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CrystalEvelyn

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Hi, my name's Crystal and I started an account here a couple days ago as a last resort. The last 2 years have been really hard. I'll try to give it to you in a nutshell. I got pregnant at 18 gave birth at 19 to a 28weeker 2lb 2ounce boy. That's when I started gaining some weight. Going through the NICU for months was a hell no one should ever have to experience. My son was sent home on oxygen and several machines. Nonetheless, right when things started going good his father (who I was in love with but disappeared right after we had sex for the first time... later I discovered he went to jail for a year). Anyway, I moved back to Oregon (from AZ) to make it work. Well the last 16 months have been horrible. I'm constantly lied to, cheated on. All I do is stay for my son who loves his daddy to death. The only way I've been able to get through day to day is by eating my pain away. I know it's horrible and I know it needs to stop. The thing is I can't do it by myself hense the last resort (coming on here). I really need support/friends. I know I can do it if I had someone to be accountable to, someone to talk to when I'm feeling down rather than turn to food. I'll wrap this up sorry it's long. If only one person could help me I would be sooo touched and grateful. Thanks!
 
Depressing story there but I not long ago read that before you can get yourself mentally in a state to be able to achieve your goals regarding weight loss you must first remove yourself of the emotional constraints that are causing you to put on the weight in the first place.

In other words, if you're unhappy with your position in life and are only staying put for the sake of something that makes you unhappy then perhaps it may be better to sort that situation out before tackling other problems!

Hope this helps
 
The first thing you need to do is get yourself out of that situation.

Your son is not getting any benefits from being around a father like that. A bad home life is going to VERY negatively impact your son.

Seek sole custody of the child and get out of that situation.
 
A little help

First off, I agree 100% with Jeff and Nixon. Life is too short to put up with a life that you hate. Just think of the lessons that you're teaching baby.

Putting that aside, I am going to base my advise on the assumption that you are staying put.

The thing that jumps out at me first is your emotional eating.

There is no point in trying any form of dieting if you don't get this under control first.

If your eating is out of control now, it will only get worse when you reduce calories and the hormonal response to caloric restriction kicks in.

Depending upon your financial situration, I would recommend a few different options:

Psychological counselling - specifically cognitive or cognitive-behavioral therapy. There may even be some gov't / support angeny funded programs that you can look into.

Support Group: TOPS - I can't post the URL as I am too new here.

This program has been proven very successful - I blogged on the fantastic success of one elderly member - I would have posted the link, but I am too new

Do it yourself Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - Judith Beck has a how-to paperback and a companion workbook that teaches you cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques to change your thinking surrounding food

I have seen this work
Go to Amazon and search for - Amazon.com: The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person: Judith S. Beck

Her book should be available at the library. I don't know if the workbook is necessary, you may be able to make due with the original text.

Good luck...I will check back in on you
 
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