missed it so much, but i had forgotten i missed it. i started at beginners but i might be going to a higher level next week! if i had money i would love to dance 2, 3, 4 times a week, but since i don't i will simply have to take 1 and go to the gym the other 4 days. which brings me to my bad horrible day yesterday!

ok most of you probably know the feeling, so i get to the gym, first time ever, i am sort of scared, i go to the changing room to find out the lockers work with keys you have to get at the desk, but i am embarrassed to go and get them, so i just leave my stuff lying around there.
while i change 2 teeny slim girls are talking about how good today's work out was, i hate working out in gyms, especially on my own, but i think it will be the only way of losing weight so i will have to learn to love it.
i change and look in the mirror and this huge huge woman looks back (she has my face unfortunately)!!! probably it was just the direct comparison of me in sports clothing (huge trousers, sort of baggy t shirt) and them in their nice modellike outfits, but man... when did i turn into a whale??
then i go in and the gym is full, the music that blares out of the boxes is atrocious (drum and base kind of thing that gives me a headache). i go to a bike, since that is the only machine i actually know how to use, adjust it and go on the "weight loss" mode of the bike.
i am sweating in about 4 seconds (i sweat a lot, and i sweat very ofte, in fact i am sweating right now!!) and quite tired and watching all these thin people work out happily and going like "man today is great, i feel so energised" and i just feel drained. i feel so ugly and huge and disgusting! i don't know how anyone would like, let alone love me. i will never be really thin and my tummy will never be perfectly flat and even if i do get thin i will have to struggle every single day to stay that way. i just feel like crying while i pedal unhappily to horrible music in front of lots and lots of good looking people.
after half an hour i give up, change as quickly as possible and leave very close to tears (i actually cried for a good part of the rest of the evening).

my friends are really helpful though and they have promised to come to the gym with me so i don't feel so alone and horrible, and my boyfriend (who used to be fat when he was a kid but lost all his weight as a teenager and is thin now, actually he is hot!!!!) told me i could do it and being sad would not help, i should get angry and put that anger into the work out and work harder with the anger.

i am so afraid of failing this! that is the reason i never started! i am so afraid of finding out that i cannot lose weight, that it doesn't matter if i eat nothing and work out 10 hours a day i will not lose the weight, that i am destined to be bigger and bigger and then be one of those women where you don't even notice when she is pregnant because it makes no difference. i am sorry if i insult anyone here, but i am really afraid of this!

but to get back to good things: today i feel much better, dancing did me good, my friend has just called to say we are going to the gym together tomorrow evening (i want to go at least an hour every day if i am not going to a dance class), i have done a good job on my diet plan, i was not the biggest and ugliest person in todays class and i even still look like i can do something (if not the teacher would not have sent me to a higher level).

when i danced full time i was 15 pounds less and i was still the biggest person in my professional dance classes. my bones are very light and i always had pinch fat, but i was flexible and some of my teachers said i had a special glow, i transmitted something and that is how dance felt to me. i hope that self confidence comes back soon, i feel very insecure since i know how much i gained.
i will write more about it (dance, self confidence and the lack of it) some other day (maybe some day we will have internet at home...), i always want to do it, but never manage, i don't want my posts to be horribly long, although they already are, so i will leave it at this for today.
i feel really good about my weight loss diary, i thought i would be upset when no one replied but it is more for me than for anyone else and it is helping me a lot!
love mila
 
being new to a gym; it feels as if everyone is watching you. That feeling passes and soon you will be walking up to the desk just wrapped in a towel telling them you forgot your key lol..... ok, maybe that is just what I would do lol................
 
