Loseforreal - My journey

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loseforreal

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This is my introduction post in another thread:

Hi Guys.

So I'm here because I'm fat. lol. And it's effecting my life and my relationships. My self confidence is so low that it's beginning to take a toll. So I've decided to stop feeling sorry for myself for once and begin this desparate change.

I'm 25, female, short. I've tried to lose weight in the past, but like many stories, I just gained it back. My plan is just to exercise. Keep exercise in my life, every single day. I'm not going to focus so much on food. I will count calories but if I slip I am not going to punish myself by falling off my plan and getting bigger. Damn! I'm almost 300 lbs. I will not let that happen.

I recently just lost my dad. He died from heart failure. He had many other issues that went along with poor eating and just poor decisions like smoking. I don't want that happening to me. I'm generally a positive person, so I take my dad's death as a wake up call for myself. Of him telling me to live the best life I can, like he'd want me to.

So here I am. I'm ready to get this weight loss going. I'm ready to build my self confidence and be the best person I can be. Heh. This post is a little cheesy, huh? I guess this stuff always is.

Plan​

Exercise: I really like the OnDemand workouts, so I'll probably be doing a variety of those and Taebo. Also walking. And eventually I'll probably join a gym to lift weights.

Food: Counting calories, but not being too hard on myself. The moment I start getting hard on myself, I notice, that's the moment I start to fail. I can't get angry at myself if I decide to have dessert at a restaurant. But I can't do it often, and I have to exercise soooo much afterwards.

Staying on Track: Keep coming here. I need lots of support. Also, putting my weight loss before anything else. Obsession is usually the way I lose weight. I have to keep on myself 24/7.
 
Hi Loseforreal,

I'm sorry about your loss. I know firsthand how hard it is. I lost both my parents by the time I was 17. I'm 42 now, and it scares me to death thinking what it would do to my kids if I weren't here. So, with that in mind, and the fact that I'm tired of being fat and unhealthy, I'm changing my life.

I think you'll find this place is great for support. I am so glad to have found this forum. I'm pretty new here too.

If you have the motivation, you can do anything! Do what works best for you. ;)

Welcome and good luck!
Anne
 
Thanks Anne.

That's tragic about your parents, I'm sorry!! I don't know what I have done to lose both parents at that age. Thankfully I still have my mom and she's a great support in everything that I do.

I'm looking forward to getting know the forum and people more. I'm looking forward to losing this weight.

:)
 
Howdy I wanted to 1st off say sorry for your loss I am a mommy of 4 and I want to stick around for a LONG time!2nd your plan looks like a good 1 just take baby steps 1 day at a time and jott down things you eat,the exersices you do ect and this will help ya get a better picture!GL to ya Tammy
 
Hi

I am sorry about your recent loss. Such events never help any of us to be good with our food so it is little surprise that your weight has gone up.

I have lived a long time at the size that you are now (I know that I had the same dress size fifteen years ago that I had at the start of the year). This would have been fine had I been comfortable in myself - but I was not. I only wish that I had dealt with it in my mid twenties as you are doing. Believe me - you deserve not to spend your late twenties, your thirties and your forties feeling this way as I have done. Learn from my mistakes.

I posted this in my diary for you - but wanted to be sure that you got it

Omega said:
Hi Loseforreal

Thank you for your kind comments.

Yes - it is true that I started my project in late February. I am not sure what date - but it was in the last week of February. I did not announce anything even to my husband about it - I just planned the meals with the concept of trying to be careful in mind, went out on a little walk in the daytime when he was at work and everytime he brought me in a sweet or chocolate biscuit - I said nothing and just put it in a drawer. At first when asked I said - "I will have it later". I had been on so many failed diets in the past and each time ended up heavier than before - so when the 1996 Weight Watchers attempt had the same result I swore never to diet again and to be content to try and maintain my size.

I did all that I could to ignore my size - I very rarely allowed photos to be taken and never weighed myself.

The first time that I weighed myself was 14th March when I weighed 20 st 7 lbs. I only know what my start weight was is because my doctor told me what I had weighed when she saw me in November last year. Since I believe that it is impossible that I will have lost weight over Christmas and a February trip to Wales where the hotel served huge meals - I have happily taken the November 21 stone weight as my start weight. It is perfectly possible that I may have actually been a few pounds heavier in late February.

I do weigh myself every day - and for quite a while I lost about a stone a month (14 pounds). This has reduced a little over the last couple of months.

I have a project spreadsheet where I record all the influencing factors that I can think of - what exercise I do, what I eat, what I weigh - and as soon as I detect a slow-down I try to take some form of action - because I like to see ongoing results.

