It's all about me

Cym, the "mobile sauna" comment about your car without A/C really had me cracking up. In FL of all places, OMG!

Obviously our appetites do have something to do with our weights, my sister's appetite is so much smaller than mine..meaning I'm really truly hungry constantly while she can go several hours without eating (and she's always been a lot tinier than me). It has made losing weight a struggle, but its not something I can live with either. I get literally crazy when I'm hungry, not someone you want to be around at that point. So I have to find ways to keep myself full yet still lose weight. The balance has been difficult and its making it hard to get the weight off.
 
Cym, I'm with you -- I think hunger is part of the ball game. In fact, I think you could make a pretty good evolutionary case for it. After all, food surpluses only came about in the last 10,000 years, and for the majority of people, not until the last 100 years. That means just about our entire evolutionary history, we have walked around being hungry.

I find that I get hungry almost at unpredictable moments. Yesterday, for example, I wasn't hungry at all, yet I was very active all day. The day before, I was ravenous. I don't have hormones to blame (save the slow, inevitable loss of testosterone that comes with being my age :( ), but it's there nevertheless.

Kudos to you for trying to understand what's going on and informing us, rather than just giving in to it.

Our culture makes it harder, too, by almost treating hunger as a disease. Malnutrition is the evil, but normal hunger is something we especially have to learn to live with, just as we learn to continue working out, even if we have DOMS.
 
Hi, I'm new and just browsing a few diaries. Probably should've done that before starting my own :doh:

I love the title of yours and you are so right. It is about "me" as an individual. I've long since stopped caring what people think of me in terms of accepting food - (er, maybe generally too :rolleyes: ). Seriously, how can it possibly matter to anybody other than me what I eat? Anway, your photos are amazing - when did you actually start your plan?
 
So I have just had the most fun Sunday ever...3 of my girlfriends "kidnapped me" from work this a.m. and I just got home...it's about 2 in the morning, so all of my 1x weekly "optionals" got used up today:) and i'm gonna log em in before I got to bed and forget:

What I am quite, quite please about: I turned down (mulitple times) chicken wings...which are not only one of my favorite treats, but they were cooked just like I love 'em. But I'd already had bacon at breakfast and this fat juicy burger was calling my name..it was like "don't be a glutton, pick one or the other, don't try to rationalize having both"...so I picked the burger and enjoyed every single bite...and realized that one of the neat side effects of strictly limiting some stuff to once a week is that it is really a treat. Yea, I'm a big kid and I need my "treats".....:rotflmao:

foods selected in bold:

fruits: 4-5 daily servings chosen from
apples, apricots, bananas, blueberries, canteloupe, cherries, figs, grapefruit, grapes, lemons,limes, papaya, pineapple, prunes, raisins, strawberries, tangerines, watermelon

veggies: 5-6 daily servings chosen from
artichokes, avocado, beets, broccoli, cabbage, carrots, califlower, chili pepper, daikon, garlic, ginger, mushrooms, onions, spinach, sweet potatoes, squash, tomatoes
***added hominy grits
***rice in form of sticky white rice buns

grain/nuts/seeds/legumes: 4-6 daily servings chosen from
almonds, black beans, black eye peas, buckwheat, bulgar, lentils, flax, oats, pumpkin seeds, rice, walnuts, wheat bran, wheat germ, whole wheat
***whole wheat in form of w/w rolldairy 3 daily servings chosen from:
:
yogurt, whole, skim/2% milk, cheese (any type)
***cheeses: cheddar
meat: 3 daily servings chosen from
chicken, turkey, fish

other: 1 daily serving each
olive oil
green tea

optional:
ground beef (not lean)
bacon
shredded pork
egg roll
sesame noodles
lite beer
sugar free cookies
scrambled eggs
pancit:)
 
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cym said:
So I have just had the most fun Sunday ever...3 of my girlfriends "kidnapped me" from work this a.m. and I just got home...it's about 2 in the morning, so all of my 1x weekly "optionals" got used up today:) and i'm gonna log em in before I got to bed and forget:
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You are SO disciplined! Amazing!
 
Tom: to paraphrase Jillian Michaels: "willpower is vastly over-rated...it makes you unhappy and usually fails anyway- learn discipline instead"....ha, the only thing I ever learned from "The Biggest Loser"! There was this one last piece of chocolate cake left -and even though I wasn't remotely hungry - I admit that for some reason I just plain wanted it and the willpower was rapidly flagging - I found myself making rationalizations as to why just that one little piece would be perfectly okay:rolleyes: ..."discipline" kicked in and said "just make it unavailable" so I (okay kinda wicked) suggested that two of my friends split it between them. P.S "fat related" hormones are not limited to the female gender....life is a bit unfair to the fairer sex sometimes - but not that damned unfair!:)

Doughnut: Hi There! txs, I'm getting ready to update with some fun ones from yesterday:jump: ; started mid-January 2006.