Hi this is me again,
I just come from the gym, I have started this weight losing with quite a lot of sports (compared to absolute zero that I have been doing for the past year), my weekly plan right now looks like this:
Monday: gym for 1 hour (bike and that thingie that is sort of like a mix between going up steps and walking... ok not very specific i know, plus some stretching and toning), 20 sit ups twice a day.
Tuesday: contemporary dance class (lasts 2 hours), 25 sit ups twice a day.
Wednesday: stretch and tone class (1 hour), some extra stretching and abs training (maybe 20 minutes), 30 sit ups twice a day.
Thursday: Pilates class (1 hour), 20 minutes bike, 20 minutes stretching and abs, 35 sit ups twice a day.
Friday: yoga (1 hour), 20 minutes bike and 20 min stretching and abs, 40 sit ups twice a day
Saturday: 1 hour of roller blading pushing a stroller with a 2 year old in it(I guess pushing a stroller is part of the exercise since not only my legs do work but also my arms), 45 sit ups twice a day
Sunday: off! and recover from that week! plus 50 sit ups twice a day.

ok that is this week. all of the following will probably be similar (hopefully I will be able to maintain that amount of sports and not chicken out like I usually do), only that monday and tuesday might change around. oh and the sit ups, as you can see are going up by 10 a day.

I have been waniting to share my dance experience for a while and I have some time now so here it goes:
i started dancing when i was tiny, maybe 3 or 4 and then stopped after a little bit because the teacher scared me. took it up again at 14 (after I quit martial arts which was very hard one on one training 3 times a week), this time doing jazz and tap and contemporary. later i started taking ballet although I had to work 10 times harder bcause everyone else had started at 3 or 4.
At 17, after finishing school, I did a dancing degree, I had ballet, contemporary ballet, jazz, tap and funky lessons, plus some strange classes like "jumps", "pirouettes", "toes" and "walk". I enjoyed it although it was very hard and I was very tired most evenings, I danced about 5 to 7 hours a day 5 and sometimes even 6 days a week. At 19, already applying for "real" colleges, like my mom calls them, I joined a musical, as background sort of and enjoyed it inmensely!
When I started doing full time dance I was already chubby (well I had always been...), I thought so much sport would slim me down but it didn't (I did eat a lot of wrong stuff between classes I guess...). I didn't care much although of course I dreamed of being thinner. Had I been thinner they would have chosen me to do more roles maybe, they would have let me do pas de deux (when two dancers dance like a couple thing... but you almost always need to be lifted! so nothing for me, they always chose the 90 pound girls over me at 130!!), I could have maybe stayed in dance... but well I loved my time there and I do like my life now after it.
But it is hard not being like everyone in that kind of thing and also sharing about it... when people talk about their hobbies and I say I danced they look at me like they don't believe me ("yeah sure the fat girl was a ballerina... hahahaha").
My dance teachers never talked around my weight (and as said I was 130 pounds at 5''3/5''4 so i wasn't huge!!), they told me "if you are that fat you need to make up for it and be special in other ways", but they also saw things in me (in contemporary dance my teacher said I was gifted and had I started earlier I could have been huge on stage! and they must have seen something to even admit me into the course) and sometimes did see past it ("you don't suck because you are fat mila, you suck because you suck!" nice quote from my jazz teacher after i got the 100th jump wrong!).
I think that dance is a hard sport for people who are no lightweights, and the pressure there is huge, we had so many anorexics in that place!! seemed to be a factory of them!
but i really hope that some chubby kid saw me dancing (like I saw the most beautiful dancer who was well bigger than all of her counterparts) and thought: "man she is great! i can be great like her! no matter if i am not perfectly thin and slim!"

ok that is it for today, i have a 2 hour singing ensemble meeting (i love singing too, generally music, it is my passion!!) and then i can finally go home, tomorrow i will be so sore from todays work out, i can already feel it, but i know that if i work through the soreness the pain will disappear!
love mila
 
Hey there and welcome to the forum! You'll find
everything you need here in the forum and meet
gr8 people along the way! Have a gr8 day:)
 
Welcoem to the forum family and looks like your doing awsome and on the right track!
 
