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timezup

timezup

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.... when will the *click* happen for me??? When will I finally have had enough of week after week, year after year, starting on Monday? I can't stand my extra weight. I can't stand the way I feel and look in clothes. It's keeping me from living my life the way I want to. I think about it ALL the time, even as I shovel the bad-for-me things into my mouth.

I've had three or four good false alarms this month. Went out and got new cross trainers, loaded up the IPOD, registered myself with the Weight Loss Forum and an online calorie tracking site, grocery shopped for a wide array of healthy foods, and here I still sit... on my ass... surfing the web for my *AHA* moment.

Why? Am I depressed? Probably. Am I depressed because I'm fat? Or am I fat because I'm depressed.... either way, I'm sure a little exercise will make me feel better. I KNOW what I need to do, I just don't understand why I'm fighting myself tooth-and-nail on this. :banghead:

Everyone here is so peppy and positive... which is great- I'm jealous! Am I the only downer in the bunch???
 
timezup said:
Everyone here is so peppy and positive... which is great- I'm jealous! Am I the only downer in the bunch???
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i hear you...

i have been on and off the weight loss routine myself... i start exercising.. i start eating healthy.. things go well and suddenly i am back to square one where i am eating lousy food and skipping my work out and soon i put the weight back on... and dat feels worse than not working out in the first place...

i have asked this to myself many times before.. am i overweight because i am depressed, or am i depressed because i am overweight.. and i have found out that actually i am depressed because i am overweight.. so i need to lose sm weight to stop being so depresses...

there's an advantage of being so down... u can only go up from there :)

so welcome to the forum.. u have made ur first good move.., u can do only better from here.. read the stickies.. and instead of jumping into any routine.. make one little change at a time.. u'll be surprised to see how much weight u loose just by making little changes...

looking forward to c ur progress :D
 
Aww amazingly I know EXACTLY what you mean!!!

Yes I am one of the peppy girls always on a happy pill and I'm actually naturally like that. But when I was by myself and thought about my weight... KER-BLAM!... no more happy me.

Honestly, with me it just hit randomly... October 24th... I stared at the mirror and for once saw my body for what it was.
Depression didn't hit that time, or sadness... I became PISSED. I was sooo angry with myself for letting it go that far. I started crying because of it. I then contacted my friend in NY who did make the change and started using him as inspo... okay he's an ex but we're on good terms. (Plus I'm in that mode.. wait... HE did it.. SO CAN I!)

Another friend threw a brick at my head and told me to always remember BABY goals... it's not going to happen overnight (although I still wish it did!).

I stuck to baby goals and have been since that day.

My mood is better, I'm starting to look better but most importantly I'm starting to feel healthy.

Everyone has triggers... BIG triggers... mine was anger that I sulked into corners looking for excuses to not change even though I wanted to.

YOU can DO this. You just have to let yourself believe that you can. It's hard but that's life. Great accomplishments in life don't come easy but OH man when you start and realize that... you won't want to stop. Find something to help you keep going. It'll work and you'll get there! =)
 
I would say... stop waiting for a magic *click*.

Some days I'm exhausted, some days I have food I told myself I wouldn't eat, or I skip the workout I said I'd go on... But for me, I've found that the trick is not to let a mistake turn into failure.

Sure, I ate the office donuts I said I wouldn't eat - that doesn't mean that I'm doomed to never lose weight, and that I might as well give up. Getting upset about what you haven't done is probably not going to motivate you. Instead, think about the positive aspects - my trick has been to reframe it. "Oh well, I ate that bagel with cream cheese. Guess when I get home I'll be doing some extra cardio for the week."

It's a lot easier to be upbeat about it if you don't feel like it's all hopeless and you're so unmotivated that you'll never get there. Instead, when you find yourself feeling like that, get up and move around. Do some jumping jacks or something. Then feel good about the fact that you're actually doing something rather than just thinking about it.

Sure, it may not be much, but I find that being happy with myself for doing good things has been a much better motivator than feeling bad about all the things I don't do right.

Just my 2 cents anyway!
 
Hey Timezup,

I can relate. I allowed myself to get to the point where I hated clothes shopping because nothing I liked fit me, and those that did fit looked awful. I *knew* what I was supposed to do, as far as eating healthy and getting some exercise, but I was so down that I just couldn't motivate myself. It was as though I didn't believe in myself. There was always that voice in the back of my mind, telling me that even if I tried I'd just give up. I just accepted the fact that I was heavy and decided I may as well embrace it. Sure, it's great for us to accept ourselves the way we are, but it's better to pursue self-improvement.

Just like Gigs said - baby steps! I read this great article on MSN the other day, about 10 small things you can do to change your life. One of them was to do 10 sit-ups every day. You'll get a little stronger, your arms will tone up a bit, and all it takes is a couple minutes! I do them girly style, on my knees (for now).

Set little goals; don't worry about hitting the gym EVERY day or even 3 or 4 times a week. There's a great post on here with pointers on getting started (I'm still a newbie myself, so I don't have a link for ya; I'm pretty sure it's in the Newcomers forum, though). You'll get a ton of support here, for sure.

There was some study done by some super smart person some time ago, in which they found that an individual needs to repeat a new activity 13 times to make it a habit. It may take a while to get into the swing of things, but when you're there, you're going to LOVE it!

Good luck to you! If you ever need a motivational boost, WLF is the place to go!
 
Thank you, guys, for replying. I am starting to take positive steps, and that's a good change. Definitely have to get outside my comfort zone, which is always hard, but the last couple of days I've done a few things I didn't feel like doing at the time. (Work stuff, walking...)

I think I'm about ready to really break out of my comfort zone and post my before pictures and start my diary.... yikes...
 
I agree baby steps or what I like to call "turtle steps" will work best. I have a picture of a turtle to remind me that I can do ANYTHING if I break it down into the smallest possible turtle step. Exercise will lift your mood. Usually we think we must start an exercise program with an hour or more but that can be pretty overwhelming if you aren't used to any exercise. Can you commit to just FIVE minutes per day? Break that down into turtle steps like: schedule it on your calendar, put on your shoes, set the timer, head out the door etc. Once 5 minutes feels easy and like a habit add another 5 minutes. Soon you will be well on your journey to a lifetime of health. Remember the turtle won the race and you can too! Best of luck.
 
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timezup said:
.... when will the *click* happen for me??? When will I finally have had enough of week after week, year after year, starting on Monday? I can't stand my extra weight. I can't stand the way I feel and look in clothes. It's keeping me from living my life the way I want to. I think about it ALL the time, even as I shovel the bad-for-me things into my mouth.

I've had three or four good false alarms this month. Went out and got new cross trainers, loaded up the IPOD, registered myself with the Weight Loss Forum and an online calorie tracking site, grocery shopped for a wide array of healthy foods, and here I still sit... on my ass... surfing the web for my *AHA* moment.

Why? Am I depressed? Probably. Am I depressed because I'm fat? Or am I fat because I'm depressed.... either way, I'm sure a little exercise will make me feel better. I KNOW what I need to do, I just don't understand why I'm fighting myself tooth-and-nail on this. :banghead:

Everyone here is so peppy and positive... which is great- I'm jealous! Am I the only downer in the bunch???
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Its probably a combination, but especially depression. I know with me a may be mildly depressed when losing weight, but when I reach a plateau and realize how over weight I am (100 pounds over) I get depressed. Forget how much I have lost, I have a long road ahead of me. But don't look that far down the road, start day by day. The endorphins are incredible when you start walking, especially outside in the cool or warm air. Even during winter a walk can be nice.

Wishing you all the best!

Natsky
 
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