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small victories
i had some small victories...but big ones for me. now good things are happening to me lately. especially losing those inches. but i have to admit my first urge when i saw all that was to eat a big sandwich with everything in it, a pizza or a cake or all of it together. i didn't fortunately.
but i could have sabotaged myself so easily. why am i so scared of this weight loss really? why do i have this feeling like i'm stripping in front of everyone?
i'm a bit in philosophical mood today everyone, but don't worry i'm in a good mood...and i won one more battle with the worm in my head.
i had some small victories...but big ones for me. now good things are happening to me lately. especially losing those inches. but i have to admit my first urge when i saw all that was to eat a big sandwich with everything in it, a pizza or a cake or all of it together. i didn't fortunately.
but i could have sabotaged myself so easily. why am i so scared of this weight loss really? why do i have this feeling like i'm stripping in front of everyone?
i'm a bit in philosophical mood today everyone, but don't worry i'm in a good mood...and i won one more battle with the worm in my head.
being scared of weight loss is a natural reaction - because it's going to change who you are on the outside adn quite possibly how you view yourself -and the shield it may have given you as to why you can't do certain things won't be there anymore..
you aren't alone in that fear - but we're all gonna get thru it.. and conquer it...
you aren't alone in that fear - but we're all gonna get thru it.. and conquer it...
Britta Bear
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Because the weight we have put in is in defense. This is how it is for me, and since we have had similar experiences, this may help:
My weight protects me from men. It protects me like a shield. Scaring off the people who will hurt me, and allowing me to isolate myself from situations in which I feel vounerable.
Our bodies have served us well in that purpose up until now. Now you feel it's time to shed the weight, and with it will come painful memories, you will feel vounerable. So, it's important not to be resentful, and thank your body for protecting you. Everyone dislikes change, but if you can make it through the process of losing the weight and getting to your goal, you can be strong enough to get past your fears.
Remember the poem I wrote about being two people, and being afraid that the intelligent side of me will dissapear when I lose weight? That's another aspect of my fear, and you might have to do some deep reflecting to find what your fears are.
We will be here along the whole way hun!
My weight protects me from men. It protects me like a shield. Scaring off the people who will hurt me, and allowing me to isolate myself from situations in which I feel vounerable.
Our bodies have served us well in that purpose up until now. Now you feel it's time to shed the weight, and with it will come painful memories, you will feel vounerable. So, it's important not to be resentful, and thank your body for protecting you. Everyone dislikes change, but if you can make it through the process of losing the weight and getting to your goal, you can be strong enough to get past your fears.
Remember the poem I wrote about being two people, and being afraid that the intelligent side of me will dissapear when I lose weight? That's another aspect of my fear, and you might have to do some deep reflecting to find what your fears are.
We will be here along the whole way hun!
in the news forum -there is a thread entitled Fear of Thin (i think) started by me -that talks about this issue -you are seriously not alone in this - and Steve also had a really good post in Dariqueen's journal I think that was also relevant - lemme dig that out
now you brought tears to my eyes...thank you for these words.
i know what my fears are...i said them in my first post in my journal. i guess i need to do some rereading.
thank you for being here when i need you.
Britta Bear
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Britta Bear
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That is a good post that Steve wrote. It's so true that we have to savour every happiness we find along the way. In all areas of life, things get hard, but what keeps us going is that we have hope, and we remember the good, and learn from the bad.
It's important to honor ourselves enough and SHOW ourselves that we are worth all of the effort. Giving up is subconsciously telling ourselves that we are not good enough. This battle is a HUGE act of self love.
It's important to honor ourselves enough and SHOW ourselves that we are worth all of the effort. Giving up is subconsciously telling ourselves that we are not good enough. This battle is a HUGE act of self love.
i asked nicely for him to move that post to it's own thread because it really was oh so worthy but... i guess i didnt as nicely enough
i know where to find it though...
i asked nicely for him to move that post to it's own thread because it really was oh so worthy but... i guess i didnt as nicely enough
I don't remember you asking me about it. Sorry, I must have been busy.
niapage
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Howdy lena,
Girl I hear ya with the bad food craving's!I have made it to 184 3 times now and I usually treat myself and cheat and back up to 190's blah so way to go on not given in,if you really have to have something have maybe 1 food item you want and have it early like lunch and then you won't feel guily.Have a great weekend and thank you for all your support,Tammy
Girl I hear ya with the bad food craving's!I have made it to 184 3 times now and I usually treat myself and cheat and back up to 190's blah so way to go on not given in,if you really have to have something have maybe 1 food item you want and have it early like lunch and then you won't feel guily.Have a great weekend and thank you for all your support,Tammy
cinderelly
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Oh Lena Im obviously walkin into the middle of somethign and htere is so much to read - LOL - but girl - being afraid of thin is somethign i think we are all afraid of - well I know I am at least - as soon as i hit a smaller number I binged like crazy or "rewarded myself" and put back on a few lbs it took me awhile to realise what I was doing - only I was sabotoging myself - you are an amazing woman - Ive told you once and I will tell you agian as many times as I need to - you are beautiful now and will be in 50 lbs from now bigger or smaller nothing can compare to your inner beauty...I think alot abt the comment you told me your x said to you and ya know you are beautiful now and sexy and will be even more when you reach your goal or as you loose more weight - you are you weight or not...
It scares the shit outta me loosing weihgt and gettin thinner - once I break 200 - this will be the thinnest I have been since ive had children...ok well maybe since i was 18...and I think emotionally it is beatin me up...I should have been below 200 by now...
Anyway Im babbling and i hope I helped hit the nail on the head a bit - I really like you and I think you are awesome - you have a big heart and it shows and you are pretty and so I coudl go on and on...
It scares the shit outta me loosing weihgt and gettin thinner - once I break 200 - this will be the thinnest I have been since ive had children...ok well maybe since i was 18...and I think emotionally it is beatin me up...I should have been below 200 by now...
Anyway Im babbling and i hope I helped hit the nail on the head a bit - I really like you and I think you are awesome - you have a big heart and it shows and you are pretty and so I coudl go on and on...