Hey,
yesterday I ate some chocolate and feel guilty for it... also I want more!!!!!!! ptherwise I am doing ok, didn't go to the gym yesterday cause I am a little bit ill, will make up for it somehow!
thanx for the nice replies, I will write one of my megaposts later or tomorrow,
bye mila
 
Look at my ticker!!!!! I have lost 2 pounds on my first week (also i have lost my mobile phone which is a very sad thing....)!! I am so happy, I really did not expect the weight to come off since I did cheat on and before the weekend, and because of coldness did not go roller blading (also my 2 year old was not up for it! she just wanted to watch lion king!!! 100000000000000000 times I have seen that movie in the last few months!) , because of a cold did not go to my classes on friday and ate 2 cookies!!!!
Bad me! But as of Saturday evening I am 2 pounds less heavy than a few weeks ago (and that was in the morning, I will start to weigh myself in always saturday evening since I have no scale at home and will use the one at work!).
Ok have a jazz concert I sing at tonight, have fun all you lovely people, I will sing and then mourn my beloved phone (with it I lost almost every picture from the last year of "my" childreb, something I will never get back!!!!!), love Mila
 
Congrats on the 2 lbs. You are working hard and the reward is definately worth it.
Good luck this week! Happy Monday
 
hey,
I am feeling so down, this week has started crappy, well more like last week ended crappy.
i really really miss my phone, i know it sounds stupid, but i do. it had all the pictures from my babies in it and it was the way i communicate with my bosses, so without a phone i will have no work for quite a while.
not working is bad because i have no money left on my account (well i do have 20 pounds on it... but that is nothing) and i have no hopes of getting any soon (good side is i can't eat much since i have no money to buy food!).
but also i am going to invest 8 pounds of that into a dance class because i need something to cheer me up!

but now i need to also go to the police so that my insurance might cover the phone which it probably won't, since I read the fine print on my insurance contract yesterday and apparently if you leave it in a room to which others have access they don't cover it, and being in the computerroom of the university it will probably not be covered.

ok now to the actual weight loss part... yesterday I ate:
breakfast: muesli and low fat yoghurt (300 cal)
lunch: pasta with a little bit of olive oil and sweetcorn (i guess around 400 -500 cal)
snack: apple (50 cal)
dinner: salad (a nice one in a restaurant though, with lots of veggies and a little bit of mozzarella and half an egg and some italian ham on it) (500 cal?)
that gives me about 1250 to 1350 cal. quite good i think. all i drink is tea (unsugared) and water.

today i ate and will eat:
breakfast: muesli with low fat yoghurt (300 cal)
lunch: chicken and avocado sandwich and some carrots (400 cal)
snack: apple (50 cal)
dinner: soup (almost 400 cal, according to the pack)
that gives me 1150 cal... which is fine, I don't want to be below 1000 and not above 1500.

I have started craving stuff, i crave chocolate, although I had never been a big fan of, I crave very salty stuff constantly, which might just be because my water intake is higher than ever and when I am home I crave just munching on things (as you can read up there one gazillion words before this one, I am a snacker and that is why I am chubby mcchubster (and because my metabolism unfortunately seems to like me this way!)).
to get over my cravings i have been eating a lot of sugarfree gum. gum gives me a bit of a headache, but it is the lesser evil i guess.

also WARNING TMI!! i poop green since i started the tea thing. which is funny i guess, it certainly does not bother me. I drink between a litre and a litre and a half of oolong tea every day, with my food mainly. apparently it is great for losing weight. i do not think it is the tea that does it for me (well 2 pounds is not a great loss... but anyhow), but i love tea and thought it was worth trying. i read some medical research (i study a medical degree) and apparently it does prevent mice, who were genetically modified to be obese from becoming obese which i think is a great thing!!! you can read this up on pubmed.com (I am not just advertising i am trying to share with my peers what i read... i hope i am not breaking any forum laws!).

ok i have to teach in like 25 minutes and have not yet prepared for this. it is just 2ce a week for an hour, so i always prepare last minute, love Mila
 
