I need help!

[Meriam]

Today Ive finally come to realize how badly i need to lose weight. Before I shrugged it off because I always thought i looked fine and my social life was doing good too. But i just saw a horrible disgusting atrocious pic of myself and let me tell you I certainly do NOT look fine

I`m 16 years old, I stand at a hobbit sized 5 ft. 4 and i tip the scales at 167 pounds. My biggest problem area is my waist which is 39 cm around.

If Im going to follow a diet I need structure. I mean it needs to tell me EXACTLY what to to eat EXACTLY when to eat, and EXACTLY how much to eat.
and i hate exercising!!!!! what dummy invented up THAT stuff!!! i honestly think i may have heart problems already because i cannot run for more than 30 seconds without hyperventilating and feeling lightheaded. If im going to excercise i need something moderate, at least to start with or else ill faint and die

and im at risk for diabetes because my dad has it AND I have a big waist. so honestly i think im pretty much gauranteed to develop it if i dont do something fast

Ive looked around the site and seen how amazing everyone stories are and how fantastic you all look and it almost made me want to cry because i want to be that person!!! i want to have an amazing transformation like everyone else!!!

Im wondering what everyone did to get those fab bods and what diets you all can recommend that work the best and can gaurantee me my goal weight of 120

im sorry if i sound like the typical whiny teenager but im very new to dieting and im very upset right now and i just really need some help

 

[maleficent]

Dieting isn't going to get you anywhere...

Tough love time..

Stop wishing you could be everyone else and work with what you've got... Sit your butt down and start reading the stickied threads around the forum about nutrition, and exercise as well as what's in the on topic thread.

There's no mystery to weight loss... It's consistent behavior - eating reasonable calories and exercising regularly... No special diets, no special tricks...

Find an activity you like and commit to it..,

Find the reasons why you want to loose weight and remind yourself of them regularly.

Talk to whomever does the shopping and meal prepation i your house about your goals and what you want to achieve... having the entire family on a healthier path is never a bad thing.

start a diary in the section below -it's a great place to keep track of youor successes and challenges and having others get to know you better.

And focus less on the scale and more on measurements and how you're feeling -the scale isn't really overly relavant - no one but you will ever know what you weigh... don't obsess over it.

 

[PitbullMommy]

I'm with maleficent. A quote is no truer said than what my fiance often states, "Don't complicate the matter, just do it!".

Just because you're out of shape doesn't mean that you have heart problems. The chances of you having already done damage that cannot be repaired is slight in comparison to the changes you can make...and the improvements you can do for your body, health and your lifestyle.

Set a goal. For me, it took google.com and finding free calenders. I printed them off. Each saturday from July 18th until January 1st, I'll be weighing in (I do it daily too). I mark on the calender whether or not I made my quota. So far, I've lost enough in the last 10 days to set myself ahead for this month. So, since my main drive to do this is to be in a bikini on Jan 2nd in San Juan, I'm buying myself a new bikini each month to celebrate my efforts. I'm ready to wear size 4 jeans. I'm ready to not worry about hearing "humph!" if I decide to sit on my fiance's lap, lol. I just want this for me, mainly.

Have some goals like I do!! Sit down, think it out thoroughly. If you want this for your health, then you need to do some research about what conditions (it sounds like you are already there) you're predisposed to. If nothing else, let them scare you away from the heavier weight. Let your brain overload itself and say "Oh, no! I don't NEED that bag of cookies!" when your tummy starts saying, "I need oreos...". Satisfy your craving with a healthy treat instead of the fattening ones. No one is going to stop you from having cookies, candy, bread, pasta, etc. You don't need a diet, you need a lifestyle change! You must know about portion control. If you're that bad...when you get home from the grocery store (eat before you go!), divide everything up into "serving size" portions. Break out a dry erase marker for marking re-usable items like plastic wear. Note on the container how many calories you're going to be taking in. This helps if you can sit down, like I can, and devour 1/2 bag of chips or 24 oreos. Have a note pad. Write down how many calories you have consumed or, better yet, start with how many calories you CAN take in (for me 1500) and start DEDUCTING with how many calories you've just eaten. I take my slip of paper everywhere and write down everything (if I cannot get a certain number because, say, I snacked on 3 french fries from a friend's happy meal...I estimate. 55 calories for a few fries sounds about right...be liberal) including drinks. At the end of the day, I come home...log on to this forum...and detail in my diary what I did and how I felt. Tomorrow, I can look back on what I did when I'm standing on the scale. If my numbers are headed up, I did something wrong. If they're going down, I did something right. Learn...repeat when you do it right. Learn...change it up if you did it wrong. Set a goal for yourself that you KNOW you can obtain! Tell yourself that you want to be at 130# by next May. And stick with it. Take your lunch instead of eating at school. Be focused on your new lifestyle instead of what your friends are eating. Steer clear of the vending machines! Set yourself up for success and failure will sulk in the background. Do not accept failure on any level.