Blancita:
Quote: I get literally crazy when I'm hungry, not someone you want to be around at that point. So I have to find ways to keep myself full yet still lose weight. The balance has been difficult and its making it hard to get the weight off. That "balance" is something I have had, and apparently continue to struggle with often. It's one of the reasons (calorie control aside) I have strict limits on portion sizes - especially when eating away from home. Sometimes (right before eating) I have the thought that only a lot of food is going to fill me up...so if I'm ordering food or filling up my plate from a bunch of available dishes I have the urge/impulse to get a huge amount 'cause that's what one part of my brain is insisting it's gonna take to "do the job". I'm still working on getting that "balance" down - understanding the difference between "I need to eat something now" and "I need to eat a lot of something now" - it's the longest learning curve in the world. :mad:

Shinsplint: that would be a funny t-shirt...:)

edited to add: Yikes! I am truly brain-dead this afternoon because I just remembered what I sat down to write about in the first place: THE GIRL WITH THE BOOBS!...truly the most amazing display of positive body image I've ever encounted in my life. A dozen times I found myself thinking "Gosh, I could learn so much from this"...but I'm don't have enough functioning brain cells to do it justice right now....gotta remember to come back to this......
 
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Hi cym! Re the hunger topic...I find for me, that eating several small meals a day, I am less hungry at any one time....it's more a matter of topping off the tank. I eat less at meal time, if I am feeding my body 6 times a day. My snacks are usually 100-150 cals each...and meals are 200-400 calories. Sometimes all it takes is a few almonds or a piece of sliced fruit and some water to take the edge off and if I had waited, I would have selected too much food to eat.

I used to eat 3 large meals a day and most of the time by either lunchtime or dinner time, I was so hungry that I would eat too much before my brain realized the hunger was quelled.

I don't remember where I read or heard this, but I do remember this "to only eat until I was not hungry anymore...not to eat until I was full". There is a vast difference in those two. It does not take much food to quell hunger, but we eat so fast in our society...we rarely savor the texture, flavor, heat and content of our food. When I find that I take small bites and really enjoy the meal or dish, I am far less inclined to overeat. That has helped me monitor how much I eat and really enjoy each meal too.
 
Bethann: exactly. I normally eat so often (6-7 times a day) that a casual observer would think I was always in the process of chewing LOL...Missing a meal is such a big "no-no" for me 'cause the penalty is just too darn high!
 
Blancita: The girl with the boobs.....well, about the girl with the boobs....:)

Yesterday I met this girl, this girl with 38DD boobs (yep, I asked her). She had this body I can only describe as Anna Nichole Smith-ish poured into tight cargo capris, super high heels, itty bitty low cut top, big (big) hair...I mean the works. And she was fabulous! I wish I could describe the flurry of reaction she caused...just by not only being herself...but being so damn happy with it. I'm still laughing at some of the comments most of the women were making....cause I know these women and they are basically kind - if this girl had shown up in baggy clothes, acting all uncomfortable about her size they would have fallen all over themselves to befriend her.

But I'm so perverse...sometimes I think I swim against the mainstream just for the exercise.:doh: I wanted to hang around her and get to know her. And I'm sooooo glad...'cause A) appearances aside, she is a very smart, cool girl worth getting to know a lot better, and B) a great deal of her positive, down to earth self-image rubbed off on me and I hope it sticks.

When I am at my "normal" weight, my type is neither small and curvy, nor tiny and super feminine - both of which I think would be wonderful. Even though I have zero athletic ability, play no sports of any type, my body type is just naturally that of a short athlete...not quite my ideal aestheic but it's what I've got to "work with". But we were talking about some of the obvious looks my new not so little friend was getting, cause they weren't fazing her in the least and I had to know: does she not realize or does she not care?... and she said the coolest thing: "honey, this is just the way God me....I can't help it if some people don't like it". Ohhh, I have a new hero.
 
But it sort of sounds like she was getting all those looks not because she's so curvy but because she squeezes all those curves into tight pants, itty bitty shirts, and tops it all off with high heels and big hair. People will look at anyone dressed like that and not all are thinking "wow, hot", some (not all) are thinking "slut", "show off", or "fat". I personally love over the top people who are not ashamed to be themselves however, so the looks could've been coming from that place also.

I agree that we're all working with a certain body type that cannot be changed to a certain degree, so we need to be happy about and feel sexy in it, whether its our ideal type or not, we must find a way to play it up.
 
I have no shame in saying that if I had curves in all the right places I'd pour myself into clothes that perhaps I sniff at now :)
 
Well, cym, you got my brain going off on an introspective mode.