Hello,
well my food plan is going well, yesterday I ended up having broth and some noodles in it which was not even 300 cals, so even less than i thought and I was still stuffed which is great. I had to go to the loo a lot afterwards obviously, all this tea and soup and broth is really making my bladder work!!
But my sports plan is pretty much in the cellar!!! I did not do anything yet this week, tomorrow i will be doing 3 hours, but that won't make up for being a lazy bum all week.
I just feel so upset about england right now, I only moved here 2 years ago (2 years and 3 months to be honest) and i have been let down by so many things here. i know it is wrong to complain when it is not your own (that even goes for countries) but i have been let down by every sector here. i work my a** off to live in this city that is so expensive, i spend a good 50 pounds a month (that is 100 dollars) for public transport, and am still late constantly, because there seem to be like 2 buses in every line and therefore they only come by like 2ce a day. the other day i honestly waited for over 50 minutes in combintaion to get to my lab which is only 35 minutes away but I need to take 2 buses and both were around 25 minutes waiting time.
i am unlucky enough to have been born with severe asthma and due to a salmonella at age 14 suffer from autoimmune disease of my GI tract, this is called crohn's disease. this makes me a frequent vistor to doctors. the healthcare here is horrible!!!! i have tried every single social security (National health System NHS) dr in my districts dr.s office and they all suck, they fail to prescribe my medicines, they order tests in like 14 weeks when i am in acute pain at that moment, etc...
i had my phone stolen, the police was extremely unfriendly and would not file an investigation for it (I need them to file it for insurance purposes) until i give them the names of everyone who might have taken it (which is like 400 people, most of whom i don't know and some of them are my friends). then the office that apprently it was handed into was even more unfriendly, they locked me out of it on purpose and when i finally got to speak to an incredibly unfriendly woman, I got very frustrated and tried to hold my tears back she told me to "stop looking at [her]" and to "go away". how can someone in a university office be so rude?? and so unhelpful?? i was not accusing them, i just wanted to double and triple check in that office because that phone was very expensive!!

ok so because of all this situation with me hating the country I live in, i don't really feel like working out! I still watch what I eat and eat very little, but ok amount of cals, but i feel like if i go the gym it will be even worse than usually and if i go dancing when I am depressed it will just not be fun and i pay a lot of money for those classes, so i don't want to waste it with not having fun!

I will go tomorrow, hopefully, I want to go and do my pilates, for 1 hour and then to a dance class for 2, so i will get a good work out there, but i need to check first if i need to go to the police again, which totally interrupts my day!
also i am going to go friday and saturday i want to go blading!

ok lots of love to all of you. I really like this forum (although i have not yet had a lot of feedback to this diary, but as said earlier, i do this for me not for anyone else!), i am sorry my posts are getting more and more depressed... but i am just having a bad week i think. i try to see all the good things but there are days when it is hard to find them,
love mila
 
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i had my phone stolen, the police was extremely unfriendly and would not file an investigation for it (I need them to file it for insurance purposes) until i give them the names of everyone who might have taken it (which is like 400 people, most of whom i don't know and some of them my friends). then the office that apprently it was handed into was even more unfriendly, they locked me out of it on purpose and when i got very frustrated and tried to hold my tears back they told me to "stop looking at them" and to "go away". how can someone in a university office be so rude?? and so unhelpful??

If the police (or any officials) really spoke like that and treated u that way I'd report them straight away. You pay taxes for a reason, and you have a right to know what's happening. They also have a duty to do what they can to help u, including giving any information that may help you put in an insurance claim. If they talked to me that way I'd be fuming. :mad:

Anyway, apart from that, I know the feeling at the mo with not wanting to work out -I swear the sudden cold weather has done awful things to my motivation. But try to stay positive yeh? :)
 
I just did my Spark thing and I wanted to post it here before I lose it and forget it:
Nutrition
Eat a high fiber/high protein breakfast

