Hi, im just frustraded need some support

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jmsr83

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Im 26 years old, i graduated law school 2 years ago, has a few set backs because in my last semester, right in the middle I had to have my gullbladder removed, it was a horrible operation because it was about to burst, it was obstructed.

for most of my life ive been in great shape, im 6'1 and always we between 160 - 185 ... usually 180 but i was very lean, worked out a lot, 31 inch waistline. after the opperation i dropped to 155 , very unhealthy i was like 2 weeks in the hospital, could not eat almoust anything and felt like crap. well basically all i lost was muscle, i was a skinny winpy guy , once i started to get hungry again, i resumes my regular diet. i eat like a pig, love food, but my body used to be able to handle it, i worked out every single day for hours, that was my past time. but after the opperation i did not work out... well time past, i felt i was gaining weight... and suddenly part of my clothes would not fit, i started getting tired a lot... at it was gradual.

a few weeks ago i decided this had to stop... im deppresed, my work has been affected, i cant even stand myself, so i started a diet, working out, very light, cause i cant even run :( just walk on the treadmill, a few excersises... but it all seems so hard and all the goals so far away..

i was 244 lbs 31% BMI ... 3 weeks on a diet so far, and im 226 29.8 BMI ... small steps... but im so sad... and everything in my life has fallen apart... my investments went to shit... i dont even want to go out, because litterally i barely have any clothes that fit...

i know im just being a cry baby, but then a friend of mine is getting married and he was me to go to a fitting aug 20, and the wedding is in oct 20 something... and its like im trying to get back the life i had, be happy... i have all this crap to clean up in my life, and a fitting is like a low blow at this point... i dont want to hear im 38 waistline and stuff... im hurting so much right now... i lost the life i had lived, in so many ways, because of my weight gain and other aspects... im sorry, im just so frustrated

i just want to hear someone understands me, and that this is normal... because i feel i just want to stay in my apt and do my stuff and never go out untill im back to where i feel confortable, i even get nerveous when i go out in public...
 
Ive been hanging around here for a while but have not posted yet. Anyway your situation is in my view rather normal.

You should not dwell on the past as you have decided enough is enough and you WANT to change. This is something to be happy about as you will be your previous self some time soon.

I can sympathize with your situation as its an awful cycle. You eat and then feel depressed, and then eat some more because your depressed and nothing gets better but hey youve broken the cycle and want to change!.

As much as you dont want to leave the house you MUST. Its one way of building self-confidence back up. For example i went to the supermarket the other day and thus seen everyone else there and thought wth have i done to myself?. At that point i felt really uncomfortable and wanted to just get out of the place but i stayed because i know that one day i could be exactly like the other people.

This post has probably not made any sense at all :p, but i hope its helped you in some way and that your not alone in your current situation.

All the best :)
 
Small steps...

I agree with Jabbed. I know you probably feel embarassed now thinking about the fitting and all, but try not to let it get to you. You are taking the right path now. It's actually ok if you lose the weight slowly because people who lose weight too quickly usually end up gaining it back faster or injure themselves in the process. Just continue with the exercises and eating right and who cares what other people think about you and your weight? "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Besides, there are so many celebrities out there who purposefully gain weight for movie roles and then lose it later. If anyone asks, just joke with them, saying you did it for a role in an upcoming film. lol! =) But seriously though, if you keep at it, and focus on the here and now, you'll eventually reach your goals. You didn't gain the weight in one day, and, sadly, you can't lose it in one day either. So just be patient my friend. Hard work pays off. You're not the 1st person to gain weight and certainly not the last to lose either. So keep your chin up!! =)
 
Thanks for the responses...

I know im not alone, but sometimes you need to hear it. I have become kind of crazy repeating my routine and diet over and over... keeps me from breaking it. Went today and bought a workout bench, because I have a little gym set up at home and ive keep adding to it, and sinse i kind of hate going out like this is working out pretty good...

taking small steps towards change
 
jmsr83 said:
Im 26 years old, i graduated law school 2 years ago, has a few set backs because in my last semester, right in the middle I had to have my gullbladder removed, it was a horrible operation because it was about to burst, it was obstructed.

for most of my life ive been in great shape, im 6'1 and always we between 160 - 185 ... usually 180 but i was very lean, worked out a lot, 31 inch waistline. after the opperation i dropped to 155 , very unhealthy i was like 2 weeks in the hospital, could not eat almoust anything and felt like crap. well basically all i lost was muscle, i was a skinny winpy guy , once i started to get hungry again, i resumes my regular diet. i eat like a pig, love food, but my body used to be able to handle it, i worked out every single day for hours, that was my past time. but after the opperation i did not work out... well time past, i felt i was gaining weight... and suddenly part of my clothes would not fit, i started getting tired a lot... at it was gradual.

