Hey, TUBBY!

cocacola144

cocacola144

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I really need to vent, I feel so fat and gross! AND SUPER MAD!


Just recently I was down my boyfriend's mother's house. We were told to come down. There was suppose to be pizza to be ordered. We went down, me in my black dress and makeup. His grandfather who was there, doing yard work, looked at me and yelled that I didn't have my " workin' clothes on" And that NOW we had to order the pizza, and pick it up. So, yaddayaddayadda. I previously ordered a salad because , well, come on theres no way I'm touching delicious mouthwatering pizza! So, we spun around, picked up the salad, changed my clothes went and got the pizza. By the time we got back. I sat the pizza down o n the table for them all to eat, I go inside for something to drink and come out, I go to sit down and his grandfathers says " HEY TUBBY! You better lay off those sweets." My boyfriend was offended FOR me, he smacked him lightly in the head and got into a fight with him. Then My boyfriends mom chimes in and says " OH he wasnt being mean, he was just trying to tell her not to eat all those sweets she eats." " Shes just like Grandma, she eats all these sweets and worksout! there's no point." ..... Well, it's obvious he was calling me fat, Being refered to as TUBBY, isnt nice. And secondly, I dont EAT sweets, if anything sweet goes in my mouth, it's sugarfree! But, I've been at rock bottom lately, after that, I work out on my treadmill EVERY DAY and, make myself suffer. 1 hr 40 minutes yesterday, buring over 1,000 calories. On a normal day its 30 mins - 60 mins burning between 300 - 700. I run on 10 incline at 4.0! yaddayddayadda. Anyhow, I didnt realize how much being referred to as Tubby was going to hurt me. I suppose after working so hard to NOT be called fat anymore, when I AM called fat, I'm SUPER upset, You know. And to top it off, the two people who were calling me it, are over weight themselves. One is overweight, eating Pizza, deepfried foods. etc. he's diabetic, and yes, hes FAT. The other one is overweight aswell, and recently she started a sugarfree diet. I think its stupid that people are telling someone whos lost 160lbs and theyre overweight themselves what to eat. So my boyfriend ended the conversation with " SHE DIDNT LOSE 160LBS BY EATING SWEETS!!!" and they had nothing to say. MAnnnn, im just sooo upset and angry about it.

Okay, I'm done. If you read it, thanks....
 
Yeah. I think as people age the filter between their brain and mouth starts to malfunction. I know how you feel. I can't tell you how many times someone has knocked the wind right out of me with their hurtful comments. You look beautiful. Don't think about what they said for another minute. It doesn't matter. You know what you've done and what you're capable of. Sometimes you just have to let them haters hate.
 
oh sweetie don't let that stuff get to you.
people are so poorly educated when it comes to.. well thinking in general. so much ignorance.
I am 30 lbs over, at most- which makes me chubby. I've been called fat all my life, since I was in junior high and only a bit bigger than most. they didn't have anything else to call me, and I let it rub me the wrong way.
don't let it affect you because what you have achieved is beyond amazing and all that fat people calling you names, are only ashamed and jealous!
 
I don't blame you for being upset. It's awesome that your BF stood up for you like that though. He's a keeper for sure. :)
 
Yeah.... Tubby my BUTT!

Thank you guys a bunch. I just had to vent. It's so true though. And Amiba, thats so wrong! I don't know exactly how you feel though, I mean, I was called fat my entire life, But at those times I was morbidly obese. But, I have seen some guys in my school that would look at a girl and be repulsed by her, but she was only slightly chubby. I remember one time these guys were talking to a girl, and the guys got very mean to her, and said, Yeah, you ARE fat. But, this girl was perfect... And they werent joking, I later found that girl crying. But yeah, chubby is different from fat, but no matter what even if you got a lil round belly, youre HUGE. Makes no sense. But I'm about 128lbs... And these people who were saying that were about 50lbs+ overweight!! I just cant stand it! I"M TUBBY!?!?! So, that makes me the one who thinks eating "no sugar added" is sugarfree, and that it's OK to eat ANYTHING in the world as long as the sugar is down. And I'm the stupid one to think that bread,plain doughnuts and lbs and lbs of fruit is just FINE for you if you're Diabetic! Ugh. Bfdkbdfhnldf Thanks guys, really, you made me feel better.... I know its just them being mean, because my BF's Grandpa (one who called me tubby) Will tell everyone how much i lost and yaddayadda. Then John's mother ( one who agreed i was tubby) Always says how she wants to be skinny like me, and when we go to a party she will base what she eats, on what I have on my plate.... It's just so mean you know. Being called Tubby hurts worse NOW than it did when I was big... Because this time around I worked my butt off to prove everyone wrong. That I'm not going to be that FAT GIRL anymore... That next time you see me, you'll wanna BE me. haha. ( im being sassy)
 
re tubby

I was headed off to bed when I saw your post.. this made me feel SO sad for you! But kudos for your boyfriend coming to your defense.. if I read your ticker correctly, doesn't it say you're 159 lbs. DOWN? I just don't get where or why anyone would make such a comment!!

