making the change and maintaining it - sounds so simple

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silash

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Hi all I am new to this - I feel a bit strange writing to a bunch of strangers but after reading some of your posts I am really inspired.


So I have a history which many of you can probably identify with on some level or other, over weight for most of my life (all 31 years of it) except for a few brief periods where I starved my self and lost too much weight to fast only to put it all back on + more in half the time.


I am an emotional eater, I lost a parent at a young age which lead to a LOT of emotional eating, I eat when I am sad, I eat when I am angry, I eat when I am happy, I eat to drown a bad day, I eat to celebrate a special occasion... I think you get it.


Emotional eating aside I really do love food. I love to cook and bake and I love to prepare meals for the people that I love. How can I deal with one with out giving up the other.


Last week was a good week, I signed up for a studio that has a large range of classes for women only and also for weekly meetings with a dietitian. I followed a good eating plan, tried to eat something small every few hours, exercised 4 times and my only cheat was a piece of birthday cake and a glass of Cava at a birthday party (as opposed to what would usually be 3 or 4 glasses of Cava and probably that many pieces of cake). Yesterday I went for a weigh-in and I had lost 1.7kg (sorry pounds confuse me). I was so happy and felt motivated and wonderful.


Today I woke up worried, worried that this is just another phase, worried that I can't make a real change, worried that my goals are unrealistic and worried that I love food too much to ever reach a healthy weight.


So I came here looking for inspiration and I found it - THANK YOU ALL.


I also found a wonderful blog http://www.canyoustayfordinner.com/ her writing is wonderful and witty and inspiring and what I like most is they way she has changed her relationship with food.


So before this post reaches book length I will sign off for now, I have much more to say and I feel like even if no one reads my posts it will be good for me to get things out. If you have made it this far thanks for your staying power.


So here it is:


Starting Weight Current Weight First Goal

105.9kg.....:.....:.....:.....104.2kg.....:.....:......99.9kg......:.....:.....:.....:.....


Recent resolutions:

I will do some sort of exercise every day this week

First goal is to go below the 100kg mark

I will never again take the elevator unless absolutely necessary

Tonight I will take photos to record this process (because I do love a good before and after :) )


Wishing you all the best of luck

xxxxx

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Welcome silash! :hurray:


Congrats on your recent weight loss! That's fantastic
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I know what you mean about emotional eating. I was the same way. I lost a parent as well when I was younger and it's so unbelievably difficult to cope with. I fell into despair for such a long time afterward, but you know, your parents always want the best for you. They would never want to see you unhappy or to give up. So what you're doing now is certainly going to make your loved one proud!
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When it comes to balancing preparing food for your family while avoiding temptation yourself, that's just something that comes with time
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I enjoy preparing food as well, but you just have to remember where you want to be in life and that it's a journey that is a life-long commitment. Maybe you could start experimenting with swapping in more healthy ingredients in the usual foods you make, just so if you do succumb to temptation (which we all do at times), you won't feel so discouraged. Just a thought
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Like, for example, I swapped out using grape jelly in my peanut butter sandwiches with apple butter. It has a fewer calories and less sugar, but still tastes yummy :biggrin:


Anyway, again, welcome and best of luck to you in the future, silash! :biggrin:
 
And now the dreaded moment.......... the before picture.

I can't bring myself to show my face.


Taking these pictures or more so looking at them afterwards was so hard. How is it that I see my reflection in the mirror every day but I never really SEE until I see a photograph?

It's like in my head I am so much smaller and when I look in the mirror it warps what I see but a photograph can not be warped.

Do you guys get that?


well any way with out further ado :
 
Silash

I understand what you are saying. I lost over 30 pounds about 3 years ago....I looked in the mirror and didnt feel great about myself, didnt think I was overweight though....but seeing myself in pictures is what really did it for me.
 
First off, congratulations on setting some resolutions and deciding to make a change in your life. Sometimes that can be the hardest part. Secondly, you're not alone. I for one love, Love, LOVE to cook and bake (oh, and eat too, I'm really good at that). I eat for all the same reasons you mentioned and it's really hard to break those habits but it can be done and if you want it bad enough you'll make it happen. It probably won't be easy but you'll be so proud of yourself once you get to your first goal and see the changes in your body you'll be even more determined to stick with it until the end. Anyway, good luck with your journey and never forget that if all these people can do it, then so can you!
 
Thanks for your response it's good to know that it's not just me
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I really hope that soon I will have an in-between picture where I will be able to see some results.

I truly hope that I will one day be able to post an after picture here.
 
I really understand what you are going through and all the questions you are asking yourself.


You really need to know that this time WILL be different. You've made up your mind and you're ready to work hard, right? And you're finding really good support here on this form, too. So- you have the tools to make it work.


I know there are obstacles. I, too, have struggled with emotional eating...and still do! but I know you can beat this.


Another thing- you are starting at a very similar weight to where I did back in early 2010. And from the photos, our body type looks similar- your before pics seem so much like mine! (How tall are you?) At any rate, I look forward to seeing your progress pics and then the final results.


Best of luck!!
 
Thanks for the encouragement and support Rox. It is amazing the boost I feel when I see someone has replied to something I have posted. When I first saw your post last night I was in the middle of convincing my self that I did not need a snack because I was not hungry - I only "felt like" one. The minute I saw your post it was no longer a question I felt a wave of motivation and no longer "felt like" a snack. - so thanks for that :)


It is a huge encouragement to hear that you started around the same weight as me, it helps me to believe even more that I can do it. Although like you said it is very hard for me to even imagine looking as amazing as you do.


I had a look at the photos at the beginning of your thread and I see what you mean about us having similar body types - I am 162cm tall which according to the google converter is 5.3 ft so I am slightly shorter than you.


I will continue to post and I will stick with the plan and I hope that soon I will have results to share here.


Keep well and be happy :)
 
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