Made a decision to respect myself today. Any advice on how to carry that out?

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Im 18, male, and have been tubby/fat and very unfit all my life. Of course Iv been promising myself to change for a while now, but you know how it is "Ill diet tomorrow!!!". But Iv now decided to change myself. Im sick of not being comfortable with my body. I was out in a shop today buying something cold, as Its VERY hot here at the moment (UK), when a group of boys about my age were in the shop buying stuff, all topless and fit looking, enough to impress any girl. They were all quite slim and toned, which appeals to me very much as i am quite uh, not slim, just, fat and soft. And i get worn out walking just 5 minutes.

So Iv decided that now is the time to get in shape and lose the flab and start living a proper life. Im on a course for health problems and an early grave here, but it changes now. Naturally people want to look like brad pitt asap, but im alot more realistic. Givin my college and friends, i dont think il have the time to look like brad pitt, although it would be a nice idea, it'd get me a girl friend for sure!

Anyway, so how do i do it? Diet and exercise sounds good to me, but with all these atkins, carb counting, calorie counting etc, it can be very confusing! I just want, like, slim and toned. Is there a good healthy diet for it, i dont want to be doing anything that could hurt me, Im staring at you cabbage soup diet!

Well, im 6 foot and about 14 stone, which my doctor says isnt too bad on the charts, well even my doctor agrees that there is alot of flab on me, well he called it excess fat and said spare tyre or somthing is common and nothing to be ashamed of.

I picked up some dumbells from a fitness shop, plastic sand filled ones, two sets, light and heavier. Im not rolling in money :(.

So what should I eat and what exercise should i do? Im VERY unfit mind.

And is it ok to come to these boards for help and support, god forbid my friends know im watching my weight, i'd never hear the end of it!
 
Wow...great website. That should help you out...and remember it takes time so don't get discouraged stay active...when people say they're tired and that's why they aren't active enough but if they excercised they'd feel better...physically and mentally.
 
What exactly is a stone? The first step in realizing weight loss/workout program is recognizing that you are unhappy with yourself and that you want to make a change. Once you do that, you are devoted and will do whatever it takes to get your dream done. Just keep it in mind, and have willpower (hard for everyone).
 
mmmmmm, you just told us you made a decision to respect yourself. There's no half-way. Respect yourself enough to be committed to enduring whatever it takes to reach your health and fitness goals...even if it's ribbing from your buddies.

It'll take lots of time, and lots of motivation, like any important achievement. Just keep in mind that lots of people have done it, and none of them were anything special. They just did the right things consistently. What does that mean? Commitment. When you screw up...and you will...get back up and start again. Immediately. Every time you even hesitate, ask yourself "what am I losing right now by not acting?". If you're honest with yourself, the answer to that question is all the motivation you'll ever need.

Don't try to do it all in a week. To quote an overused cliche, "Rome wasn't built in a day." Neither is a body that will earn you the love of every woman you meet. I lost over 120 lbs of fat..and then put on 30 of muscles. Right now I'm 5'10", I weigh 170 lbs. Two years ago I was approaching 280 pounds. It's not easy, but it's not hard, either, if you stay focused. Just keep the faith..and remember why you're doing it. The real reason...yeah, you'll add years to your life..and all that healthiness propaganda. Do it so you can walk to the store without breaking and a sweat; so the ladies will love you.

One more time...just keep it real, and keep it focused, mmmm. Write things down. Tell everyone you know...make it so that backing out of your committment to yourself is not an option. Good luck.

By the way, I'm the same age as you. Good for you for realizing your needs in time to salvage an actualized life. I can recommend all sorts of resources for you if you like. I've become something of an expert on this sort of thing, or at least I think to think I have.




SRV524:
A stone is an old-fashioned unit of weight..I believe it represents approximately 20 lbs. Our friend here must be british..ah,yes, he did say he is. It's sortof like a score, which is 20, as a dozen is 12. I believe it's his bashful way of saying he weighs 280 lbs?


Oh, here's something my mentor once told me, I think you'll recognize the significance of it to your struggle:

"Don't be ashamed of who you are, be ashamed of what you are not willing to do to be who you should be"

[I had to go back and edit because I mis-quoted the "over-used cliche"...how embarrasing. :D ]
 
mmmmmmm - You started this thread a few weeks ago. Are you still checking the site? Any updates to report?

I think this is a very good place to turn for help, but you should also tell as many people as possible. It helps keep you motivated if you know others are going to be looking for progress too.

Changing your life-style has to be a 100% thing. No half-ass'n it.
aliquisdeus's quote was right on, now go be the guy you want to be.

Good luck and know that we're all in this thing together.

Oh and 1 stone = 14lbs.

DM
 
Oh, my bad about the stones comment. I should stop believing things I read in fiction novels. I really should. :D and yeah, do keep us updated..I love success stories.
 
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