a few weeks ago i decided this had to stop... im deppresed, my work has been affected, i cant even stand myself, so i started a diet, working out, very light, cause i cant even run :( just walk on the treadmill, a few excersises... but it all seems so hard and all the goals so far away..

i was 244 lbs 31% BMI ... 3 weeks on a diet so far, and im 226 29.8 BMI ... small steps... but im so sad... and everything in my life has fallen apart... my investments went to shit... i dont even want to go out, because litterally i barely have any clothes that fit...

i know im just being a cry baby, but then a friend of mine is getting married and he was me to go to a fitting aug 20, and the wedding is in oct 20 something... and its like im trying to get back the life i had, be happy... i have all this crap to clean up in my life, and a fitting is like a low blow at this point... i dont want to hear im 38 waistline and stuff... im hurting so much right now... i lost the life i had lived, in so many ways, because of my weight gain and other aspects... im sorry, im just so frustrated

i just want to hear someone understands me, and that this is normal... because i feel i just want to stay in my apt and do my stuff and never go out untill im back to where i feel confortable, i even get nerveous when i go out in public...
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First of all, there are a lot of people in your boat. Go take a very critical walk around a local shopping mall or Walmart. Take a look at the cross section of what our society has become. Our culture is becoming more accommodating to being fat and it is not PC to judge. Look where it has gotten us. You are not alone.

Second, you are a step ahead of most. You want to change. I can feel your frustration in your writing and that, believe it or not, is a good thing. Be unhappy when you look in that mirror. Channel that into exercise and think of those feelings when you are going to put food in your mouth.

Third, while exercise is tough, you still are not that heavy (barring injury) that you couldn't walk fast or exercise bike. Find something that you can do everyday for about 30-40 minutes of sustained exertion.

Last, I didn't hear what the diet was...just make sure you are getting all your nutrients and that you eating the right combination of carbs, proteins and fats. Eat a good breakfast high in protein, low in fat. You should start each day with a big breakfast and slow the meals down as the day progresses. It works now for me to keep my weight off. Eat small portions 4-5 times per day and make sure you set and stick to a good daily caloric number. You eat like this to keep your metabolic rate at a steady state throughout the day. Use the rule of PSP, eat it if you can Pick It (fruit, vegs), skin it (chicken, fish), and Pull It (roots like carrots, radishes). Lots of water. Skim milk. No refined sugar. Wheat not white.

Focus on the task at hand dont wallow in it...you will be surprised how, when exercising, you actually get some mental clarity and sort the other crap in your life out. You lost 18 lbs in 3 weeks. That is an insane rate and as good or better as most diets I have ever been on. You just need to see the end in your mind and stay the course. Don't deviate. You can do it. Best of luck.
 
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Hey!

Hey! Hope u r feeling better today! Just be sure to get out of your home every now and then...seeing ppl at a gym can be inspiring u know!
 
Im feeling better, everyday i keep workingout i feel a little better, skin feels less loose and just knoing im doing something gives me a much needed pick me up.

still frustrated, i mean, i know this is going to take me months to get back to where i want to be, and i just cant get that out of my head... its very hard. i want to treat myself to some unhealthy food, but there will be a time to do that, but for now i just want to get in shape and not think about that kind of stuff
 
Well, as espected, weight loss has slowed down, i use weightbot to keep track, and happy its slowed down, it becomes more normal now.

I have been working out till it hurts and i can barely breathe. That kind of sucks, but i guess pain is weakness leaving the body.


I feel down sometimes during the day, but try to keep motivated thinking of all the things i will enjoy later that im not enjoying now. Like 90% of my clothes still dont fit, and im looking forward to wearing them again and looking better then before. Im commited to being in the best shape of my life, and doing whatever necessary to achieve it. And let me tell you its very hard, i get depressed, i cry, i get angry. emotions get the better of me, but i try to cool down thinking if i keep doing things right, and have a clear goal... its just a matter of time till i achieve my goal.

thanks for listening, ill keep posting, maybe my frustration will help other people
 
Hello people,

just wanted to post an update, sinse i first posted, now im 210 lbs, have been working out pretty hard, as the days go by ive been able to do more cardio, taking it easy on weights. Actually working on a total gym, witch by the way are wasome, i got the 180 dollar one from kmart, but sinse im abig guy, 6'1'' its a little uncorfotable for some excersises but i make up for it on free weights, push ups, abs, etc. Going to order one of the nicer models theese days, as i really like it.

i have been making target weights and dates, and have been very close to everyone, off maybe 2-3 pounds, witch is ok. I have been taking pictures, going to post them later, along with a detail of my diet.

thanks for the support
 
Im pleased to hear your doing so well!. See, things arnt so bad after all :p. Just continue what your doing but remember to have the odd day off as you dont want to wear yourself out!.

All the best man.
 
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