I want my life BACK!!! HELP

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Shrinking Kam

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I have not always been big... but in the last 5 years my weight has slowly but surely crept on... NOW ITS OUT OF CONTROL!


I am a wife, a mother and work a demanding full time job. I am time poor, and have just had a few days off work - due to the holiday season...

I have all the excuses as to why I eat unhealthy food and do not exercises.. but ultimately I know they are EXCUSES and I really need to be accountable for my own actions. No one forces me to eat junk food.... no one forces me to sit on the couch in my spare time and watch movies...


In my few days off, I realized I am only existing... I am not living my life at all... I am just going through the motions. I avoid social occasions because I am now too embarrassed for my friends to see how much weight I have put on. I used to be a competitive athlete, but have lost all my will and determination. I cry when I go to my wardrobe and nothing will fit me. I feel like I have hit rock bottom... I look at my self and think how can my husband think I am still attractive... my daughter starts school this year and the last thing I want, is for her to be embarrassed she has a FAT mother...


for health reasons as well.... I JUST WANT TO BE FIT AND HEALTHY AND HAPPY.... I know this is going to be a hard road....but I do need help, and encouragement... this is a hard thing to do by yourself. I am 5.6" and weigh 237lb.... I have not told another living person those stats, but it does feel good to put them down. My goal is to weigh myself every day - I am going to eat healthy and exercise - hopefully this is the first step to the rest of my life, and I will never ever ever let my self go like this again.... I am already having day dreams of BURNING my fat clothes....


I really hope there is some like minded people out there, so we can encourage each other...


I am going to put my shoes and socks on and jump on the tread mill... I am going to use this forum to record my daily weight and calories burnt in exercise in the hope it motivates me to keep going.... I have big things planned for 2012.... Hopefully - I WILL BE SHRINKING!


DAY 1

weight - 237lb

Calories burnt - 516 (walking on the treadmill - incline 5 speed 4.5 - 50 Min's)
 
It may be hard, but I have found a lot of peace in not caring what others think. Loosing for health reason is a very good attitude in my opinion, and is the main reason I am doing it.
 
Two days ago I had to watch myself on video in a room full of friends/family (none of which are as big as me). I felt so miserable and fat, it was terrible. I was in tears and feeling down about myself for 1.5 days and then realized I need to get back on track with losing weight. But more importantly, I need to do it for my health and for the people who love me and want me around for a very long time.


It's peaceful as mentioned ahead of my post, to not care about what others think. Losing weight for yourself is the way to go!!!!! Good luck to you :)
 
DAY 2


weight - 237lb - no change in weight


Calories burnt - 511 (walking on the treadmill - incline 5 speed 4.5 - 50 Min's)


thanks so much for your thoughts... yes, its very true - losing weight for your self is definitely the motivation... I think I have just got to the point where I am sick of sitting on the side lines and not taking part in life... I want that excited feeling again - to feel the rush of adrenaline...


Day 2 was hard... after I finished work and did all my chores, I sat on the couch and turned on the TV... I though to my self I really don't feel like exercise tonight...But then the thought of me posting my goals here yesterday and the feeling that I was accountable to some one and I had actually written it down made me get up off my but and turn on the tread mill... I won't sugar coat it... it was very hard & and the five minute mark, I was ready to push that red stop button... I did stop at the 20 & 40 min marks and did some arm curls with 3kg weights so I could catch my breath...


Now, I am sitting here red faced and puffed - but I feel such satisfaction that I have actually done day 2... I know I have a long way to go, but baby steps - I am going to take it one day at a time.


I was a little disappointed at my food today - but tomorrow is another day - and the though of undoing all the good I am doing with exercise will deter me tomorrow i am sure...
 
