Here is the link to the article I read recently it about kids and food in general....I cut and copied the part of the article pertaining to picky eaters.....good luck
The Two Golden Rules of Feeding Your Children
By the time your child is 2, you will have to learn how to relinquish a certain amount of control over the way he eats. According to Ellyn Satter, author and registered dietitian, there is one golden rule about feeding your children:
Parents are responsible for what foods are served to children and how they are served; children are responsible for how much—and even whether—they eat.
Another "golden rule" shared by many nutritional experts is:
Never, ever allow food to become a battleground or power struggle between you and your child.
Avoiding a battle over food is frequently difficult during a child's earlier years. One tactic you may find helpful is to serve the meal, then physically leave the room for 5 or 10 minutes while the child decides what to eat. And when asking the child for a choice, don't leave it open-ended: Rather than saying "What would you like for breakfast?" present a couple of options, for instance "Would you like cereal or a bagel?"
Helpful Hints for Picky Eaters
• Never make food a battleground.
• Keep a food diary for your child—you may find that he isn't eating as badly as you think.
• Continue to offer a variety of nutritious foods in addition to the chosen few.
• Get the child involved in preparation. Cut food into fun shapes, serve raw vegetables and offer healthy dipping sauces—try seasoning plain yogurt.
Coping With Picky Eaters
There's no medical definition for a picky eater, but if your child is one, you'll know it. With pre-schoolers, foods can come in and out of favor with breathtaking rapidity for no apparent reason whatsoever. Sometimes, children can become attached to just a single food, or to weird combinations of foods.
Coping with a picky eater may strain your patience, but take comfort in knowing that most such kids become normal eaters in a matter of time, and rarely does "pickiness" affect their health. Your picky eater may eat better than you realize. The book, Let Them Eat Cake, cites the example of 2-year-old "Josh," whose insistence on a scrambled egg, catsup, and juice every night for dinner until he was about three and a half drove his parents crazy. But when they kept track of his all-day food intake, it became clear that in the course of 24 hours Josh ate a wide variety of other healthy foods, and so was in no danger of suffering nutritionally because of his strange evening meal.
Your child's pickiness may have nothing to do with food preferences and everything to do with the pre-school struggle for independence. If you accept pickiness as a temporary phenomenon and refuse to make a big deal about it, the problem, in all likelihood, will disappear in time.
In some cases, however, a picky eater is right. Some children may instinctively avoid certain foods because they know these items make them uncomfortable. If your child refuses to eat a particular kind of food, it may signal an allergy or intolerance. For example, if the child won't take milk, try substituting yogurt, cheese, or cottage cheese; cultured dairy products are sometimes better tolerated. If that doesn't work, just make certain you supply other calcium-rich foods; you may also want to have the child tested for a milk allergy or lactose intolerance.
If picky eating becomes perverse and persistent, or if your intuition tells you something is unhealthy about the way your child eats, consult your pediatrician. Although real eating disorders are rare in pre-schoolers, they could be an indication of more serious concerns or conditions.
