I am Emily Jones, aged 34. I work for an advertising firm. I have worked very hard to get where I am today. Possibly, striving and struggling for years has made me very complacent and my health has suffered. I seem to have become a chronic sufferer of minor ailments like headaches, frequent colds, digestive problems and other stomach infections. Over the years, my health has declined and my passion for work has declined. Visits to doctors have not helped much. I guess I need to take a break and seek some inner healing. Can someone help?
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I guess you have pushed yourself too far to achieve the milestones in your career. In the process, you have neglected your physical self and denied yourself the care and good health. It is never too late. Take heart. You can always bounce back with great health all over again. SPAM is a site I came across. It is all about changing your mind through a method of neuro linguistic programming. It aims at changing your old out dated beliefs for better living. I am sure you will find it helpful.
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Hello there,
You sound like you are a passionate person and that you are several steps ahead of many in your position because you are conscious of where you are currently, but more importantly, where you need to go.
To elaborate on the previous person's message and using NLP to help you, I want to provide you with some steps for success using basic NLP techniques. - It's actually an extract of something I am working on currently for weight loss so please excuse the frequent referral's to weight loss within it.
Become conscious of the precision of your thoughts
I want you to take a moment to reflect on your journey to your ideal weight. What I would like you to do is start to think about some things that get you down about your body at the moment. Perhaps what you look like in certain areas, times when you step on the scales and have gained not lost, your confidence levels due to your weight and so on. Ask and answer the following questions:
“When visualising the things that are not so good with my body, is it like a movie*running images, or still like a picture?”
“Do I see myself from a first person perspective*through my own eyes, or third person perspective?”*fly on the wall looking at myself.
“Is the image or movie that I see in colour or black and white?”
“Is there a border around the image or movie?”*e.g., like a frame would look around a picture or a movie would be at the cinema.
“Does the image or movie appear close or in the distance?”
I do apologise for making you get the negative up, however, it is important for me to evoke the negative thoughts you have so we can eliminate them. Your bad feelings are only keeping you stuck, believe me, they are NOT helping you to lose weight and feel better about yourself. Let us go back to the vision in your mind and use the following paragraphs to turn your conscious images and movies around. Please take your time, there is no rush and slowly go through the solutions stated below.
Am I at the movies? Or am I at the art gallery?
Some people when asked to think about their thoughts get a visual in a movie sense and some will look at a still picture*as already stated. In this context, we are doing our best to eliminate any negative thinking and replace with more positive thoughts and feelings. Regardless of if you are running a movie or a picture, many if not all of the below techniques will help you.
For those of you running a movie, in my personal experience, I find it more useful if I can put that movie on pause and if possible, turn it into a picture. This does not work for everybody although by doing this, we stop the movie of your negative self running over and over again! Use the following techniques to boost you even further.
Step outside the negative person
If you are visualising yourself from a first person perspective or through your own eyes so to speak, this is a strong sign that you are associating many of your bad feelings and beliefs about your body with yourself. Therefore, what I need you to do in your mind is float outside of your body to become a fly on the wall and look back at yourself, how do you feel now? Do you feel better? “Remember, we are in the place at the moment where you have felt bad about your body.”
Run this technique over and over again until you feel you can completely step outside of the old negative you. I want you to look back at who you used to be as a stronger, wiser you! Ask yourself as you are the new person with added strength how you feel about the old person. Many of my clients say they feel sorry for the old person, they want to coach them to success or that they just want to leave the old person behind and move forward positively and inspired.
Colour television or black and white?
Next step is to see if the image/movie that you visualise is in colour or black and white. As colour represents more present times and future wants, this means that if you are visualising in colour you are keeping your bad feelings present and also in your future, this is not good for your weight loss! - So, if you see in colour for this particular exercise, I want you now to drain the colour out of the image that you see. Remember, we have already started to disassociate you with the negative by becoming a fly on the wall looking back at your body. Your picture/movie should now be black and white therefore having less emotion connected. Speaking of which, how do you feel now you have stepped outside the person who felt bad about their body and also drained the colour from the image?
The border around your visualisation
As you package up your old beliefs “well, the ones that were keeping you from losing weight,” let us now take that black and white picture/movie and place a nice border around the edge. This will allow you to place it on the wall to become just a person walking through an art gallery or an audience member watching an old black and white movie. Again, ask the question, how do you feel now about the old you that used to struggle; used to make excuses and used to not succeed to the level that you now know you are capable of?
“The body that you have today is not WHO you are today, it is the residual, what is left over of who you used to be and what decisions you used to make.”
Love what is close; see only in the distance the bad
The final technique I want you to do is to point to where your image/movie is. Some people point at their head as they are visualising very close to them, others point up and right, you may point down and left or away in the distance. There really is no right or wrong, however what I will say is that the truth is in the subtitle – Love what is close; see only in the distance the bad - If after all the techniques you have run through today, the image/movie of your old self is still close, I want you to over and over again push it away into the distance. You can in your mind tie a big rubber band around the back of the movie/picture if you want to a slingshot the old negative self away.
In doing this though, what is essentially important is that you think about what you want, how you want to feel and get a clear image of once you have reached your ideal weight. With this new self image as you send away the old black and white, third person, boarder around image/movie, you bring in the NEW image/movie in brilliant colour and bring so close that you float into your brand new body, just like getting in a brand new dream car.
Do this over and over again; pushing away the bad and giving your sub-conscious mind something wonderful and positive to have by bringing in close the new amazing self!
