How do you deal with this...

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canu49

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Hi,
I just joined this group, let me tell you a little about myself. I'm 57 ( almost 58) years old. I'm 6 foot 2 inches tall. March first this year I weighed 300 lbs. I'd been at that weight form a pretty good while. Then I decided to start eating healthy. Nothing else ( my job is pretty physical so that's exercise I guess), just cooking and eating healthy meals in sensible portions, avoiding the junk. Today, I weigh 245 and feel great. I've even taken up whitewater kayaking again, a sport I loved at one time but have been out of for the last ten years. Problem is, nobody seems to notice the weight loss, other than me. I'm down 2 pant sizes and a shirt size. But nobody even believes me even when I tell them. They just laugh and make some smart aleck remark. We're mot talking about schoolboys here, but grown men . I'm pretty proud of myself, but it's getting really frustrating. Please don't say " ignore them" I don't ignore problems, I try and deal with them. I'd just like to know if anyone else has run into this before. I'm just 20 lbs away from 6' 2" 225 lbs, which ain't fat by any standards, but tho these guys it is. I'm just fed up.
 
Hi and Welcome!

First off, congratulations on the weight loss! 55lbs! That's great! I started off at 266 and am now mid 250's headed down to 200.

What do you do for a living? If you don't mind me asking. I'll take it up as a hobby! Lol.

I have a couple of thoughts about why people aren't noticing it yet.

1. If you are a big guy (broad shoulders, barrel chest) it might be that you carried your weight well, kinda bear like. That's me too. I have to lose 30 lbs before people start to notice. I'm only 5' 11" so you could hold onto even more!

2. If you haven't changed how you dress it might be that the weight loss is obscured by the same sort of clothes that you wore when you're heavy. People who are observant would know that I lost weight the day I start tucking shirts in.

3. When we get in our 40's and 50's (I'm 46), sudden weight loss is not always the sign of adopting a healthy lifestyle. It could be caused by something far more grave. If you haven't been talking up your new program, people might be concerned about the reasons and shy about making a big deal about it. Sorta like, "Hey Bob, you lost a lot of weight, you been working out?" to which Bob replies, "Er, No, I have colon cancer..."

4. It is clear you made some good changes for the better. If those close to you need to make changes in their own lives, your success may be a reminder to them that they need to get busy. By not acknowledging you, they can avoid dealing with themselves.

Now I'm not saying that any of these are the case with you, but based on reactions I have heard when I have lost a good bit of weight, they are plausible explanations.

Maybe if you were to mention that you "had to go and buy a new wardrobe because nothing fits anymore since you've been shaping up" the work will go around.

Anyway, congrats again, I hope to be following along soon!

David C
 
Hi and Welcome!

First off, congratulations on the weight loss! 55lbs! That's great! I started off at 266 and am now mid 250's headed down to 200.

What do you do for a living? If you don't mind me asking. I'll take it up as a hobby! Lol.

I have a couple of thoughts about why people aren't noticing it yet.

1. If you are a big guy (broad shoulders, barrel chest) it might be that you carried your weight well, kinda bear like. That's me too. I have to lose 30 lbs before people start to notice. I'm only 5' 11" so you could hold onto even more!

2. If you haven't changed how you dress it might be that the weight loss is obscured by the same sort of clothes that you wore when you're heavy. If you dressed well to hide the weight, you might've done a good job! People who are observant would know that I lost weight the day I start tucking shirts in.

3. When we get in our 40's and 50's (I'm 46), sudden weight loss is not always the sign of adopting a healthy lifestyle. It could be caused by something far more grave. If you haven't been talking up your new program, people might be concerned about the reasons and shy about making a big deal about it. Sorta like, "Hey Bob, you lost a lot of weight, you been working out?" to which Bob replies, "Er, No, I have colon cancer..."

4. It is clear you made some good changes for the better. If those close to you need to make changes in their own lives, your success may be a reminder to them that they need to get busy. By not acknowledging you, they can avoid dealing with themselves.

Now I'm not saying that any of these are the case with you, but based on reactions I have heard when I have lost a good bit of weight, they are plausible explanations.

Maybe if you were to mention that you "had to go and buy a new wardrobe because nothing fits anymore since you've been shaping up" the work will go around.

Anyway, congrats again, I hope to be following along soon!

David C
 
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