Hi,


Your post really hit home with me. I'm 5ft 5" and weigh 244.25lbs. I just couldn't believe it when I seen that this morning. I knew it would be bad but that was such a shock I froze and tears welled in my eyes. Last year I lost weight and got down to my lowest adult weight ever of 196lbs so i've gained like 40lbs or so in just a year. I know why it happened and I know just what I ate and how much of it I ate and that's why it happened. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut. I had severe finacial problems that just was in my head 24/7 I couldn't sleep with worry. I felt depressed and used to go to the local £1 and spend £6-£7 in multi bags of crisps, bags of sweets, bags of biscuits etc etc and would eat a hell of a lot of them in one night. I had no clothes because nothing I had fitted me. I live in leggings and baggy tops just now.

I've changed my life and am now ok financially which is a huge huge huge weight off my mind, so now I can just focus on me.


I have 100lbs to lose - it is a hell of a lot of weight to get off that will probably take me about 2yrs - its annoying though cos it goes on so easily and quickly and takes 3 times the time to get it off. I've done this many times and have always failed. It is a new year and 52 weeks of it are in front of me so I am aiming for 1lb a week so by the end of this year I will be 52lbs lighter and half way there. Anything over and above that will be a very welcome bonus.


You seem to be doing great so far - keep it up. We will not fail this time!!!! You can do this and there are loads of people here for the same reason that will encourage and support you.


I look forward to reading your progress x
 
I would personally recommend you keep focus on food. This is good start for everyone and especially for people who are busy.

Try think about these 3 simple rules every day.


Don't eat after 19.30! If you are really hungry after this time choose some vegetable or rice bread.

Don't eat sweets!

Don't eat oily food!


If you have time to exercise that would be really helpful but if you keep up good work with these 3 simple rules... you will loose weight..

It's not that hard, you just need to used to it..
 
I have one disagreement with the "oily food" thing. Some oily foods, like nuts and olive oil are very good on a weight loss regimen. The key is moderation. I have an ounce of peanut butter on a slice of wheat toast almost every weekday for breakfast, and it's working really well for me. I commute to work on a bicycle and it is a real power breakfast. I eat Avocados when I can get them , and olives are a favorite snack.
 
SK - I feel your pain. It can be so unbelievably frustrating to not see results when you are doing so much hard work! I too have been in that predicament and have spoken with many people across a variety of ages, life stages and socio-economic status' and believe me, they share your pain too. Although I dont attempt to know exactly what you have been through (being a single male!) I have spoken with many women in a similar situation (mothers who are time poor and full/part time workers etc.) whilst researching my online health consultancy service (I don't want to spruik so I won't mentiont the name!). There is no 'answer' to your problem but I have leanrt that keeping a realistic perspective helps re-align your motivation when you are feeling at your most vulnerable. Below are a few things that may help:


Firstly, you are doing the right thing! It sounds like you are engaging in regular and varied exercise which is great. Keep your body guessing by adjusting your workout and push yourself when you can (learn to love "the burn"!).


Secondly, this problem is NOT unique to you. As mentioned above, women of all walks of life face similar issues and dietitians will tell you that your biological makeup has a lot to do with weight loss (so exercise isn't everything - there may be hidden parts of your diet that may be working against you as some previous posters have alluded to).


Thirdly, understand and AFFIRM that 'goals are not an outcome, but are a process'! A better word would be “goalingâ€, as it covers the steps, stages, and time taken, of the process. First - state your goal in a positive form ("I will be losing weight over the next month"). Second - describe your goal in a positive form ("I will be jogging every morning..."). Thirdly, start now! Focus all the things you can do int he here and now toward it's achievement. Fourthly, be as specific as possible (yes, the old SMART goals trick). Lastly, look at thins sequentially ("There is no royal road. One thing at a time and all things in succession").


Keep at it SK. Best of luck!


Michael
 
I agree with my Michael about goal setting! One thing that I would add about goals: it's also important to have process-oriented goals. For example, my goal for now is to eat a green salad (spinach, tomatoes, bell peppers, cucumbers with olive oil) daily. If I don't have it with my lunch, then I have it with my dinner. When I have my salad I feel satisfied that I have achieved my today's small goal:) You could try that with any food that you think would be beneficial for your weight loss. Or it could be - having glass of water every time you want to have a soft drink. You know better than anyone else what eating habits sabotage your weight loss - so it would be really easy for you to come up with process-oriented goal! Good luck!
 
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