Hi there, New guy from SC.

scphotographer

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Hello all, I’m Charles. I am 25, live in western SC, and weigh in at 321lbs as of this posting. My weight has gotten to the point that I have to do something. It has affected my ability to do some of the things I used to enjoy so much. My knees constantly hurt, I have back pain due to the weight and I miss dating and socializing the way I used to. I am a photographer by profession and most of my daily work is either behind a computer, behind the lens in my studio or sitting / standing on the sidelines of some sporting event taking photos. I then come home to an empty home with nothing to do but sit in front of the TV or computer. I do have outdoor activities but they also involve minimal physical exertion (bass fishing and drag racing.)

I recently found a box of photos from high school. I was a much leaner guy back then. I weighed in around 200lbs my senior year and had a decent muscle mass. I played football and weight trained 3 days a week for an hour and half each of those 3 days. My weight gain started when I graduated and moved to college. I lived on fast food and beer the whole 4 years. I never once exercised or even thought about my weight. My friends and I laughed it off as a “beer belly” Once I graduated college the daily routine quickly set in. I freelanced for the local news papers and a few websites until I had enough saved up to open a studio. This was a very tough time and most of the time all I could afford was double cheese burgers from McDonalds or whoppers from Burger King while beer was still my beverage of choice during my nightly meals.

About 18 months ago I put an end to a 10 year habit. I quit smoking cold turkey with the aid of peppermints. I was consuming a 3lb bag of them every 2 days. Quitting smoking also caused me to eat much more. I went from 2-3 times a day to 4-5 times a day. It got so bad that I have eaten whole large pizzas at one sitting or an entire box of frosted flakes at a time. Only recently have I cut back on the fast food and started cooking my own meals. I did have pizza last night though. When I cut out smoking I also cut out soft drinks opting for water mostly but that only lasted about 6 months before I was back to Dr. Pepper and Pepsi.

I wake up every morning and while shaving I avoid looking at anything but my chin and neck area because I am ashamed of how I have let myself go. I avoid hanging out with my friends because my self esteem is so low. When I go shopping its always at times when I think less people will be around to see me. I even try to sit in the booth or table farthest away from everyone when I go out to eat.

The things I enjoy like fishing and racing are getting harder and harder because of my size. While my boat is more than capable of handling my weight it’s just awkward to get in and out of because of the difference my weight makes in the buoyancy at the dock. I will step onto the deck and the front of the boat will lower by 8-10 inches. Ever since I was a kid I have helped my grandfather build and race drag cars. Over the last few years I have seen my times slowly decrease due to my weight and the physical size of my body makes it hard to get in and out of a car with a roll cage in it.

I was with my last g/f for 4 years. I met her my freshman year in college and she was wonderful. I was at the time that lean man I spoke of earlier. I was confident, attractive and was over flowing with self esteem. We broke up shortly after graduation and I tried getting back into the dating scene but after a few rejections and even a few laughs in my face I gave up and focused on my work. If there is one thing in the world that is worse than being sick its being lonely. I miss the feeling of companionship. I miss having someone to see in the afternoons, to go to dinner with, to just spend time with. I know my weight is a major factor in the lack of women who find me attractive. I am after all a college graduate who owns his own business, and home.

So today I made the decision to change. I want to lose some weight and once again be happy with myself. I want to be able to go to the store and not have to look for hours and only find one shirt that fits me or pay 3x the price for a pair of pants. So I got on google and found this site. I hope that over the next months I can come up with a weight loss plan and I look forward to posting the details of my journey. My only problem is I have no idea where to start. In my head I have been considering cutting my portions down and have those portions be healthier food. Then in the beginning walking a few miles a day until my knees can handle some more heavy impact jogging and running. If I am going about this all wrong please tell me.

My stats as of this posting.
Age: 24
Height: 6’2”
Weight: 321lbs

WOW that was a lot but I think I covered everything. (One thousand words to be exact.) Thanks for reading and I look forward to joining the discussion in the coming days.
 
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welcome to the WLF, make sure you check out the sticky threads (they have some excellent info in there).

I hope to see you around !
 
hey scphotographer,
welcome to the forum! i just finished reading your entire story...i think the most important part is that you want to change and embark on a new journey...and i congratulate you for that. there's lots of info on the forum about exercise and nutrition and where to start.

i myself am 5feet weighing in at 344 pounds....and only very recently started my weight loss journey. now been eating healthy for about 2and a half months and on week 5 of exercise at a gym i joined. I DREADED having to join a gym, but i live next to a park that i told myself i'd be walking at everyday and i've never stepped in the park to date (i'm too scared of what others would think). So one day i got a burst of courage and joined the gym...and you know what? i've never looked back since then. Even though i'm still at the beginning of the journey, i can say i'm breathing a little easier and don't sweat as much. Those little changes make me want to keep going on and on.

I know what you mean about being lonely. I HATE IT! because i'm at an age where almost all my friends are married or engaged, and all these years i've still been the single one, and i'm tired of all the pity glances i get from my friends...come to think about it, i don't even have too many friends anymore. The past year and a half i lived like a hermit, in the house all the time, ordering in all my groceries, ordering pizza and chinese almost daily, and i'd go shopping like at midnight (at the 24hr stores) so that no one could see me pile up rubbish on my shopping trolley, i'd buy a whole stack of icecream,chocolates, cakes, pies, pizzas, you name it! and i'd always use the self-checkout counter so that no one knew what i was buying. sigh, the things i've done to myself and my body i'm sooo not proud of, which is why i look the way i am now and why i decided to change.

Goodness, i'm so sorry i've written so much and almost hijacked your thread. This here isn't about me, it's about you...so welcome to the forum! just keep exploring and reading the stickies and posting any questions you may have since there's lots of people on here who are ready to give you support and much needed help to begin your journey. all the best :)
 
Sorry for the late reply guys. My sister just had a baby boy a few weeks early so I have been over at their apt. helping her husband get the baby's room ready for when he comes home. I will start reading the stickies tonight and if I have any questions I will be sure to post them.
 
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