I need advice, please. (very long post)

Hi Amy,

Far out, I wish I could give you a hug! I'm so sorry for all you've been through, but I know you can be strong and take charge of this.

Life can be so incredibly frustrating and hard and there are so many things we can't control. What I decided was that I'd work on changing the things I can.

I think if you just start with the small changes like you said, drinking more water, cutting back on bad foods and try and sort out the portion sizes of your meals, you'll soon start seeing the changes.

I completely understand how you feel in regards to the agrophobia, my mother was agorophobic when I was a child, so I have lived with it and know how crippling it is. It took pretty much my entire childhood for her to overcome it - with a lot of rescue remedy and a local support group.

I'll be thinking of you, and wishing you all the best. There are some really lovely, supportive people here to help encourage and motivate you and also help you with all the technical bits like nutrition and fitness.

Be strong,
Jess :)
 
Hi Amy. You do sound very depressed :(

I think me and you are very alike. I was also very depressed earlier this year. Had been already for a few years. And so finnaly i went to the doctor and she said i should have a meeting with the psyciatrist who then prescribed me anti depressants. I felt alot better with them.

Do you not have a job/studies or something? That was a big thing for me that i had nothing to do. I moved here to Holland 2 years ago. So im away from family, didnt have any friends before but still a depressing thought. But things get better. I've been very unhappy with my weight. Eating too much cince ive been here and had to buy new clothes cus mine didnt fit anymore. I tried a few diets and such but always gave up. For now i started nearly 2 months ago and ive lost 16 lbs. So im at a good start.

The tierdness is because of the depression. But if you can try to keep yourself occupied and do the things you to love do. I dont know how you feel about seeing a psyciatrist, but thats an option. It can be a bit daunting at first. But it may help.

Anyway im not on the anti depressents anymore. Ive found a job and im a bit happier, just got to try and make some friends :p not good at this.
Though i tell myself also that once ive lost weight ill be more confident and able to do more things, not be shy speaking to people etc. But i think this is only an excuse for not doing it now. Its difficult i know. Thats life i guess. Gotta work through the hard parts.

hope it goes well.
 
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Hi Amy,Welcome
I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. Don't let what happened to you continue to destroy your life. Fight back. You are so young and have a lot of life to live.
You can fight back by taking a Martial Arts self defense and fitness class. This can help you in several ways to become stronger both mentally and physically. It can teach you how to defend yourself while losing weight.
You already were doing a good job at losing weight, you just need to get back there mentally.
Try to not put all your focus on just losing the weight but taking back control of your life. Don't worry about your skin it will tighten back-up, It just takes time. Don't worry so much about what a stranger thinks of you.
Best of everything to you,
Lynn
 
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