I started off walking only very small distances - but I did build it up to insane distances - but this did not happen over night. At first I was more than happy if I get say 2/3 of a mile walked. I increased as I was able so I can see from my spreadsheet that by 14th March (when I got methodical and started the spreadsheet) I did a walk that was 1.6 miles. I did not try to walk particularly fast - but was happy to simply get from A to B. As time got on I noticed that I had naturally speeded up. On 13th April I had got up to 3.3 miles, by the start of May I was on 4.3 miles.

When I got my pedometer it was brilliant - not only did you include the little bits around the house which all contribute to burning calories - but it meant that if I went on other shorter walks I could get the "reward" of seeing a quantitive value for it. I found that this encouraged me to do more.

For a while - every time I hit a plateau or my loss rate slowed down - I just added a little bit to the distance that I would try and walk in the day.

I have no idea how many calories I get. I find counting calories counter-productive to my attempts at dieting. I think that it is a very valuable tool that assists 99.9% of people to effectively lose weight - but I am the exception. The problem lies in my psychology. I eventually eat more calories than I am allowed for the day or week and then I feel a complete failure. I then eat everything in site and stop making all efforts. I have failed so many times at this point. If I am undecided as to whether I should eat something I check out how many calories are in it and that often helps me to decide - but generally I eat what I believe is a balanced diet (I get protein, fruit, vegetables, cereal and milk each day and some fat a couple of times a week) and I try to be moderate in my requirements whilst never getting hungry. I aim to drink 2 litres of water each day. I list in the diary everything that I have eaten in the day. I am generous with my portions so when I talk of a handfull - I mean a really big handfull plonked on a plate.

I do still use the bio-oil. I try and do two massages a day on my abdomen (but it is quite often just one) - this has always been my worst area - ever since I got big. I am just trying to encourage my skin to behave as well as possible. I think that the action of massage is possibly almost as useful as the bio-oil itself. I try and massage other bits of me too with oil or lotion once each day (thighs, boobs, upper arms, bum). Although I have some loose skin - I think that generally I am better than I deserve to be now that I am 2/3 of the size that I was. I still have a long way to go though and who can say how things turn out when some of the other rolls of fat go!! I also take vitamins designed to help my skin cope and the water is good for the skin too.

Feel free to ask me any questions that occur to you. I may not know the answer but am more than happy to help to the best of my ability.

With luck we can all inspire each other to reach our goals. Good luck with yours.

Take care
Best wishes
Margaret
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Take care
Best wishes
Margaret
 
Sounds like you have a wonderful attitude. take the negative & make it into something positive.

I hope you maintain your motivation. This site is wonderful for support & encouragement... or just to vent when you need to... & we ALL need to! :)

Wonder if one of the challenges would help to keep you moving on your path to being the healthiest you? Has helped me stay on track on those days I don't want to exercise knowing that I am accountable to my team mates.

GOOD LUCK.
 
Hi!

Hello :waving: and Welcome to the Forum!

First I want to thank you for posting to my before and after pics!

Baby steps on your way to true lifelong habits is best. Having a diary on the forum and keeping track of my calories and exercise has been really helpful to my weight loss. I started in April and have lost almost 60lbs. It's great motivation seeing how well everyone does on this site.

Keep up the positive attitude!:hurray:
 
Wow Margaret.

You're attitude about weight loss is stunning. Thank you so much for telling me about your journy. It's a real motivator.

I have fount that if I get too crazy with counting calories then I tend to slip also. I'm gonna be a bit easier on myself and just focus on the exercise.

I think I'm gonna go out and buy a pedometer too. :) And some of that bio oil. :)




MoonGoddess,

Thank you.

Yes, I joined the November challenge that's coming up. I'm excited to get started with that. Hopefully that will help me keep motivated.



Now. I'm about to start my morning off and go exercise. :) I'll check back later. Have a good day everyone.
 
CatsMeow said:
Hello :waving: and Welcome to the Forum!

First I want to thank you for posting to my before and after pics!

Baby steps on your way to true lifelong habits is best. Having a diary on the forum and keeping track of my calories and exercise has been really helpful to my weight loss. I started in April and have lost almost 60lbs. It's great motivation seeing how well everyone does on this site.

Keep up the positive attitude!:hurray:
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Sorry, I didn't see your post.

Thanks for being so cheerful! :) I agree, babysteps is the way to go. I'm going to take one day at a time... and hopefully by the end of a lot of days I'll be at my goal.

