I need help please!!

BiggiePR

BiggiePR

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Hi!! it is not easy and its kind of embarrasing to write this message for me... Im 31 im 6'2 my weight is around 345 lbs, i keep gaining and gaining weight and its affecting every aspect of my life.. im having personal problems with my wife, i dont want to go out to anywhere... i just want to stay home cause i feel bad going out... ive always been a very active person, i played college basketball in the past, i go to the gym at least 2 times a week, normally 3 or 4 plus i play basketball at a high level on sundays... but i just cant do diets, it is too hard for me, i also got to say that i dont eat many sweets, and i dont eat that much, but i have a crazy schedule in my life.... i work at home, im always in front of my pc, and my sleep hours are so unsteady, sometimes i sleep from 5am to 11 other day from 6am to 2 pm, and i barely sleep 2 hours other days, i eat a lot at night, i normally watch movies while i have snacks, nothing sweet just sandwiches and normal stuff, but i do eat a lot at noight... i need some help, this overweight had taken control of everything,,, is this crazy schedule causing the continuos weight gain?? i dont eat as much to be this heavy, and im a fairly active person... there got to be something wrong somewhereall my life is going downhill and i really want to put a definite stop to this... i will really appreciate any help that anyone can give me... Thank you !!
 
well, I see a couple problems....you say you eat alot at night, thats not good. You could certainly cut back on that.

You say you don't sleep good, you need 8 hrs of sleep every night. Thats a must for weight loss (or even maintance).

You also say you go to the gym alot, but you also sit infront of the computer and watch movies all night too. Sounds like you could certainly find ways to start incorporating a little more excersize in your day.

I know your not eating sweets, but sandwiches can have loads of fat in them.

If you dont' like "diets" than just try cutting back on your night time eating and getting more excersize, that will help you for a while. Later you might need to cut back more?? but you can cross that bridge when you get there.

Good luck!!
 
Thats exactly what i just started doing today. I already fell good, it is very helpful seeing all the positive comments in this site, and the diary also give me a lot of motivation, i cant do this alone but with youre help ill be able to..... ill keep everything updated in my diary! Thank you!
 
Sleep

Having spent the first several months of my twins' lives on a strict feeding schedule, getting only one or two hours of sleep at a time, I know first hand how important sleep is not only to maintaining your weight but to simply functioning! Sleep problems can lead to depression, which can lead to overeating, relationship problems, etc.

It sounds like you need to take things one step at a time, with the first step being to get your sleep schedule back on track. Make a committment NOT to beat yourself up about your weight for the next thirty days. Talk to your wife about your suspicion that your sleep problems might be affecting your relationship and ask her to forgive you any wrongs and support you as you try to make this change.

Then set the stage for sleep. Make sure your room is as dark as you can make it. Place the clock in such a position as you cannot look at the time during the night - this causes anxiety and makes it harder to fall asleep. Consider buying a sound machine to block out distracting noises. (I personally use the Sound Soother 50 from the Sharper Image. It was worth every penny!) Take a warm bath or shower (not scalding hot) before bed - this raises your body temperature, and as your temperature falls back toward normal, produces signals that tell your brain it is time for sleep.

It might take time to readjust your body's internal clock. Be patient, but keep taking your shower and going to bed at a set time - and DON'T let yourself go to sleep during the day. Wait for your bed time! Make it your goal to get in bed and just rest in the quiet darkness, knowing that each night as you practice this routine your body will grow closer to a normal rhythm. Enjoy your time in bed, just being still. Spend time in prayer if you are a person of faith. And don't worry if you don't get much sleep the first night. That will mean you are that much more tired and ready for sleep the next night.
 
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Don't be discouraged, you can do this! YOU CAN! People do it every day so it is possible!

It sounds like you need more than a diet (like most of us do who are trying to lose a lot of weight). You need to revamp your life. When you do that, I believe you will feel better and losing weight will be much easier.

First, I think you need to find a motivator. Many times, just wanting to look great is not enough (as important as that is to many of us). I think your heart is the most important. Your health. Think about what losing weight will do for your health.

Second, take a look at your life, your job, your relationship with your wife. Are you sleeping odd hours because of a job? If that's the case I would ask yourself if you're truly happy at your job. If not, I would consider looking for something with less erratic hours. I'm totally serious. I do think it's worth changing jobs if it will make you healthier, promote a better sleep pattern which will in turn take stress off of your marriage and other relationships.

YOU NEED REGULAR SLEEP. This is just as important as drinking 8 glasses of water every day but most of us do neither and it's crazy! We all need to start doing these two things if we want to reach our goals and be healthier people inside and out.

I think the issue with your life is there is no schedule. It sounds hectic and erratic and you need some peace in it. You need to get on a schedule asap. A sleep schedule, a work schedule, a workout schedule and an eating schedule. Also, schedule time for you and your wife. It may seem boring, but I think having order in your life will make you feel more peaceful and losing weight will feel less hopeless.

I think you should give up the word diet. When we have more than 20 pounds to lose, a diet will not help us. We need a lifestyle change. I think the best lifestyle change is Weight Watchers. It's not a get thin quick like Atkins, but it's healthy and it changes your eating habits and helps you make better choices.

YOU CAN DO THIS! :)
 
Wow, thanks for this help, ive been doing some things different this last past week, im going to sleep no later then 2am, im sleeping at least 8 hours for this past week since i first posted my situation, im cutting the late night snacks at least 50% off or more, im going to the gym as soon as i wake up on an empty stomach and IT IS WORKING!!! I weight myslef today early at the gym and i lost at least 5 pound, im at 337, and im sure the clothing i used today in the gym is much heavier then the one i used a week ago when i first weight myself, but ill say i lost 5 clean pounds, and i got to admit, i can do much better on my eating, i ate badly a couple of times this week, and i only went to the gym 3 times in the whole week not counting today, so like i said in my diary, im doind this in baby steps, but im going to do a little better this week, i got the goal of going at least 5 times to the gym this week, and i will try not to "sin" as much as i did last week, but i think that this new schedule is really the key as you all say. Thanks a lot for the support and the wise advice!!!!
 
Awesome!

Great job, BiggiePR!!! That is awesome! These positive changes are going to make a big difference in your life, and in your marriage, too! Hang in there. Baby steps are a lot easier to maintain than gallops. You are in it for the long haul!!!
 
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That's great! Congrats! There will be weeks you lose 1 lb or none at all and there will be weeks you gain. NEVER get discouraged because the big picture is you will weigh less in a month than you do right now. Keep it up! :D
 
make sure to drink LOTS of water!!!

i read an article that says you should drink 8 glasses a day, but if you are trying to lose weight, you should add another 8 glasses. I drink about 16-20 glasses of water per day and it helps immensely!

just a friendly tip :)
 
Yes, I second the water thing.. though i barely get my 8 glasses a day because of my immence hate for water.

If you like eating.. have 5 small meals a day. Its better to eat smaller amounts more often than larger amounts all at once.

If you need to eat lot.. I know I need to feel full.. get things that have low calories that you can eat a ton of I know your thinking salad.. but I am thinking light jello (like 20 calories for 2 cups) and cream of wheat (100 calories for 1 serving approx 1 cup worth and extreamely filling)

Your doing awesome.. keep up the good work.. and you came to the right place!
 
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