Looking for support

[lisa12]

This website will hopefully help me on my road to losing weight, but more importantly in developing a new lifestyle that I can live with. I am a mother of two young kids, and since my 2nd was born I have not lost all of the weight that I had gained. I need to lose about 30 lbs in order to be considered a healthy weight. I am 5'4 and 170lbs. So my goal is to reach 140lbs. I am not going to give myself a goal date because I think I will just be setting myself up for failure. I know that this process will be long and difficult because I am very much an emotional eater and figuring out how to break this emotional bond I have with food will not be easy. I have been to the doctor and am healthy, minus low iron levels. I started exercising last week and am aiming to go at least 3 days a week. My biggest challenge is chaning my diet.

Any support, adive will be greatly appreciate. I am the only one of my friends and family that is heavy so I feel alone in this process.

 

[KaraCooks]

Hi Lisa. You're my height and we have similar goals (I'm aiming for 5lb less, but that's not much).

What do you normally eat during the day? I'm assuming you have to cook for and feed your kids and husband as well? That can make it harder - since a lot of times they don't want to eat the same thing you do!

Welcome to the board!

 

[Superfox]

Hi and Welcome!

What do you eat on a normal day?
Changing your eating habits by gradually adding in better food choices may help you out in the beginning. Don't go cold turkey completely from your faves but have it in moderation. I would try and stay away from fried foods though. There's many great recipes that have the same yummy factor as the fattening stuff but much healthier.

Since I have changed my eating habits I found that when I eat something greasy now, it doesn't sit too well with my stomach and I feel gross after. I also used to have a problem with over eating and feeling like a rollie pollie afterwards. Proportion Control works for me and it feels better being satisfied than overstuffed.

 

[frans240]

I know that this process will be long and difficult because I am very much an emotional eater and figuring out how to break this emotional bond I have with food will not be easy.

Any support, adive will be greatly appreciate. I am the only one of my friends and family that is heavy so I feel alone in this process.

Hi Lisa,

Just wanted to give you some heads up here...

Question for you, if you read the words you wrote (that i quoted),
tell me HOW do they make you feel??? Not good i guess..

Over the years I have learned a lot about human behavior, the things we
say,tell ourselves day in day out... those words create certain emotions
and will actually shape our very own reality!!! Now HOW motivated are you
now to change the words you say everyday?

When you have a hard time breaking a habit then you should learn
some effective and quick ways to break your pattern!
How? well by finding something that makes you feel good
(that can be anything other then food) and stick to that, make it fun so you have a laugh
when you are doing it. Share it with others so they can help you break
that pattern! Really it works, it works with everything else too!

You use words like "this process will be long and difficult" and
"how to break this emotional bond I have with food will not be easy".. it's
these very words that will make it long and difficult and not easy!!
I always emphasis this when I am helping people break a habit or change their
pattern of doing things that they do not like or want to change.

Get yourself a notebook and write down how you WANT it to be, your life
your health,,anything. Just use your imagination and have fun while doing it
I am sure that when you stick with it and read back what you wrote you will
smile and feel good! Better you will start to see little changes happening, what most people call
coincidences ..and these little happenings help you towards where you want to go!!

Okay I stop here cause i was on the roll!! ...

If you want more advice/help..just ask

Cheers
Cor

 

[lisa12]

thanks

Wow, those are some excellent words of wisdom. You have really made me think. I think that I will do what you recommend and write down how I want the process to go... think positive right? Thank you.

Also, thanks to the others who responded too. I have a good feeling about this forum in that I will get the support that I am seeking.

To answer your question about my eating... I think that my meals I do okay, it is my snacking... especially when my daughter goes for a nap and I have a moment to breath... I will eat whatever I can find that is sweet. It is like someone else takes over my body and I have no control. It is something I am not proud of... but this is going to change. I am not going to eliminate these foods, just cut back. I know that if I take them out all together then I will break down, so I am weaning myself off...