Lazy and Unmotivated :/
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With that defeatist attitude you won't lose weight. Nobody can do it for you. You have to be the one to make the decision that this time you will follow it through. Once you do that then we will be able to help you. You CAN lose weight but it seems that you don't want it enough yet to do something about it.
Try and change your attitude and believe me the results will be well worth it.
Try and change your attitude and believe me the results will be well worth it.
Korrie
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Look man...you've GOT to find the motivation. Your not going to be able to do this with that lousy attitude. You CAN lose the weight. Why do you think everyone else can but not you? Your bodys not any different than the rest of us.
Maybe what you need to do is come up with a list of reasons to lose weight and reasons not to lose.
Maybe what you need to do is come up with a list of reasons to lose weight and reasons not to lose.
Thanks for the support @eyckmans and @Korrie. I guess I just find it hard resisting unhealthy foods that are always in my pantry. I just need to learn how to say no and find some other healthy alternative, I'll start by substituting soda for tea and make the switch to whole grain products. Wish me luck!
Get rid of those foods from your pantry and you won't be so tempted. I refuse to buy anything that I know I can't resist. If you can't just get rid of all the bad stuff at once then start substituting foods with healthier options bit by bit. It can be done but it needs a lot of effort on your part. Once you have done a few weeks of healthy eating it gets much easier and then after a couple of months you will probably love your diet.
Good luck
Good luck
Jeff91
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it honestly sounds like your not ready. No one can force you to lose weight, it's something you have to work hard at and and the only way you're going to work hard at it is if you REALLY want to. My advice is try to eat healthy and exercise when you can and you never know... I know I was in a similar boat for a while. Then one day, I stepped on the scale and saw 249 and the shock really got me going... and I've been fully commited since
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Developing a Weight Loss Mindset
As a personal trainer for over 20 years, I want to give you specific advice on overcoming your weight-loss issue. Being told to change your attitude and stop thinking with a defeatist attitude does nothing for you.
The key is developing a weight-loss mindset. How do you do that? You develop a weight-loss mindset when you recognize and execute strategies to overcome the three mental barriers that sabotage your weight-loss efforts.
I believe these barriers impact everyone who begins with high motivation to lose weight and quit. These barriers are: 1.) fatigue 2.) boredom, and 3.) negative self-talk.
Job demands, child responsibilities, overloaded schedule, work uncertainty are all of the events of life that can cause us to become fatigued. It saps motivation and cause us to develop the, "I don't feel like it mindset" where we blow off the gym. Here are some strategies you can employ:
1. Develop a partnership with a workout buddy. The accountability will make you less inclined to blow off the gym; help you develop consistency; and eventually the habit to make working out a lifestyle.
2. Do short 15-20 minute workout once or throughout the day. Shift your mindset of believing you have to workout 1 hour at a time. Do a short full body workout incorporating combination exercises. Perform a lower body exercise followed by an upper body. The other day, I performed squats with pull ups for 20 minutes because I was short on time. I was able to fit in 6 sets of each doing abs in between and got an awesome workout.
Boredom occurs for one of two reasons: 1.) Our workout is getting monotonous and needs to change, or 2.) We're moving further away from our comfort zone. Like fatigue, it saps motivation and leads to the same, "I don't feel like working out" mindset. Here's some strategies you can implement:
1. Change a workout over three weeks old. Write down before your exercise week begins (like on a Sunday) 4-5 different workouts. If it's aerobics, pick a different machine or routine. If you're doing weights, pick four exercises per workout. Write out your time and place of workout as well. Don't complicate this process. Keep it simple.
As in my above recommendation, Make the workout short. No more than 15-20 minutes. The key is mentally reinforcing your commitment.
2. Purchase a notebook and write a purpose statement everyday why you desire to lose weight. For example: "My desire to lose weight is to have more energy to interact with my kids without being tired." (This was a client of mine's purpose statement). These purpose statements won't remove the boredom. Yet they will give you an incentive to push through the tough times and persevere. In time, the emotion of motivation will return.
3. Recognize the power of comfort zones. Comfort zones are part of your brains circuitry. This is why even though we live in a sea of diet book, weight-loss centers, and fitness clubs, two-thirds of American are stilloverweight. This is why I highly recommend you to shorten your workouts.
Negative self-talk is the final barrier that sabotages our weight loss efforts. Past weight-loss failures, perfectionism, are the culprits that create this stumbling block. Here's some strategies to employ:
1. Stop persecuting yourself when you miss a plan day at the gym. Even when you miss a week or more, perform a short workout to get your mindset back into it. If you're writing in your purpose notebook, it'll be a major ally to remind you the importance on getting going again.
2. Scale back your workload.Perfectionism tells us we need to workout for 2-hours. When we don't, we scold ourselves. Workout 20 minutes a day for 5-6 days a week as opposed to 2 hours three days a week.
3. Seek out a workout buddy.Workout buddy's are great because they applaud our efforts and enable us to exceed previous limitations. Constant feedback shifts our negative self-talk into positive reinforcement.
I realize this is a long reply to your quote. I hope it helps.
As a personal trainer for over 20 years, I want to give you specific advice on overcoming your weight-loss issue. Being told to change your attitude and stop thinking with a defeatist attitude does nothing for you.
The key is developing a weight-loss mindset. How do you do that? You develop a weight-loss mindset when you recognize and execute strategies to overcome the three mental barriers that sabotage your weight-loss efforts.