As far as exercise goes, start walking. You don't have to get winded to be burning calories. Even getting up and taking a shower burns calories. Find something you love. For me, I dislike exercise too. But I LOVE spending time with my dog. And if that means getting Brogan out twice a week on a leash or in a dog park to play ball...then that's where my passion lies. And it's less likely to feel like exercise. It's more like spending time with the ones you love. Get an MP3 player or something that you can listen to while you exercise. Vary the music or listen to the radio station if you can dial in. My fiance bought me a $40 MP3 player this past Christmas (and figured I wouldn't really like it). It's become my new best friend. It goes to work with me, goes with me to tan, goes with me on walks...I take it everywhere with me in the car. If you need to, put a few "fat" songs on there...and use them to motivate yourself.

Don't panic, be logical and sit down, use the internet to your benefit and LEARN about how people made the transformations. It was by seeing a goal and doing what had to be done to obtain it. Good luck!

 

[Meriam]

Thanks for the responses you guys

Im going to be starting my weight loss in september because ill be on a trip all august and i wont have any of the tools i plan on using. Im going to do it the old fashioned way, counting calories and exercise. 1500 cals and an 1 hours worth of exercise for now. Ill use those calorie calcutors youre talking about pitbullmommy and ill def. be cutting down in portions too and i plan on making myself a workout playlist on my mp3 because its true- everything get so much more fun when you listen to music. i just have a GARGANTUAN problem with cravings. WHY DOES FOOD HAVE TO BE SO GOOD! geez! im middleeastern and all of our food is absolutely scrumptuous i just cannot get enough of it. we use meat and rice in like, all of our food so thats a big problem. and ive been eating pita bread and cheese for breakfast for the last 10 years of my life so i just planning on cutting that out entirely and eating fruit instead.

I have 3 questions:
1. after looking at more of the before and after pics on this site i found something was missing. BOOOBS! i dont want to lose mine, is there any way to keep them the size there are now? i dont want to get rid of one unattractive problem only to get another

2. can my 1 hour of excersise be spread out or does it have to be continuos? what i plan on doing is a 15 minute bike ride in the morning, 15 minutes on the treadmill in the afternoon, 15 minutes walking in the evening, and then 15 minutes of fun dancing before bed. will this work?

and 3. should i focus on getting weight off, then building muscle mass, or doing both at the same time?

 

[allyphoe]

1. after looking at more of the before and after pics on this site i found something was missing. BOOOBS!

Sorry, you're at the mercy of genetics, there. We're the same height, but I started a lot higher than you, and I went from a 34DD to a 34B. My sister, OTOH, never loses anything there, and it's the first place she gains, so hers are ginormous (also a downside).

2. can my 1 hour of excersise be spread out or does it have to be continuos?

You get more health benefits from having your heart rate elevated for an extended period of time. But there's no caloric benefit to doing it all in one block. I personally hate exercise, so an hour a day would make me miserable. And hungry. So I vote to do as much as you can stick with, structured in the way that makes it most likely you'll stick with it.

3. should i focus on getting weight off, then building muscle mass, or doing both at the same time?

I vote both, although you're unlikely to build significant lean mass with a caloric deficit. Maintaining the lean mass you have is important, though. If I had it to do over, I think I would have tried harder to incorporate resistance work into my plan.

 

[Meriam]

Sorry, you're at the mercy of genetics, there. We're the same height, but I started a lot higher than you, and I went from a 34DD to a 34B. My sister, OTOH, never loses anything there, and it's the first place she gains, so hers are ginormous (also a downside).

ahh genetics..its what got me into this mess in the first place! mine are 36B i hope they dont diminsh into little mosquito bites!

You get more health benefits from having your heart rate elevated for an extended period of time. But there's no caloric benefit to doing it all in one block. I personally hate exercise, so an hour a day would make me miserable. And hungry. So I vote to do as much as you can stick with, structured in the way that makes it most likely you'll stick with it.

im gonna do it split up but yeah i realized im probably not even going to be able to do an hour. so cutting out the treadmill

I vote both, although you're unlikely to build significant lean mass with a caloric deficit. Maintaining the lean mass you have is important, though. If I had it to do over, I think I would have tried harder to incorporate resistance work into my plan.

we'll see what ill do about this. if I have enough energy after cutting out so much sugar and from doing my wimpy little excercises ill grab a gym membership.

i can only hope i dont become a health obsessed freak and get a massive ego after all is said and done!

 

[Meriam]

I'm baaaaack! And 30 pounds lighter. I realized if I got to 120 im just going to start looking like a 12 year old boy...my boobs ARE gone
I'll see if I can figure out how to get some pics up

 

[anime geek]

If you're worried about your chest size then start doing bench presses and chest flies to build up your pectoral muscles, which will enhance your "assets" . I did that and gained at least half an inch on my chest in a few weeks.