I think our self-image goes all the way back to when we were little. That is the recording that plays in our head. No matter what we look like now, the self-image that is imprinted on us from childhood is our companion, the form we see when we look in the mirror and the demon we really fight all along the way.
 
A great body image can be a lifelong issue to balance. Sounds great you made friends with the Vamp, yi-ah!

I found recently that, I could look a whole lot worse and still get laid. That's the nice thing about being female, I suppose...and outgoing/friendly/wild. :rotflmao:
 
Lukewarm: oddly enough I was this painfully shy kid who hated being in social situations, even when it was just extended family. When I was about 12 or 13 and had to go to a new school I was one big ball of agony (new people:eek: ) and my mom told me to just pretend that I was the exact opposite of shy...because no one would know how scared I was inside if I acted bold. And that's pretty much what I did until one day I wasn't acting...I actually had stopped being shy...I suspect she regretted teaching me that - I turned into a giant chatterbox.:)

Val: That's hysterical....I have a feeling you could look 1000x "worse" and that would not be one of your problems:) You say stuff that reminds me so much of a friend of mine. We were talking earlier about a woman we know who's in this totally destructive relationship but won't get out because she seems to think the world as we know it will end if she is not attached to some guy - decent or not. So my friend says "doesn't she know that's what batteries are for?" I have a feeling you two would get along.

Blancita: at any given non professional social situation, one, more or all of these women can be found in heels, mini-skirts, shorts, tight pants and/or cleavage baring tops.....the difference is, somebody, somewhere along the way, gave them the idea that it's okay to dress sexy and feel confident about showing your body off - if you meet some unspoken but agreed upon definition of "weight appropriate" ... OMG...this just reminded me of a movie I saw years ago..."Shallow Hal"...the actress (I forget her name) played a girl who was really very plus size but Hal alone saw her as being really traditionally "hot"...so the movie would shift in and out of scenes where she was dressed the same way (short-shorts, bikini, etc.) and the idea we (the audience) were supposed to play into (and I admit I did) was how unattractive the same girl looked when she was fat....in the same clothes, doing the same activities that made her look "hot" when she was thin.

Bethann: absolutely...for me, having been fat/thin/fat/thin it's kinda weird. When at my heaviest, I still had this mental image of myself being thin...allowed for lots and lots of denial as the scale crept up...then after losing weight it took a really long time to perceiving myself as being fat....truthfully I came close to continuing to want lose more weight...beyond what would have been a good idea ....because for it took a little while for me to stop seeing myself as overweight.
 
Any idea why you were so shy when you were little? If there's anything aside from genetics at play, I would love to head that off for my little baby. I'd hate her to be shy or feel less than solidly self-confident. I was thinking dance classes? I just worry because she doesn't have a sibling though I do want to adopt a foster child when she's around 4, but by then she may not be used to other children.

I also felt fat, even when I was at my goal weight and in reasonably good shape. My sister used to wonder why I would think I looked big, but I dont think the mirror was lying. Its hard to say. I'll be more conscious this time if I ever make it down there to the high 120's.

Have a great day!
 
Blancita: about the shy thing - I don't know why, maybe cause I was an only child for 10 years?

Spent entire day on boat which was really fun...even though I now have a sliight "sun headache". And, um, I eat too fast. I really do. My whole family sorta scarfs their meals, so I get it naturally...but I thought I'd slowed down considerably, ...but I guess not enough. I noticed that I had more or less the same volume of food on my plate during the breakfast meal...but I was totally done before either of my friends. Later I split an apple...and sure enough I was gnawing on my half of the core while she was still about half done. Same thing at lunch...my plate's half empty and everyone else is still "getting started". Whoops!

So, yesterday's foods: Pretty much kept the day on the light side to balance out Sunday.

Monday
foods selected in bold:

fruits: 4-5 daily servings chosen from
apples, apricots, bananas, blueberries, canteloupe, cherries, figs, grapefruit, grapes, lemons,limes, papaya, pineapple, prunes, raisins, strawberries, tangerines, watermelon
***swapped blackberries for blueberries

veggies: 5-6 daily servings chosen from
artichokes, avocado, beets, broccoli, cabbage, carrots, califlower, chili pepper, daikon, garlic, ginger, mushrooms, onions, spinach, sweet potatoes, squash, tomatoes

grain/nuts/seeds/legumes: 4-6 daily servings chosen from
almonds, black beans, black eye peas, buckwheat, bulgar, lentils, flax, oats, pumpkin seeds, rice, walnuts, wheat bran, wheat germ, whole wheat
***whole wheat in form of w/w flat wrap

dairy 3 daily servings chosen from:
yogurt, whole, skim/2% milk, cheese (any type)
***cheese type: muenster

meat: 3 daily servings chosen from
chicken, turkey, fish
****fish type anchovies

other: 1 daily serving each
olive oil
green tea

optional:
sugarfree pudding
saltines
 
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