Im new to being "Fat".

Jami3LynnR

Jami3LynnR

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Hi guys... This is the first time I'm finding myself in any type of weight loss forum. I've never been "overweight" but I have never been "fit" either. I have always been right in between the two and I was always able to lose 5 lbs quick if I ever felt like I was gaining weight. I am now 27 and boy has that changed. I have 3 sons and with my 1st two I was ALWAYS able to get back down to my pre pregnancy weight within 6 months without really trying.
I HATE TO WORKOUT. But I feel like I have no other choice now as im growing older and my metabolism is changing.
The heaviest I've ever been (and it was when I was Pregnant) was 185 lbs. Keep in mind I am 5'5''.
My average weight as an adult has always been 140 lbs, and I was able to carry it well... My goal has always been to get down to 130 lbs and toned, but that hasn't happened. But I want it to happen. I will make it happen with the support from you all.
Today I am 156 lbs. WOAH, that's not cool. I am no longer able to hide my fat in my clothes and I carry all my weight in my arms and legs...
I don't expect that I will have a lot of time to post on here, but I promise to check in and believe me, I will be reading along.


-Jamie
 
Wow! I'm "new to being fat" really hit home with me. I'm the same way. Not sure how things changed...but change they did! I'm embarking on a serious lifestyle change ASAP. Going to do weight watchers and portion control, and WORK OUT. Not gonna hurt myself...gonna take increasingly more strenuous hikes each day for at least at hour, stretching, and my treadmill. Aside from how my looks have changed...I'm physically UNCOMFORTABLE being fat. Good luck on your journey!
 
Aw, neanerzzz. WE CAN DO IT!
I am uncomfortable too.. And I don't know if my husband is being honest with me or not when he tells me he likes me thicker.... But at the end of the day it is how I feel about my body and not how he feels about it. I just don't know how to motivate myself to do more. I seriously love to eat, this is the hardest thing EVER! Anyone look into appetite suppressants before? IF so, do they work?
 
The best appetite suppressant I have ever found is attitude! For me staying positive and HONEST about the actual calories I am consuming is the most effective way for me to STOP when I am over-consuming. My husband is also very complimentary...when I feel he shouldn't be...but we should be grateful that they really love us, and don't want to hurt our feelings. But I have to stop relying on his perception...since I know my weight is unhealthy. It is SO weird to be fat! I have never struggled with my weight...it was always a non-issue...and I could wear any clothing style I wanted. That is when I started to really recognize "hey...I think I'm fat!"...when the cute styles I always wore...no longer looked right. Then I weighed myself and YOWZA...the scale does not lie. So...OK...time to make a change...a lifestyle change. I also really hear what you're saying about not knowing how to motivate yourself anymore :flame: where has my drive to be fabulous gone? Well...we will get it back! Having someone in the same boat will help! I will be posting here everyday to report my calories and work-outs. Maybe we can motivate each other? ;)
 
Hey Jamie, I just joined here today as well. Loving the forums so far. You should definitely start doing weight resistance training, this will tone your entire body and help get rid of that stubborn fat around your arms, legs and buttocks. Toned and curvy is ALWAYS good. Hehe, good luck on your journey.
 
I want to weight train, butttttt Im super intimidated at the gym and I do not have weights at home. I wouldn't know where to start!!! How often should one weight train say to start toning arms?
 
I head the same problem with the gym. I remember that i payed for 1 month and i didn't go in because i was feeling strange. But belive me its just the first time, after that u realize that everyone wich is there start also in some point. Nobody born with the six tablet's and the trein body;) so don't be afraid go for your goal and don't care about nobody there. Big kiss( sorry for my bad english :)
 
Hey Jamie, that's totally fine. You don't need to go to the gym, just buy yourself some light weights that cost around $10-$30 and start using those to tone your arms.

Make sure you do squats at least once a week to keep your lower body toned as well. It's ideal to have your whole body toned, you don't want toned arms and shoulders but a flat back and legs. Good luck
 
Hey Jamie! I totally understand where you're coming from...your post really resonates with me. I'm 5'5.5, 22, and until this past year had always been a healthy-ish 132-142 lbs. Of course, as a teenager I never felt skinny enough, but in hindsight I was a perfectly normal weight for my frame and lifestyle (big boobs, didn't work out much).

Between last August and October, I ballooned to 170 lbs due to being in a long-term relationship (on the positive side), and on the negative side smoking way too much weed, eating way too much take-out, and falling out with some friends-- which led me to bunker at home with my bf and repeat the cycle. As someone who had always been on the larger side of small, I felt completely alien and unhappy in my new bigger body-- the hardest was seeing and feeling the weight in my stomach and puffed-up face.

