I failed again...

SHYJESTA

SHYJESTA

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Hello everyone, I had started posting here last may and I really enjoyed reading everyone experiences... I too had lost weight and was feeling great! I was 320 in May at the same time I went back to college... I was happy and excited about my new journey... as of November of last year I had got down to 264 pounds and it felt so easy... I was jogging and eating the right amount of calories... then Thanksgiving came and I really didn't over do it... and didn't gain but did not lose anything as well...

I must of thought I was invisible... I started pigging out more than I have ever in my life! but I still didn't gain it back... the new year came and I was starting to question why I was over eating again... I felt alot of stress and depression and I was hooked... like a junkie on drugs I needed my fix... food made me feel so good and comforted me for all the wrong reasons... and as time went on january,february,march and april... I still kept eating but like never before I ate like a pig! I ate donuts,cakes,fat fried food, a bucket of KFC, a ton of diet drink... in the back of my head I told myself I would stop... and start working out again... but NO I never did. It seems as if I am destined to fail once again... now back up to the 290's and feeling horrible and noticing that extra fat coming back but faster than ever before... no desire to run,exercise... depression overtaking enough to not want to work or be in public... I think I failed again...

I need help and I just can't bare to be back at 320 or even more... I need to take action... not sure what I am asking but it feels good writing this...

Tom
 
You can't change yesterday it's in the past and it's done -weight gain - weight loss - none of it matters - what matters is that you do the best you can do -- for yourself - today.. and keep going forward.

COnfession is good for the soul -ok you confessed - you're absolved -gimme 10 hail marys as your act of contrition.. and get over it...

What are you going to do today to get yoursself baack on track.

One thing that helps is to refocus on your goals.. Why do you want to lose weight? Be honest with yourself in the answer and you don't have to say it outloud - but you should know what that reason is -and put it somewhere where you will remind yourself of it.. every day.

Welcome back... and it's a brand new day...
 
well I started losing weight because I have a 2 yr old daughter and I told myself that I want to be around for along time and not see my time cut short because I was a pig and ate like one... I also wanted to feel good and have confidence... but also I have a friend who had always been big like me and he lost a ton of weight... so yea I was jealous of him... each time I saw him he looked thinner and in better shape... your right I need to rethink my goals and why i want to do this... gosh it's going to be tough... but I want to be a better person for myself and my family... my back is even starting to hurt...
 
another thing that trips people up - is trying to do too much at once... it's overwhelming and jsut causes people to throw their hands up in despair.

It's not a race to get to the finish line.. but you have to be ready when you're at the starting line... Decide if you want to do this -and WHY you want to do this...

Next up - pick your course - how are you going to get there.

I seem to recall you trying 1500 calorie plans in the past - that clearly isn't the right plan for you -b ecause it's too depriving and isn't lifestyle oriented.. Go higher - a lot higher and go with a lifestyle change.... Eat what you love - keep track - and use modration - no deprivation.

I've read often -- that it takes 28 days to build a habit (or 21 days depending on what I'm reading at the time) - pick one habit to start with and follow thru with it.. that habit can be walking 30 minutes a day, recording your calories and eatin within a certain range, something that will get you started to where you want to be..
 
The good thing about dieting and weight loss is that you can always start over. Don't beat yourself up, just go back to the things that were working for you and start again. It is so easy to get back into those bad eating habits, accountability with what your eating is important and exercise, no matter how much we don't want to do it, we half too. My best advice is just start over and forget about what you've done to get where you are now and just learn from it and move on and get that weight off. It is a perfect time of year to start. Good Luck.
 
man i feel ur pain. i am/was in that same position. last summer i lost a few pounds and was well on my way to a healthier me. at the time my gf was loving the weight loss and we had plans to be together forever. all spring semester i was stressing how i couldnt wait until the summer to be home and eat healthy and exercise in a comfortable environment so that i could lose the weight again n be the person i wanted to be and how that would enhance our relationship. she abandoned shit at the end of april...may 1st i hit the gym. im doin this for ME now. this will only benefit ME.i want to dress better, look better, feel better, more energetic all that. and even tho its been 2 weeks i feel like a million dollars. couldnt even do 2 pushups n ive worked to 2 sets of 5 and that has been my accomplishment no matter how little. i kno the potential i have as an individual and what she missed out on a good deal. do this for YOU and the person YOU want to be. start small like i did...for cardio im not in the gym, im not lifting weights...im on the basketball court shooting around and chasing after the loose ball...on the court by myself...be comfortable with ur limits and youll be comfortable with yourself and be well on ur way homie
 
1. Do it solely for yourself! If you think like that your family will benefit without you realising!

2. Don't ponder how or when to start get up and go for a powerwalk for 20 mins today, tommorow never ever comes!

3. Its only hard for the first few weeks! Once you see results which you will do fairly quickly if you follow a strict plan, the results will be motivation enough!