I believe these barriers impact everyone who begins with high motivation to lose weight and quit. These barriers are: 1.) fatigue 2.) boredom, and 3.) negative self-talk.
Job demands, child responsibilities, overloaded schedule, work uncertainty are all of the events of life that can cause us to become fatigued. It saps motivation and cause us to develop the, "I don't feel like it mindset" where we blow off the gym. Here are some strategies you can employ:
1. Develop a partnership with a workout buddy. The accountability will make you less inclined to blow off the gym; help you develop consistency; and eventually the habit to make working out a lifestyle.
2. Do short 15-20 minute workout once or throughout the day. Shift your mindset of believing you have to workout 1 hour at a time. Do a short full body workout incorporating combination exercises. Perform a lower body exercise followed by an upper body. The other day, I performed squats with pull ups for 20 minutes because I was short on time. I was able to fit in 6 sets of each doing abs in between and got an awesome workout.
Boredom occurs for one of two reasons: 1.) Our workout is getting monotonous and needs to change, or 2.) We're moving further away from our comfort zone. Like fatigue, it saps motivation and leads to the same, "I don't feel like working out" mindset. Here's some strategies you can implement:
1. Change a workout over three weeks old. Write down before your exercise week begins (like on a Sunday) 4-5 different workouts. If it's aerobics, pick a different machine or routine. If you're doing weights, pick four exercises per workout. Write out your time and place of workout as well. Don't complicate this process. Keep it simple.
As in my above recommendation, Make the workout short. No more than 15-20 minutes. The key is mentally reinforcing your commitment.
2. Purchase a notebook and write a purpose statement everyday why you desire to lose weight. For example: "My desire to lose weight is to have more energy to interact with my kids without being tired." (This was a client of mine's purpose statement). These purpose statements won't remove the boredom. Yet they will give you an incentive to push through the tough times and persevere. In time, the emotion of motivation will return.
3. Recognize the power of comfort zones. Comfort zones are part of your brains circuitry. This is why even though we live in a sea of diet book, weight-loss centers, and fitness clubs, two-thirds of American are stilloverweight. This is why I highly recommend you to shorten your workouts.
Negative self-talk is the final barrier that sabotages our weight loss efforts. Past weight-loss failures, perfectionism, are the culprits that create this stumbling block. Here's some strategies to employ:
1. Stop persecuting yourself when you miss a plan day at the gym. Even when you miss a week or more, perform a short workout to get your mindset back into it. If you're writing in your purpose notebook, it'll be a major ally to remind you the importance on getting going again.
2. Scale back your workload.Perfectionism tells us we need to workout for 2-hours. When we don't, we scold ourselves. Workout 20 minutes a day for 5-6 days a week as opposed to 2 hours three days a week.
3. Seek out a workout buddy.Workout buddy's are great because they applaud our efforts and enable us to exceed previous limitations. Constant feedback shifts our negative self-talk into positive reinforcement.
I realize this is a long reply to your quote. I hope it helps.
weightwizard
New member
Lz78
How we motivate ourselves comes mainly from the pictures we create in our head and our own self-talk.
If you think about something that you love to do - then you will tend to create certain pictures in your head (mainly about what you will gain). And you tend to talk to yourself in a certain way.
When you think about something that you anticipate you will not enjoy, then you create different pictures and talk to yourself in a completely different way. (Interestingly, the pictures and self talk tend to be about what you will lose).
I believe that this is one of the challenges with weight-loss. It's all about what we will lose, but subconsciously your mind and body don't want you to lose anything! Indeed, people will fight harder to hold onto something they have than to get something they don't have. (whether they do it consciously or not)
When you do something you enjoy, it doesn't seem like a chore does it? and you always seem to be able to make time to do it, don't you.
My suggestion would be to re-frame this into what you will gain - some suggestions may be as follows - but this is your goal, your decision, so these are just suggestions/examples:
I will gain my ideal shape;
I will gain new found confidence and self-belief;
I will gain a new found joy for life;
I will gain the enthusiasm to go out more and get more involved in life;
I will gain and achieve my ideal body weight (as I believe that to be).
I do hope that you gain some motivation and enthusiasm from the support offered here.
How we motivate ourselves comes mainly from the pictures we create in our head and our own self-talk.
If you think about something that you love to do - then you will tend to create certain pictures in your head (mainly about what you will gain). And you tend to talk to yourself in a certain way.
When you think about something that you anticipate you will not enjoy, then you create different pictures and talk to yourself in a completely different way. (Interestingly, the pictures and self talk tend to be about what you will lose).
I believe that this is one of the challenges with weight-loss. It's all about what we will lose, but subconsciously your mind and body don't want you to lose anything! Indeed, people will fight harder to hold onto something they have than to get something they don't have. (whether they do it consciously or not)
When you do something you enjoy, it doesn't seem like a chore does it? and you always seem to be able to make time to do it, don't you.
My suggestion would be to re-frame this into what you will gain - some suggestions may be as follows - but this is your goal, your decision, so these are just suggestions/examples:
I will gain my ideal shape;
I will gain new found confidence and self-belief;
I will gain a new found joy for life;
I will gain the enthusiasm to go out more and get more involved in life;
I will gain and achieve my ideal body weight (as I believe that to be).
I do hope that you gain some motivation and enthusiasm from the support offered here.