About six weeks ago, I got serious about changing my lifestyle. I cut out alcohol, grains, refined sugar, and all processed food, and started incorporating veggie + fruit juices into my daily meal plan. Truthfully, I have not worked out much (that's my next step), but as of week six I'm down a solid 20 lbs to 150. I feel like I have almost earned back my figure and face! I would still like to lose some more weight, at least to my natural size of 140 (though 125 would be ideal), but you get the picture.

A couple thoughts...
I don't know what your emotional relationship with food/weight is, but in my experience it can be a really positive experience to live in a larger body. As a teenager and then as a young woman, I had until last year always been terrified that nobody would find me attractive or worthwhile if I went over 140 lbs. While I wasn't crazy about how I looked or felt at 170, my friends, family, and loved ones never once made me feel like my weight gain affected how they thought of me as a person. While I know not everyone is lucky enough to have this experience, it helped my body image issues SO much to decouple food/weight from my sense of self-worth. Most importantly, if you can accept and love yourself at a higher weight, you take shame out of the equation...which reduces emotional eating and prepares you for healthy weight loss based on self-care and intuitive eating, rather than starving yourself to meet society's standards.

If you haven't seen the documentary Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead, I would definitely recommend it! It's on Netflix and also available for free online. It follows two men on a weight loss/health improvement journey that involved juicing for 60 days. While that measure is pretty extreme, juicing has become a big staple in my diet and is an amazing way to quickly drop lbs while detoxing your body and filling it with micronutrients.

Best of luck!
 
Welcome aboard, Jamie!

You've been handed some awesome advice so far. A couple of random thoughts...

1. Start small. There's no "too small." It's when people apply too much pressure to change and wind up taking on too much that they crash and burn. You can't brute force this kind of thing. I mean, you can... like most everyone else out there. But you'd also join them in the ranks of people who are really good at losing weight but atrocious at keeping it off. This is about gently nudging change.

Don't focus on the fat and losing it. Focus on your behavior and tiny choices you can start making consistently today. Take an experimental mindset to it... where you set a target skill or two, show up, practice said skills, and then reflect every week or two in order to assess how it's going.

2. You say that you love food. You can love food and manage your weight.

3. Your body. You're right... while you're husband's opinion matters... it's ultimately your call on what you want for your physique. I will say this, though. As a guy... I do prefer some feminine fat / curves. Curves mixed with strength = the ultimate look in my opinion. But again, that's just my opinion.

4. Back to nutrition... if you were your own coach... what's the first thing you'd call yourself on regularly?

5. Exercise. As noted above... the gym culture can be very intimidating to a newcomer since everyone "already knows what they're doing." But trust me... they don't. Most people are just winging it. And even if they aren't.... they're too concerned with their own training to worry about what you're doing. That likely doesn't make it any easier to commit to going... but I'd say it's worth trying for a week or two just to rule out any false perceptions that are standing between you and the fitness you desire. If you are indeed correct about the gym culture... my advice would be to invest in a decent pair of adjustable dumbbells that go up to 40-50 lbs each. I can help you shop these out if you're interested. But this would be the most versatile piece of equipment you could add to a home gym if it's within your budget.

I do online fitness coaching and roughly 40% of my clients are women who train out of their homes. It's very doable to have great results working out in your home wth minimal equipment.

-Steve
 
Jami3LynnR said:
Hi guys... This is the first time I'm finding myself in any type of weight loss forum. I've never been "overweight" but I have never been "fit" either. I have always been right in between the two and I was always able to lose 5 lbs quick if I ever felt like I was gaining weight. I am now 27 and boy has that changed. I have 3 sons and with my 1st two I was ALWAYS able to get back down to my pre pregnancy weight within 6 months without really trying.
I HATE TO WORKOUT. But I feel like I have no other choice now as im growing older and my metabolism is changing.
The heaviest I've ever been (and it was when I was Pregnant) was 185 lbs. Keep in mind I am 5'5''.
My average weight as an adult has always been 140 lbs, and I was able to carry it well... My goal has always been to get down to 130 lbs and toned, but that hasn't happened. But I want it to happen. I will make it happen with the support from you all.
Today I am 156 lbs. WOAH, that's not cool. I am no longer able to hide my fat in my clothes and I carry all my weight in my arms and legs...
I don't expect that I will have a lot of time to post on here, but I promise to check in and believe me, I will be reading along.


-Jamie
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Hi, I understand it is difficult to undergo a phase in life where we need to watch what we eat. I have been overweight even since i was a teenager and it has been a long struggle with food and weight issue for me. Now i am 80 kg and even though i am 5 7" i am overweight. Today i joined this forum and have decided to go one meal a day diet. This means i will only eat my breakfast and my lunch and dinner would be fresh fruits and vegetables. I like to wish you success in weight loss . I want some will power and determination and friends here would offer me that. I wish to loss 10 kg in one month.Cheers to you.
 
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