Thanks so much for coming by. Have a great day. :D
 
Hi

The great thing about having a pedometer is that if you go out and walk so many steps or miles - whatever you have set yourself as a mental target - it is pretty much impossible to have a bad diet day. It may not be as positive as you had intended - but it is not plain bad.

It gives another magic number - a bit like counting calories does where you can think "great my calories were under for the day".

Even if you succumb and eat something that you know is really sinful and indulgent you can think ok I had that but I have done my walk so I have been good too.

Well done for going to do some exercise this morning.

Take care
Best wishes
Margaret
 
Margaret,

That's the sort of thing that I need then. It definitely won't hurt keeping track of how far I'm walking.
 
So I just did Leslie Sansone's Walk-N-Tone on OnDemand. I really like Leslie. She is so nice and has great energy about her, so it's easy to follow the video.

Walk-N-Tone is just walking in the house. It's not just walking in place, but many leg and arm movements.

So I guess I did the equivalent of 2 miles in 33 minutes. It was really hard though, I was extremely tired after 15 minutes but I just kept going and finished it.

Afterwards I did a few stretches and then ate breakfast.

I ate some toast w/butter and a banana. I know that probably wasn't the best thing to eat. But oh well, I need to go grocery shopping. lol.
 
Well done for doing the Walk-N-Tone. I might check it out sometime. It sounds like fun.

There is nothing wrong with banana. I have one just about every day. I have done for months and months. If I am late going out for my walk - or am out an extra long time (e.g. when I have keep fit or yoga) I take it with me and have it for a pre-breakfast light meal.

Bananas have potassium which is good for preventing cramp.

Toast and butter may well not be too bad a choice either (depending on how much bread and how much butter was involved). I have to be very careful with things like that - but my body is extra annoying sometimes.

Take care
Best wishes
Margaret
 
Margaret, Yeah, it's not too bad. I just felt like I had to have something more. Like protein or more fruit or something. Hmm. I'll try to make tomorrow morning better. Breakfast is always hard for me to do. Sometimes I skip breakfast and go a long time before eating. So it's just something I gotta work on.
 
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Hmm. Okay, what has been up with the site today?

So I kinda did bad today, but not too bad.


Breakfast: Toast, Banana
Lunch: Turkey Sandwich
Snack: 3 mini Three Musketeer bars! There's actually a whole bowl full sitting by the door, so I guess 3 isn't bad. I could've ate the whole bowl(190 cals)
Dinner: I had two Chalupas from Taco Bell. :( I need to seriously go grocery shopping. When there's little food in the house, I always go get fast food. But I hate shopping, I never know what to get. It reminds me of that joke of Jerry Seinfeld, where he goes into the store and doesn't know what to get, he's reading labels and is confused, so he just goes up to someone that looks good and asks them what they are eating.
Snack: 100 cal Popcorn.

Total: 1570 Calories

Exercise: 33 mins of Walk N Tone. Equivalant to two miles. (I might do more before I go to sleep.)
Water: 2 Liters.

Goals for tomorrow: Grocery shopping. Stay away from fast food. Exercise a little more. And give all that candy away or tell someone to hide it from me.

Hope everyone had a great Halloween. :)
 
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Hey there,
3 mini's is not bad at all,the problem is some people can't just eat 3 lol I used to eat a while pk of hershey kisses the pks that have like 100 in em lol BAD!
Your calories still were good even with the mini's and taco bell I broke down and had a french bread pizza tonight after hours to grrrr but it's ok I won't get off track.I hope you enjoyed your Halloween as well,have a nice Thursday,Tammy
 
Hi

You have done great on the exercise and the calories are good too. You should lose weight regarding that day.

Staying away from fast food is always a good idea. Take-aways certainly played their part in keeping me a big lady. I used to love pizza, curries and chinese food. They didnt love me.

As you have noted - you can get a lot more food value for your calories if you go grocery shopping and sort out food from scratch. Having said that - we are all human and temptation and laziness sometimes wins.

You did well to keep your calories at a good level with fast food on the menu.

I hope that you have a good thursday.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Thanks Margaret. Hope you're having a good Thursday too.

So, I hopped on the scale this morning and I'm down a lil bit... 289.9. I'm not gonna update my ticker though, I'll wait until my weigh-in day... Tuesday. :)
 
Congratulations on the weight loss. Enjoy every ounce of drop and every day of the new size. You work hard enough for it - you might as well have all possible pleasure from your success.

I update my ticker every day. If I weigh myself - that is my new weight. I don't have a weekly weigh-in day. I believe that weighing every day is best for me.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
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