Long-term weightloss.

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Asetian

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Hi, I'm Asetian, and I've been trying since I was nine years old to lose weight and keep my weight off.

I naturally have a large frame (just wrap your thumb and middle finger around your wrist. If your fingers do not touch you have a large frame, if they barely touch, or touch perfectly, you have a medium frame, and if they overlap, you have a small frame). I mean, I'm just built very curvy. My bust is the widest part of my body, no joke.

So yeah, even if i became anorexic, I couldn't fit into anything below a size seven. pobably not even a seven since a seven has shrunk so much. I fit comfortably into an eleven, but I would love to fit tightly, or loosely into a seven or nine. Junior sizes we're talking here since I'm still only 17, but I want to get a head start on being healthy throughout my whole life.

I've always been a little bit chubby, even if I eat less than three well-balanced meals a day.
I'm just not meant to be tiny, you know, it's honeslty not possible for me.
But that is okay, I just want to become toned, and more of a thick delicious looking type. Lol...

Well here are my problems:
No matter how hard I try, or how much weight I lose, I cannot get rid of the annoying belly rolls.
Cellulite thighs that I fear will never go away.
I'm naturally muscularly built, and so although I look like I weigh about 140, I have muscle and so I actually weigh about 155-160.
I am addicted to subway, papa johns, and fat-filled coffee from starbucks. And I will never stop drinking soda. But I do limit myself to diet soda. Even if it's not so good for you.
I workout, but it's more like I do a hard workout every now and then, and then little excercising spurts every now and then. I want to be more consistent than this.

My goals:
To want to eat healthy.
135- 137 pounds.
Be able to run two miles without stopping.
Be tough, and able to complete self-defense courses like boxing, wrestling, or martial arts.
Lose that annoying monster stomach.
Be more smoothe rather than chunky.

Okay this was proabably kind of a gross introduction, and telling you a lot of things you don't want to hear.
But Idk, I'm getting desperate. I've tried tons of diets, had a few successful ones, and then gave up.

I just want to be healthy and very fit. It's kind of been a dream my whole life. I'm not shooting for some model goal either. I think I'm a pretty reasonable person.
 
First of all, welcome. :) I'm sure you'll find a lot of good information here.

I'll jump right in with my thoughts. :) (As you read my posts around the board, you'll see that I tend to just jump right in - and I'm fairly straightforward and direct.)

The first thing you need to do is get this idea of "I am naturally heavy" out of your mind. It's keeping you from achieving your goals. If I had a dime for everyone who said they were "naturally" whatever ... large boned, predisposed to be heavy, etc, etc., I'd be a millionaire. When you say things like "I'm not meant to be tiny" and "I'm naturally large boned" and "I don't want to be skinny" - you're already setting up excuses for why you can't meet your goals: to get rid of the rolls, to slim your thighs, etc. A large amount of weight loss is mental - and when you sabotage yourself from the get-go ... well, that's exactly what it is ... sabotage.

Next:
am addicted to subway, papa johns, and fat-filled coffee from starbucks. And I will never stop drinking soda. But I do limit myself to diet soda.
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Again. This is a mental/emotional/psychological issue. If you say you're addicted and wont' ever give up ... then you've sabotaged yourself from the beginning. Sure, junk food is fast and easy and attractive, but you have to make the decision to stop eating it or realize that you are choosing to fail ... and I'm sorry if that comes across as blunt, but it's the god's honest truth.

My goals:
To want to eat healthy.
135- 137 pounds.
Be able to run two miles without stopping.
Be tough, and able to complete self-defense courses like boxing, wrestling, or martial arts.
Lose that annoying monster stomach.
Be more smoothe rather than chunky.
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If you want to reach these goals and be healthy and fit you have to get the idea of "going on a diet" out of your brain. You have to accept that you're going to make a change in your life - and that includes realizing that subway, papa johns, full fat coffees from starbucks, and all those other things are TREATS ... not daily or even weekly items.

