Is online stuff cheating?

If you keep it secret from your other half, it's cheating. Porn doesn't have another person involved. Plus, if my other half watched porn without me, again, I would have to question what he feels is missing from our own sex life. So yeah, same thing....cheating if you do it secretely.
 
I find it quite scary that people can objectify each other to that extent...

Watch, chat, get off, go seperate ways.

Women are not really visual sexually.. so I can't really see what they supposedly get out of it.
 
Carthonn said:
It's only cheating if you get caught.
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hahaha................


they say your barometer for what amounts to cheating goes by what you'd like to get away with yourself...or something like that...i'm an old fashioned gal....zero tolerance baby...or snip snip snip bobbit style!!! :D

i suppose it could seem a bit hypocritical....serial divorcee etc...but i just think if you want to shag someone else...end your current r/ship...don't double dip!!!! i've also had a couple of flings with married men...but i didn't know they were married at the time...honest your honour i swear...ok 90% didn't.........one said he was separated blahblahblah......it was purely sex (maybe not THAT pure :newangel:) so didn't feel the need to find out for sure. it was the one time i do feel it was kind of like an affair (but only a teeny tiny bit) as i was still married technically....but that was b/c hubbie no.2 kept stalling & wouldn't sign divorce papers....but in my mind it was over.....

thats the thing...if we don't think its cheating i suppose its not!!? (but partners could disagree!!) i do remember when i ran the escort agency that often married men would tell the girls they only wanted a BJ....as to them that didn't count as cheating!!? LOL
 
baglady2713 said:
hmmmmm never thought about it like THAT...as porn!! LOL

at the end of the day if no ones getting hurt then theres no problem i suppose....except of course if your mrs finds out & she doesn't agree!!!

but all credit to you for coming back to the thread as don't think anyone agreed with your POV...or maybe some did but they just didn't want to say they did!! IYKWIM :)
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Yeah IYKWUM!!
 
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Happy Cdn Guy said:
Just wondering everyones opinion on this. I have read many threads about this topic on other boards.

IMO it isnt if you are just there for the fun of it..not making an emotional connection with someone.
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If you were married and your wife had sex with some other guy "just for the fun of it", with no emotional connection present, would you be ok with it? No, you'd still consider it cheating.

Happy Cdn Guy said:
I see no harm in chatting or camming with someone online if its only for that one time...what about you!!!
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If you were married and your wife had sex with some other guy "only that one time", would you be ok with it? No, you'd still consider it cheating.

I say that because, in my opinion, there are too many people that try and justify their disrespectful actions towards their significant other by trying to put a positive spin on what they have done...

"I just had sex with him for the sex. It's not like I love him or anything."
"She only went down on me once. It's not like I do it all the time."
"Most people cheat, so what I'm doing isn't anything unordinary."

Personally, if you are in a relationship, I believe that you should be 100% dedicated to your significant other, both in the physical and emotional sense.
 
So true Chef, funny how some people think if its online then its ok.
Its almost like 'but i was drunk so it doesnt count'.
 
wishes said:
So true Chef, funny how some people think if its online then its ok.
Its almost like 'but i was drunk so it doesnt count'.
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Oh God...I HATE the "I was drunk" excuse. When I got a DUI and had to go to court, I told the judge, "I wouldn't normally do something that wrong Your Honor, but I was drunk"...but the judge didn't seem to listen to me.
 
ChefChiTown said:
I say that because, in my opinion, there are too many people that try and justify their disrespectful actions towards their significant other by trying to put a positive spin on what they have done...
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I REALLY like the way you put that. Cheating isn't about YOU and how you feel or what you think ("you" as in the general other person; nobody specific), it's about your significant other and what they think and feel--and if you respect them, you won't let their trust and faith be in vain. And if you don't respect them enough, then maybe its time to move on.
 
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