Just get up and start now today, you will feel much better and you have no time to put yourself off doing something about it!
 
You can def do this....if you can lose 30lbs then you can lose another ten, then another...keep doing this til you get where you want to be! Mini goals, take your time and i know that you will succeed!!

Dont be so hard on yourself, you'll get there in your own time :)
 
thanks for the advice... looking at a pic taken this past weekend... really has me thinking, why in the world am I doing this to myself... Why do I surround everything I do with FOOD!
 
It's great that you realize what you are doing to yourself.

Remember that if you go a day without eating a single piece of shitty food, it might suck at that moment but you won't ever ever regret it. I used to constantly eat all the time because I had money and had the whole "Oh I'll do it later" mentality. Well, 20 lbs later I decided enough was enough. I refused to go over my heaviest weight.

Good luck! :seeya:
 
wow, it had been 80 days since I last updated my weight progress... now I know why... I gained another 8 lbs... not a shocker, but I know I need to find my way back to the right track... it feels so hard to start again... I was counting calories and now I feel like that is so hard... tomorrow is a new day and I am gonna go at it. I gotta just take it 1 step at a time!
 
you called yourself out... that's step one! you know what you're doing wrong... now you just gotta get back on the right path!

I know how you feel though... I'm in a similar situation and wanting to do something about it too!
 
SHYJESTA said:
. I gotta just take it 1 step at a time!
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one step at a time is the way to go...

What's the step you're going to start with?

A quote from a very old book, called the power of one, is sometime to the effect that a waterfall starts with a single drop of water -and look what it has become.. .What's that drop of water you're starting with?

and really spend some time asking yourself why it's such a struggle - are you making it harder than it needs to be? Why do you want to get to a healthier weight and what will happen if you don't get there?
 
start small. Write down everything you eat. Everything. Start tracking it then after a week see what you can cut out. Don't look at as I need to be at such and such calories/week. Just look at it as "I can cut out this and this." Once you feel comfortable and the weight is stabalized cut down a little bit of calories a day. Once you get comfortable with that, start walking or bike riding or whatever you like doing for exercise.

I always had an all or nothing mentality and I have so many failed diets under my belt (I think the longest I lasted before this current one was about 5 hours.)

I was in the situatioin you were, I knew what I needed to do, but for reasons of comfort I kept staying in the same situation. What it took finally for me was that it wasn't jsut going to happen one day. I had to do it. I had to make the choices that would get me there and not the ones that wouldn't.

Good luck, If you could do it once, you can do it again.
 
I made that same mistake..Granted my family all tells me I'm too skinny now and tries to force feed me, but around 120 I thought hey..I can eat now..and I wayyyyyyyyyy over did it and gained 5 pounds in one week hahaha. I was like..hmmm.. I guess not. But then I gained 2 more pounds and figured that was enough. I really need to get into exercising, becuase that would have never happened if I actually had an exercise routine.. I go on exercise binges where I exercise religiously for 2 months with no problems then somehow it just slowly gets put on the backburner and I find myself just sitting here all day.
That and I'm seventeen, graduated highschool....and REALLY NEED A JOB! haha
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Wow, I realized I just got off of topic a little bit there. Sorry for the rambling, I'm prone to that. :jump:
 
I am in the same position and geting back on the horse. I have worked my but off trying to get down from 225 to whatever and I had made it to 140. But things happened and I got depressed and stressed out. I too started eating like a crazy person and I'm now back up to 159. I feel horrible. I joined here to get help. I'm back on "the wagon" and my journey begins again. I feel a little bit happy. That happiness is only a result of me going back on my diet and you will feel happy too once you find that motivation to start again.

Don't give up, you can do it, you are still here aren't you?
 
thanks for all the words of wisdom everyone! One thing I noticed is that when I would spend more time on this forum It was helping me alot. Since ive been slacking I don't come around much. My goal this week is to come to the forum more this week and to eliminate sweets this week. gonna be tough but I got to start somewhere... :driving:
 
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