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DieHardBitch

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I need help. I’m 5 foot 6” and weigh 163 pounds. I’m 13 years old and am a pain junkie (so the rubber band thing dont work). I need to be 115-125 pounds by mid June latest. I’m not afraid to get dangerous on this I just need it now. My plan so far is burn 5000 cals a day and I’ll get to my goal. I need to find ways to make myself do it; I have no equiptment aside from a punchbag, some weights, a rower in my basement (used to be my dads) and no motivation which has wasted the past three months for me. I tried starving and the mia way but it doesn't work. I can go for runs because im in the middle of nowhere by a highway and biking don’t work either. I'm really not stupid, I just wont wait any longer and let my obsession with my looks control my life. How can I push myself as far as fucking possible?

Please cut the crap and tell me how. I don’t care if I hurt myself or If I die trying and I don’t care to safely do it.

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well I supose burning 5000 (on top of my daily average anyways) is too crazy a decift

I eat health nut anyways with a little junk but thats it really. lets assume I do high intenisty cardio seven days a week for the next 6 weeks as well as losing any waterweight, how much do you think I could lose of how could I improve that? plus I still need motivation to the max because what Im doing now isnt helping at all
 
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Well like you said you know starving yourself didn't work.
Something like a 5000 calorie deficit is still starving yourself..
And unless you're in great shape going at it extremely hardcore is going to get you hurt, which means no more working out..I went hardcore when I was first starting out and got a stress fracture which took more than a month to heal..no exercising for a month is worse than even doing a low intensity workout every other day, it was a major setback.
I'd just try eating a normal diet minus junkfood, do cardio 5-6 times a week and use those weights a few times a week. you're very young so you're in a great position because you can get in the habit of it very early, but you're also still growing so things like starving yourself are going to have even harsher negative effects than they would on an adult. I don't think you can lose 40 pounds in a healthy way in a month unless you're obese..
 
Why do you need to be down to 115-125 by mid-June?
That's not realistic.

If you want to lose the weight safely and permanently, aim for losing it by say, the beginning of September. Then you will have made permanent lifestyle changes that will stick with you, and keep you in good health. It is generally considered that 2 pounds per week is a nice healthy rate of weight loss.

Crash dieting/exercising just isn't going to work.

And, by the way, wanting to "push yourself as far as fucking possible" IS letting your obsession with your looks control your life. Think about it.

If you work out as hard as you say you want to, you are likely to burn out (thus negating any progress you made) or worse, hurt yourself.

There is no magic fix or instant results. The world just don't work that way.

Now, all that being said, it sounds like you have all the equipment you need.
Rowing machines are great for cardio - just don't use it exclusively. Try alternating rowing days with walking or running days.
Punching bags are good IMO for both strength and cardio. I use mine occasionally, and I love it.
Weights are essential for any weight loss. You have to maintain your muscle mass, because when you lose weight some of it will be muscle mass unless you weight train to keep it.

Might I suggest weight training with light cardio 3 days a week, and heavier cardio 3 days a week, alternating. Take one day off a week to let your body rest and recover. Eat protein to build and repair tissue. Drink lots of water.

Don't starve yourself. Eat healthy and avoid the junk food.

If you over-obsess about this, and try to over-train/under-eat/both, you will fail.

I know this isn't what you want to hear at age 13, but it's true. Slow and steady really does win the race.
 
dyingandlying said:
I tried starving and the mia way but it doesn't work. I can go for runs because im in the middle of nowhere by a highway and biking don’t work either. I'm really not stupid, I just wont wait any longer and let my obsession with my looks control my life. How can I push myself as far as fucking possible?

Please cut the crap and tell me how. I don’t care if I hurt myself or If I die trying and I don’t care to safely do it.
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You don't "need" to be that weight by June...you "want" to be that weight by June. Necessity is more along the lines of food, water, oxygen. If someone came to you and asked you for crazy advice that could potentially kill them...would you really give them that advice? I doubt you would.

You're 5'6" so you have the advantage of being taller anyways. Why not try to lose like 15 pounds and see how you look that way. Don't just get numbers stuck in your head and think you'd only look good if you were that number. Like I used to think 117 pounds sounded awesome...then I realized I'd be sickly looking at that weight with how I'm built. Even though I still like the thought of being 117, I would never try for that.

Use the calorie calculator on here and figure out how many you need per day. You can minus about 500 from that and add some exercising and you might lose like 2 pounds per week.

Don't hurt yourself for it. If you do it in any dangerous way, you might end up sick and then for whatever reason you're in "need" of losing this weight, you wouldn't be able to enjoy it anyways. Plus, you're 13...you don't want to screw up your body so early or you'll just have more issues when you're older.
 
dyingandlying

Based on the tone and language within your opening post, I get the impression you have more important issues then a need to drop a few extra lbs. To me, there's some inner issues that need to be resolved first. As a suggestion (from one buddy to another), forget about your current body weight. Being 40+ lbs over weight is a minor situation - compared to what's making your `inner soul boil inside`. Visit a professional or a trusted adult (like your local Church Minister, your favorite teacher, etc.) and have some serious chats about your underlying issues. Yes. I'm very serious. Sometimes, these folks are more understanding / supportive then one's own parents. Sad to say but true.

Being over weight does have its negative impacts in life (my body used to be 60 lbs over weight most of my life). But during those times, I never had inner issue like yours. Before one's outer body can be re-shapped, one's inner soul needs to be re-shapped (and come at peace with itsself) first. Do have a few chats with professionals to repair one's inside. Once the inside is re-shapped, the outer body will automatically re-shapes iteself. Always remember that forcing yourself to drop xx lbs in 4 months is only a "short term fix". To me, ones' body weight is the "output mixture" of one's daily eating, structured exercise, play, emotions and genetics lifestyle. If one of these items isn't "at balance with itself", the entire mixture is off. And one's body weight will NOT be remain within normal body range. Especially during the long run.

From one friend to another, to have a few chats with a professional. Sometimes, even their few words of "yes. I understanding.... " is more comforting and fuel for inner self repair then hours and hours of self torture exercises.

Hope this helps as well.

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