At the end of the day, no matter what challenges are presented to you, you can turn it around. Whatever strength you had to succeed in business you obviously still possess, they just need some gentle stimiulating to get you going again.
Never never give up, be the best you can be and always, I think that is what life is all about???
Best of luck to you,
Pete.
P.S
I have a website too, it's thoughtsfrompete.com..... Take a look at an article I wrote called "is it that time again?" - I think it might help. : )
You sound like you are a passionate person and that you are several steps ahead of many in your position because you are conscious of where you are currently, but more importantly, where you need to go.
To elaborate on the previous person's message and using NLP to help you, I want to provide you with some steps for success using basic NLP techniques. - It's actually an extract of something I am working on currently for weight loss so please excuse the frequent referral's to weight loss within it.
Become conscious of the precision of your thoughts
I want you to take a moment to reflect on your journey to your ideal weight. What I would like you to do is start to think about some things that get you down about your body at the moment. Perhaps what you look like in certain areas, times when you step on the scales and have gained not lost, your confidence levels due to your weight and so on. Ask and answer the following questions:
“When visualising the things that are not so good with my body, is it like a movie*running images, or still like a picture?”
“Do I see myself from a first person perspective*through my own eyes, or third person perspective?”*fly on the wall looking at myself.
“Is the image or movie that I see in colour or black and white?”
“Is there a border around the image or movie?”*e.g., like a frame would look around a picture or a movie would be at the cinema.
“Does the image or movie appear close or in the distance?”
I do apologise for making you get the negative up, however, it is important for me to evoke the negative thoughts you have so we can eliminate them. Your bad feelings are only keeping you stuck, believe me, they are NOT helping you to lose weight and feel better about yourself. Let us go back to the vision in your mind and use the following paragraphs to turn your conscious images and movies around. Please take your time, there is no rush and slowly go through the solutions stated below.
Am I at the movies? Or am I at the art gallery?
Some people when asked to think about their thoughts get a visual in a movie sense and some will look at a still picture*as already stated. In this context, we are doing our best to eliminate any negative thinking and replace with more positive thoughts and feelings. Regardless of if you are running a movie or a picture, many if not all of the below techniques will help you.
For those of you running a movie, in my personal experience, I find it more useful if I can put that movie on pause and if possible, turn it into a picture. This does not work for everybody although by doing this, we stop the movie of your negative self running over and over again! Use the following techniques to boost you even further.
Step outside the negative person
If you are visualising yourself from a first person perspective or through your own eyes so to speak, this is a strong sign that you are associating many of your bad feelings and beliefs about your body with yourself. Therefore, what I need you to do in your mind is float outside of your body to become a fly on the wall and look back at yourself, how do you feel now? Do you feel better? “Remember, we are in the place at the moment where you have felt bad about your body.”
Run this technique over and over again until you feel you can completely step outside of the old negative you. I want you to look back at who you used to be as a stronger, wiser you! Ask yourself as you are the new person with added strength how you feel about the old person. Many of my clients say they feel sorry for the old person, they want to coach them to success or that they just want to leave the old person behind and move forward positively and inspired.
Colour television or black and white?
Next step is to see if the image/movie that you visualise is in colour or black and white. As colour represents more present times and future wants, this means that if you are visualising in colour you are keeping your bad feelings present and also in your future, this is not good for your weight loss! - So, if you see in colour for this particular exercise, I want you now to drain the colour out of the image that you see. Remember, we have already started to disassociate you with the negative by becoming a fly on the wall looking back at your body. Your picture/movie should now be black and white therefore having less emotion connected. Speaking of which, how do you feel now you have stepped outside the person who felt bad about their body and also drained the colour from the image?
The border around your visualisation
As you package up your old beliefs “well, the ones that were keeping you from losing weight,” let us now take that black and white picture/movie and place a nice border around the edge. This will allow you to place it on the wall to become just a person walking through an art gallery or an audience member watching an old black and white movie. Again, ask the question, how do you feel now about the old you that used to struggle; used to make excuses and used to not succeed to the level that you now know you are capable of?
“The body that you have today is not WHO you are today, it is the residual, what is left over of who you used to be and what decisions you used to make.”
Love what is close; see only in the distance the bad
The final technique I want you to do is to point to where your image/movie is. Some people point at their head as they are visualising very close to them, others point up and right, you may point down and left or away in the distance. There really is no right or wrong, however what I will say is that the truth is in the subtitle – Love what is close; see only in the distance the bad - If after all the techniques you have run through today, the image/movie of your old self is still close, I want you to over and over again push it away into the distance. You can in your mind tie a big rubber band around the back of the movie/picture if you want to a slingshot the old negative self away.
In doing this though, what is essentially important is that you think about what you want, how you want to feel and get a clear image of once you have reached your ideal weight. With this new self image as you send away the old black and white, third person, boarder around image/movie, you bring in the NEW image/movie in brilliant colour and bring so close that you float into your brand new body, just like getting in a brand new dream car.
Do this over and over again; pushing away the bad and giving your sub-conscious mind something wonderful and positive to have by bringing in close the new amazing self!
At the end of the day, no matter what challenges are presented to you, you can turn it around. Whatever strength you had to succeed in business you obviously still possess, they just need some gentle stimiulating to get you going again.
Never never give up, be the best you can be and always, I think that is what life is all about???
Best of luck to you,
Pete.
P.S
I have a website too, it's thoughtsfrompete.com..... Take a look at an article I wrote called "is it that time again?" - I think it might help. : )