Start really paying attention to what you're putting into your body. When I first started losing weight, I did so w/out counting calories, but by paying attention. I made a conscious choice to pay attention to the food I was eating; to avoid packaged and processed foods as much as possible; to eat things in their whole and natural states as much as possible; and to avoid chemicals, preservatives, and sugars (including HFCS and all the variants). I do still eat *some* packaged foods, but I make conscious choices in those things I do eat and yes, I still drink Diet Coke once in a while, but again, that's a conscious choice - not something that I make excuses for by saying "I'm addicted and won't give it up".

After I started losing weight, I started paying more attention to calories and to the nutrients in my food. As of right now I eat 1600-1800 calories a day, I carefully manage my macronutrients (carbs/protein/fats), and I exercise (HARD) at least 3x-4x a week.

And I'll mention here my theory on motivation as well ... because I think it's key to the whole mental process. :) A lot of people diet and exercise sporadically because they aren't "motivated" - for whatever reason. Maybe they've had a bad day. Maybe they haven't seen the weight loss the want this week and so they give up. Maybe they are tired. Whatever. Here's my philosophy on that: Motivation comes and goes - and you can't always rely on it to keep you going. I look at eating right and exercising as something that is just a part of my life. It's kinda like getting up in the morning and going to work: Some mornings I'm motivated and excited and looking forward to the day. Some mornings I may not have slept well or I'm grumpy or it's raining or whatever and I'm not looking forward to it. But whether I am motivated or not, whether I want to or not, I do it. Because ... that's life. For me eating right and going to the gym is much the same: Some days I look forward to it and some days I don't, but either way I just do it. Because it's a part of my life. :)

I hope that's helped and given you some food for thought. :)
 
Lol... well for me, it's not really that I think I'm huge and I'll never ever be thin.
It's more like being thin isn't my goal. I don't want to look like a model because honestly. I think that's kind of gross.
I am naturally larger, and it is a proven fact that I wouldn't fit into a size 5. I mean if you saw me you'd get it, it really is a big bones things. And yeah, I see what you're saying, people make that excuse a lot, but for some people that is the case. I want to lose weight though, and I'm serious about it.

When I say diet, I mean, count my calories, eat low-fat foods, and NO MORE papa Johns, lol. Not go on eating binges, eat small amounts over the course of hours rather than huge amounts three times a day.
And work out at least three times a week.
I've learned in the past years it's all about will power.

But I plan on taking it slow. I'm not gonna go on a diet where I only eat cottage cheese, or where I eat nothing but vegetables. Because I really can't go without meat.
For instance, I started today.

I had coffee because I wasn't that hungry when i woke up.
That was 350 calories.
For lunch I had a large fruit bowl of grapes and 1 apple, about 2 tablespoons of peanut butter. a fourth of a cucumber, and a fourth of a cup of snow peas.
That was about 418 calories.

Then I ate dinner at about five since I stay up until ten, that gives my food time to settle so I feel light and ready to work out.

For dinner I ate a medium sized sandwhich, with low-fat turkey breast, olives, and lettuce, and about 1 ounce of cheese.
No mayo, and no salami, which is usually what I put on my sandwhiches.

I took one iron supplement and one one-a-day womens multi vitamin for active metabolism.

1 glass of 2 % milk.

sandwhich: 315
milk: 100

altogether I had

That was 1183 calories.
It may sound low... but I'm not hungry at all, I feel like I can't eat more even if I tried.

Thank you for your info and encouragement. I appreciate it. I need to be told not to make excuses rather than te bull about, oh you're beautiful the way you are. Which I think I am.... but that's not really the point. The point is healthy to me.
 
Just keep in mind that if you eat too few calories, you WILL cause your metabolism to drop too fast and you will eventually stall out your weight loss. There's no reason to set yourself up like that. :)

It's a learning curve, that's for sure. And an experience. :)
 
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