Hi Kimmy,
You might be damaging your own self esteem by trying to compare yourself with your mother. Try to catch yourself when you start comparing youself to others - and in your mind just say, "stop." Try picking out your own best attributes (and they don't have to be physical!). A lot of us women start picking apart our bodies when really, it is a negative mental image that is hurting us more than our physical looks. Hope this makes sense. It is a constant battle for so many of us.
Honestly, the more you describe, the more I think you just need some toning. Walking can help tighten up a lot of jiggly-ness. I'm a huge fan of hula hooping - and found it works my entire core - and I've lost inches from legs, middle, arms, etc. Definitely do not eat any less than you do now. Try to drink plenty of water and find something like walking or hooping that will work your whole body.
I think you're right. I definitely have some self esteem issues, and even my husband is worrying. I'm just so determined to have this "perfect" body, I guess I'm forgetting about what's really important.
I forgot to answer a question that Steve had asked my about my food intake. I use a calorie counter program that helps me keep track. I get a little obsessive about it (I enter everything I eat either RIGHT AFTER I eat it, or before I eat it).
Here is a sample of how I eat, I am vegetarian:
Friday
Breakfast: Lots of oatmeal with brown sugar (400)
Lunch: Veggie patty with corn and peas (300)
Dinner: Oatmeal Clif bar with Mango slices and an apple (420)
Total: 1130
Saturday
Breakfast: Oatmeal with brown sugar (200)
Lunch: Grilled cheese with Tomato soup (350)
Snack: Green Grapes (80)
Dinner: Olive Garden (Salad and half Capellini Pomodoro with WW noodles) (550)
Total: 1180
Sunday
Breakfast: Oatmeal with brown sugar (250)
Messup: a tiny bit of chocolate chip cookie dough (100)
Lunch: Leftover Olive Garden and a few of Kevin's french fries (360)
Snack: Grapes and baby carrots and a small orange (130)
Dinner: Baked Beans and Toast (380)
Snack: Apple Juice Popsicle (30)
Total: 1250
Monday
Breakfast: Oatmeal with Blueberries and brown sugar: (250)
Lunch: Boca Burger on WW bun w/ Avocado (370)
Snack: Raw Baby Carrots (30)
Dinner: Boca Burger on WW bun w/ Avocado (370)
Snack: One Slice of peanut butter toast on WW bread, Apple Juice Popsicle! (250)
Total: 1270
I drink anywhere from 2.5-4 liters of water per day.