How to get/keep husband on track

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LiveFromNY

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He keeps saying he'll start an exercise/weight loss program, and every year it's the same, he'll start after the holidays...when it gets warmer..when it cools down.....

When wew got married he was 119 and 6 feet tall, he's heavier but he wears it well, it's just that he has got a gut now.

So - I think this time he's really into doing it, I just wonder what I can do to support him rather than nag him.

(Last year I lost 25 lbs and continue to exercise twice a day and eat right, I just don't want to be the food police or preachy. I do it cuz I want to and have to, but he's an adult, you know?)
 
Isn't a relationship built on love, not looks.

Big deal, he's got a little belly. Give the guy a break. Working out is not easy. Heck, I HATE working out every single DAMNED DAY!!! >_<''

I still do it, but why would you force a loved one into doing something they CLEARLY don't want to do? :confused:
 
I dont think there is really anything that can be done if the other person doesn't want to do it. I've tried a lot with my g/f and actually got her to drop white bread and sugar, and switch to diet pop. That alone made a big difference. Its hard to come across as not preaching though so I dont really say to much about it anymore. I would just focus on your goals and lead by example. If he see's you getting a smokin hot body while he gets a gut he may feel motivated to do something.
 
You hate working out? Guess people are not created the same way.
He clearly doesn't want to do it, when he keeps saying he will? I think he wants to but just isn't realizing how imp. it is.

As for LiveFromNY, I would think some of your working out and eating habits would rub off on him. Ask him to go to the gym with you or go on a walk, if he says no then you could get on his case. ;)
 
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Reward him for his efforts. Try and get him to "try it" with you for 2 weeks, then if he is consistant, 3x a week or something, for 2 weeks do something he wants you to do. (I am sure he could think of something.) After 2 weeks of regular exercise he will be feeling much better and begin to see results, hopefully at this point he will want to keep going.

If he says he is going to do it, then some part of him wants to. You only need to get him started.
 
What kind of bitch are you? If my ****ing gf told me to start losing weight or else she would dump me, I would rather be dumped. As nobody said it isnt easy to work out, Some people enjoy it and some people really hate it. You shouldnt force your husbend to frickin work out, if he wants to then he will
 
First there's nothing wrong with wanting your significant other to look good. Secondly, if someone you love is doing something bad for or to themselves of course you would try to get them to stop it or change the behavior. Its silly to argue otherwise.
LivefromNY, many people, myself included, find going to the gym, lifting weights in the standard bodybuilder fashion, running on the treadmill, infinately boring. You might have him check out something like , or , or
 
woah !!! i think ya should just work out with him to start with and encourage him, and i think you will do fine at it cause u obviously know how it works :)
um and u guys u dont know that he doesnt like it because he hasnt tried and i think its good that partners make an effort to encourage each other to be healthy!!!
 
Nag the hell out of him if you must

I'm of the opinion that encouraging a loved one to do something in their best interest isn't a crime. Most people can't stand being nagged because they know that what they're being criticized for is true. Insults/criticisms aren't painful unless you believe them at some level..I can't see Stephen Hawking or Leibniz crying because someone called him an idiot.

Honestly, I think you need to be more aggressive. I can't guarantee that your husband will take it well, but if he doesn't he's clearly a bum. I don't recall the words "to support you in being lazy and neglectful of your health" in the traditional marriage vow. ;)

As for ways to support him, Crazylegs was fairly eloquent on that subject. I would add making efforts towards (what will undoubtably be an uphill struggle in) encouraging him to eat healthier. If you really want to help, find some way to get him motivated to change. I'm sure you know the old cliche`. Personally, I find desire and admiration very motivating. You could try getting him to make some small changes then lavish him with praise and perhaps demonstrate your appreciation for his new vigor. ;)




samaldaas1, it's a pleasure to see someone who can make an intelligent, objective critique that's on topic and doesn't resort to being derogatory. Don't ever change. Cabron.

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