Eat 2 fruits or veggies

Eat 4 servings of complex carbs

Don’t drink soda

Don’t eat in front of the TV

Pack your lunch

Drink 8 8oz cups of water

Track calories eaten

Eat some sort of fresh produce

Exercise
Get 10 minutes of cardio exercise

Get 8 hours of sleep

Do something active outdoors

Stretch for 10 minutes

Go for a walk

Track calories burned

Work in the yard

Do 15 minutes of exercise while watching TV

Use a stress/squeeze ball

Use 1 piece of fitness equipment

Motivation:
Tell 1 person about your goals

Write in a journal

Collect another motivational picture

Post a message on the boards

Read from a motivating story or book

Reward yourself

Read an inspirational quote

Listen to a get-up-and-go song every day

Talk to a positive friend or family member

Give yourself a 5-minute mental pep talk

That is everything they suggest, I just wanted to remember it in the future!
 
ok here is my post from today...
i am still lazy. I want to go danicng because I know once I am there I will love it, but it is such a hassle to get there (like 10 min. walk... ok it is really no hassle to go there). i am just plain lazy.
I ate too much too...
Breakfast: 200 cal
Lunch (at 4 PM unfortunately, had 1 mio things to do): 500 cal plus juice + 200... so around 700 cals!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!
Dinner will be just a salad, so I hope no more than 300 cals (with tuna but a whole can only has 40 cals).
That makes 1200 cals. Not bad actually! I might eat an apple at some point too though!
I slept over at mikes and therefore had no tea today hence the juice, also since i have no money the juice is one of the bad sugary from concentrate cheap juices. yuck!

i am a bit over my london hate problem! and i have looked through the spark list and i actually already do everything on that list nutritionwise, except for the 4 high carb meal things. now i am gonna aim to get most of the sporty ones on my daily schedule as well. i feel thinner, but that is most probably an illusion, my trousers are a bit wide, but that always happens if i have worn them for a while so... i still get all excited and happy about it though!!!

ok am gonna go, read some other people's diaries... man i love love love that!
love, mila
 
This diet is not working!
I am hungry, therefore cranky (yes I am 3!), have muscle aches and look as fat, or even fatter, as before!
My belly is huge, my legs never don't touch, if you know what I mean!
I did go dancing yesterday, but was then invited to a thanksgiving dinner and just screwed the whole calorie thing and ate loads!
And today I am still like 5 hours away from dinner and I am starving! Also I didn't pack lunch so I had a sandwich that must have been at least 500 cals, probably more, although it had no mayo or anything like that, just ham and egg. But the bread was white!
This is exactly why I didn't want to start dieting, because it makes me cranky and unhappy!
Ok I just ate 2 bananas, so at least I am less hungry, but that is like 200 more cals. I might just dine a salad, with tuna in it, around 300 cals. Totals at 1200 cals.
I am too inpatient for diets, I guess I should not expect my belly size to go down in 2 weeks of diet (healthy diet and not starve yourself and only drink water diet), but I feel like there are no results.
I feel ugly, I feel fat and I feel unable to lose this weight.
Bad day sorry, Mila
P/s: seeing as I have a crap day today, I would really like to get some sort of feedback, I feel like no one likes me here. I know there are like 7 mio diaries and everyone wants some feedback, and I do write the longest boringest posts ever, but I feel pretty harsh today!
 
How have I missed your diary? :confused: I'm trying to get around all the regular ones to at least say hi (many more to go!) but I must of missed yours! sorry! :eek:

Cheer up Mila, the World's a good'un. You have song, music and dance in your life, friends who care about you, a boyfriend who talks sense and a wonderful 2 year old who seems to like Lion King! lol

You can do this - you know you can and I know you can. Progress will be slow because there is no easy cure to the problems we have. I forget whose signature I've seen it on, but it's a proverb I've remembered since I was told it many years ago; The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.

One step at a time is how you'll beat this. Weigh in regularly and over time you'll see all those little 1 and 2 pound reductions add up into something really special. We'll never see ourselves suddenly get thinner it's a gradual thing and beating the mentality that tells us otherwise if half the fight.

Keep fighting with us, Mila. Together we can do it :)

ps, now I'm here, you aint gonna get rid of me ;) :p :D
 
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