I Have No Control Over What Food Comes Into My House.

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BeautyBound

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I am a sixteen year old girl living with her grandparents. I've lost over fifty pounds on my own, but I'm gaining it back, and just because my grandmother refuses to believe losing weight is good for me.. even though I used to be two hundred and something pounds.

I will come home and find potato chips, chocolates, frozen pizzas, and stuff like that I've specifically asked her not to buy. Instead, I ask for fruits and other things like that.

She just won't buy them. End of story. I don't have my license, so I can't grocery shop myself. I know I've lost weight with this stuff in this house before, but now it seems like she's just set on sabotaging me, making cakes and pies 'just because'. She knows I love sweets. She knows I didn't get fat eating fruits and whole wheats and other stuff like that.

I feel like crying because I had been doing so well, but now, when it's in the house, and you know it's for you, it's hard to say no, especially since we have zero health foods in the house anymore. I have to eat, end of story, and there isn't anything healthy here to eat, so it's either gain weight for me or starve.

Please help. I've tried to ask her nicely, but it's like she doesn't want me to lose weight. I hate this.
 
I'm in the same position as you, or was, rather. I live in the midsouth so the unhealthier the food is=better quality. Eating and gaining weight is healthier than being 'too skinny', here.

I'm 16 and live with a mother that likes to bring unhealthy food into the house. I don't know where you live, but I live in a small town and walk to the store to buy my seperate groceries : ) Its exercise. There are various ways to make money if you don't have the resources to do so, babysitting, mowing lawns, getting a job & taking a bus/walking, etc. Use this as a positive thing, such as a form of exercise I mentioned. Or! Ask another family member and explain it to them and ask them to assist you in doing seperate grocery shopping? Volunteer to cook one night, a healthy but tasty meal that your grandmother would like/be able to adjust to to understand that healthy meals aren't all that bad : )
 
If you need someone to talk to, since I know what you're going through, don't be afraid to hit me up for support or a boost-up since we're the same age & in similar situations.
 
Thanks, I might take you up on your offer for a chat:)

Unfortunately, I live in rural, rural Tennessee, on a mountain, and I'm not too keen on walking down it just to head into town for groceries. :\
 
First: You used to be in the 200lbs but lost over 50lbs on your own. But what is your weight and height at the moment?

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Beauty this sounds like a tough one.

You've said that you've tried to ask her nicely not to bring/make junk food for the house. But have you spoken to your grandmother and asked her specifically about the reasons for her doing these things and making these "just because" pies and cakes even though she knows what your goals are? Have you had a serious talk with her about how you feel that she isn't supporting your goal to get healthier? Have you spoken to her in detail about feeling that your only options are to gain weight or starve?


Just trying to get more information so that we can help you better. ^_^
 
I'm 5'5 and around 190-195lbs. I haven't asked her in a huge, serious and blown out conversation; I guess I feel like since it's not particularily my house I don't have a huge right to demand things.

I have asked her why the pies and cakes. She says it's because of the influx of family we almost always have, but that never explains why she always makes sure to leave me huge pieces, sometimes half of the damn pie. It doesn't even make sense to me when I ask her not too when I know invariably I'll end up eating it.

Aphrodite; thank you! It is pretty most of the time. Right now though we're still recovering from the tornadoes that ripped through. We have about four dead in my county alone from it; which makes everything harder, because I don't know if you've been to a funeral down here, but when someone dies in a family, it's just easier to pat them with a hankerchief and offer them a gallon of iced tea and home 'apple fritters' than anything else. I haven't even had anyone in my close family die recently but my grandmother keeps bringing home food from the after reception thingies because she says it's easier than cooking dinner.
 
I understand.
If there isn't a way for you to get allowance, make money (by babysitting or something) and some how get to a grocery store then more options could be either portion control (eating a smaller amount of the unhealthy foods), or trying to make the foods that she makes a little better.

Let's see... maybe the foods that she cooks/buys are not healthy but perhaps there is a way that you could make them a little better? Sometimes this is possible.

For example if she buys or makes fried chicken you could at least pull the skin off.

What types of things does she cook? We could probably help you figure out how to make them a little better than they were originally.
 
Hi BB. Can you tell us how much you weight and your height?

Also its clear you are in a difficult situation. I suggest you talk to either your school principle or teacher. Maybe they can help by communicating with your grandparents. Or your family doctor.

I wouldn't worry too much if you have to eat the savoury foods she serves. Keep asking for extra vegetables when she does serve them and this may help you avoid the other higher calorie foods. But mainly try to avoid the desserts or eat only small serves. She can't force you to eat the dessert.

If it will help, start a diary in the diary section and list what you eat each day, including how much.

Also are you doing any exercise? You could take up an active sport that would enable you to eat more, even the odd dessert.
 
44, she is 5'5 and around 190-195lbs.

I'd recommend lowering your portion sizes. Just because she offers you half a pie, you don't *have* to eat the whole thing. Just say, "hey, I'm trying to be healthy right now so I'll have a small slice and then leave the rest for someone else" and just try to be more disciplined. Know it's not easy. Good luck x
 
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