That being said-some people are set in their ways and you can't change them.. including that ignorant old man.

You keep on doing what you're doing and ignore all the negatives. I know it's hard but you have to-

Reminds me when I was a kid, maybe about 10 years old, and my uncle said to me "heyyyy are you on a seafood diet?".. At that time I was SUPER consumed with my weight and I WAS cutting out sweets and I was actually feeling a bit flattered, (for a nano second) so I said, "well no I'm not on a seafood diet" and I was an extra shy child, mind you, and he said "yeah sure you are! You see food you eat and eat!".. I was just a child and my blockhead uncle should NEVER have said that. That always sticks with me. Funny, when I'd lost weight a few years ago he was the first to comment how wonderful I look, all the while he's gained a few tons himself.. payback is a bitch!!
 
Man, reading that made me angry. I know how it can feel to have your efforts reduced to naught. Good on your BF for sticking up for you.
 
Confuzzledwife, Isn't that just SO ironic? I've noticed many times the people who used to pick on me for being fat when they are thin, are now pudgey themselves! Or the first ones to say how good you look. Grr. Poo on them. And yeah, I'm really happy my bf stood up for me. Nice guy.
 
cocacola144 said:
Thank you guys a bunch. I just had to vent. It's so true though. And Amiba, thats so wrong! I don't know exactly how you feel though, I mean, I was called fat my entire life, But at those times I was morbidly obese. But, I have seen some guys in my school that would look at a girl and be repulsed by her, but she was only slightly chubby. I remember one time these guys were talking to a girl, and the guys got very mean to her, and said, Yeah, you ARE fat. But, this girl was perfect... And they werent joking, I later found that girl crying. But yeah, chubby is different from fat, but no matter what even if you got a lil round belly, youre HUGE. Makes no sense. But I'm about 128lbs... And these people who were saying that were about 50lbs+ overweight!!
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hey again hun!

yes, I think it is crazy people say nasty things. but the world is a big, big highschool anyway.
the reality is, they will say we girls are ''fat'' if we are 10 lbs over, or 100 lbs over. and it isn't fair of course it isn't, but you learn not to care especially when you know they are just insecure and the things they say they learn and repeat from a damaged society that praises size zero.
128 lbs sounds so perfect. and you'd still be perfect at a bigger size, so don't mind the small minds! don't let them get to you.
it reminds me of petter griffin from family guy and his ''no fat chicks'' t-shirt, it really adresses the irony of fat people bashing on slightly chubby or other fat people. it is annoying
 
That stinks! I'm so proud of your boyfriend for smacking him! Still, something happens to old people, the older they get, the looser their lips. Fear not, they lose control of more than that..lol (sorry mean self got loose). I think they think they're being funny or cute, but usually they're not either of those things.

((big hugs)) I'm sorry he hurt your feelings.
 
That's Annoying, and I know how you feel with *those comments* especially from family or other's family...close to in a sense.

They're upset within themselves. You know?

They see this Beautiful young girl, who's worked extremely hard on herself, and keeps at it. And when they say they're ordering Pizza, and than you get yourself some salad, it just makes them feel worse about themselves, it has absolutely nothing at all to do with you. It feels very real & personal. I know.

It's like a reminder that they need to start doing better for themselves, because they hurt. And to mouth it & turn it around on you, they believe it takes the recognition off of themselves. Making it even worse for themselves. Just goes to show their own insecurities.

You know as I believe all ppl (including myself ;) ) speak our own insecurities.

If there is a next time, or the topic of *what happened b4* is brought up, no need to fuel their hate, something along the lines of, "Oh, I am sorry you feel that way", turn around walk away, ect.
:)

You're doing so AWESOME!!! I am glad you're here to share with us your Triumphs!!! Keep goin Strong!!!​
 
I understand what you mean. Mine now works in reverse with my family. Theyre all overweight besides my mother and always make snide comments such as "you look sickly" and whenever I do choose to eat at family events "WHOA I CANT BELEIVE YOU'LL EAT ALL OF THAT.."
Yeah whatever. I just brush it off. I think my family is jealous and possibly theyre jealous of what you have already accomplished! Dont let it get ya down!!
 
ha ha it's the beauty of karma! My family used top pick on me for my weight all the time as A kid, DAILY! All my family pretty much lived on the same block lol... I had a cousin (the only other girl in the family my age) that always used to pick on me for being "Fat" I wasnt even that fat but I wasn't skinny, so I was fat. I think it was because she was jelous that I was the prettier one, she kind of had this nerdy look going... Anyway I havent seen any of the family I used to live so close to in years... then a beautiful thing happened, I added her and several other members of my family on facebook... A glorious day when I first saw pictures of my dear cousin again, and the first thing that popped in my mind was "GOOD LORD YOU'VE GOTTEN FAT!!!" Now I have a little more respect and being an adult wouldnt just go and say that... but oh how id love to lol
 
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