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Hello, my name is Cheryl and I just found this forum through a web search for weight loss. I am 29 years old, I just hit 195 pounds, and I am only 5'2". I am a stress eater and also have a 6 year old with Cystic Fibrosis who is on a high fat, high calorie, and high salt diet and I find myself eating with him way too much! I have 3 boys ages 4, 6, & 8 and am really starting to realize how much my weight has been affecting them, I am too tired to keep up with them anymore, not to mention that I need to get into shape so that I will be able to be there for them growing up! I have cut down on the amount of food I eat, changed what I eat, and have started riding a bike with the boys and trying to be more active, but between working full time and taking care of the house and my kids I am so tired that it is very hard to get motivated! I am so afraid that I will give up again just like I have so many times before! If anyone out there knows what it's like to be a stress eater and has any ideas on what I can do to help stop myself from going to the kitchen when I get upset I would greatly appreciate it!! This is harder for me then when I quit smoking!!
 
Quitting smoking....I am getting there. I figure one vice at a time, right?

It sounds like you are going through quite a crisis at the moment. I can only imagine having three boys, as I was one myself, and all I thought about was food. That actually followed me to where I am now.

Just coming forward is a big step. Realization that you have a problem is the first step to solving it. Now you are worried about being able to follow through with it. You have plenty of courage, or you wouldn't have shared with everyone what you just did. That was a big step and you need a pat on the back for it. Right now I have a big stinking ugly fat photograph on the fridge. I make sure it is at eye level, and when I go to the fridge, that is the first thing that I see. It sounds a little dumb, but hey...I am willing to try anything. I got the idea from some talk show a long time ago.

You can do it, csurace! We are all behind you!!!
 
Welcome!!
We all know what it's like to eat due to stress!! We don't know exactly how it feels to be in your situation, but we know what stress is, and we are here to help you pull through this! I am glad you found the forum, as it has proven to be one of the only things that kept me grounded while I was going through a lot of stress.
You are doing a lot, so you should already be proud. Making those changes is often the hardest part.

It's great that you are taking the right steps, and now you have us, and we are going to be here for you throughout your journey!
 
It's really great to see that you're ready to make some positive changes in your lifestlye.

You say you have trouble getting motivated. Well, you have 3 little motivators right there for you--ages 4, 6, and 8. Use them. You have trouble keeping up with them now. You want to be there for them as they grow up. You want to set a positive example for them so that they grow up on the right track. All the motivation you need is right there for you in infinite supply. Now go put it to good use!


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Thank you all for your positive words! I really think that finding this forum will be a great tool for me when I am feeling weak! That is my biggest problem with getting this diet started, for so long I kept saying to myself "I really want to eat that now so I will let myself have it today and start dieting tomorrow." The only problem, as I am sure you all know is that "tomorrow" never comes when you allow yourself to think that way!! Now I can log on here when I get those feelings instead of giving in to them! My kids are great motivators, and they are so happy that I have stopped saying we will do that tomorrow and started doing it now!! They love the daily bike rides and the time we are now spending "doing" something together rather than "watching" something together! My husband is a good support, and he has been very patient with me even though I am a far cry from the size 3 women he fell in love with! But his diet consists of nothing but pizza and fried foods, so it is hard learning not to eat with him (he has one of those matabolizims that we all want, he is at the highest weight of his life right now, 150), but he loves me and is really trying to be supportive. But, he is afraid to say too much when he thinks I am falling off my diet again because I have a bad habit of yelling at him for trying to do what I asked him to do and help me stay on track. I am working on that, too! I love my boys and really want to set a better example for them than I have been! I am happy with what I have started, and am determined to stick with it this time!!! I do have a question, does anyone know how often I should weigh myself to see if I am making any progress? I have the scale hidden right now because I tend to get obsessed and will weigh myself everytime I see the scale if it is out all the time. Thank you all again and I look forward to being able to get to know you all!!
 
Great job hiding the scale!! That's important. If you notice, the best feeling is not what the scale says, but how your clothes fit and how your body feels so just remember those things are going to be the most important measurement, because muscle is heavier than fat, and because you will go up and down with water. Otherwise, some people weigh themselves weekly, or bi-weekly. I just do it every so often to get an idea of where I am with my body water %.
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MasterofJune said:
Quitting smoking....I am getting there. I figure one vice at a time, right?

Right now I have a big stinking ugly fat photograph on the fridge. I make sure it is at eye level, and when I go to the fridge, that is the first thing that I see. It sounds a little dumb, but hey...I am willing to try anything. I got the idea from some talk show a long time ago.
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I have to agree, one vice at a time, just be careful that you don't turn back to food when you do quit smoking! But, I am telling you, my food cravings are much worse than my cigarette ones ever were!

I don't think the picture on the fridge is a dumb idea, Bette Midler's character did that is "First Wives Club" and I have actually been thinking about doing that also. Does it help?
 
Welcome, I'm new here too. One thing I can imagine with working full time, having a child with a chronic condition, and being a mom to 3 boys, is that it would be very hard for you to make time to de-stress. The reality is that your life is very stressful, and that may not change. What could change is how you deal with it. Could you ask your husband to give you 30 or 60 minutes a day and/or an evening a week so you could have time to yourself for whatever? Meditate, visit with a girlfriend, take a bath, watch a movie uninterrupted, read a book, walk in the woods. If you don't have some alternatives to eating that are soothing and nourishing, it would be hard to not eat no matter how badly you want to lose weight.
Hope this is helpful.
Merci
 
Britta Bear said:
Great job hiding the scale!! That's important. If you notice, the best feeling is not what the scale says, but how your clothes fit and how your body feels so just remember those things are going to be the most important measurement, because muscle is heavier than fat, and because you will go up and down with water. Otherwise, some people weigh themselves weekly, or bi-weekly. I just do it every so often to get an idea of where I am with my body water %.
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I am thinking I will just keep it hidden, at least for now. Maybe when my clothes start fitting better I will start weighing myself again, but only once in a while. Thank you for the advice, I will also keep this in mind when I do start weighing in!
 
Merci, thank you for your advice as well!! My husband wants me to succeed and is willing to help, so I am sure he would be willing to give me some time to myself, like right now he is watching the boys so I have time to get on here. My girlfriend from work is always yelling at me that I never take time for myself, so I think you are both right! It is time for me to do that, it will be better for my husband and my kids in the long run! I am happier and more willing to do things with them when I am not so overly stressed out!
 
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