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My name is Laura and I am a 22-year-old student at Wayne State University for public relations.

I have a phenomenal boyfriend whom I have been in love with for two-and-a-half years. I intend to marry him one day (assuming all goes well).

This past year I have tried SO many times to get into shape. It's actually pretty ridiculous now. I don't even like to tell people that I am doing it because I don't want to set myself up for failure like I have done in the past.

When I was 14, I was a size 3 in PACSUN (Pacific Sunwear) jeans, and now I am 5'2" and I weight 160 pounds -- YEAH, kinda' sucks. What makes me laugh to myself is the fact that back when I was 14, I actually thought I was FAT! Puh-lease.

Here's my body type: Long, skinny, pretty legs with a short, fat torso attached. Every pound I seem to gain goes STRAIGHT to my torso which let me tell ya', looks pretty weird on skinny legs. Lately though, I have noticed my arms fattening up a bit - wonderful. My face doesn't show too much, but I suppose it is a little rounder than when I was younger. Otherwise, the only part of my body that is fat is my belly and my lower back. I have a pretty large, disgusting roll in the middle/side of my back on both sides.

So, with all of my complaining and sweatshirt wearing, I decided today that I REALLY need to make a change. I'm getting sick of looking the way that I do. I have just ONE little problem - I have zero self discipline, and my motivation goes away in about a month. Seriously people, I feel like I have done this about 50 kajillion times. I hate that I always end up giving up. I NEVER see results on myself, and no one that I hang out with see's it either, therefore I feel like it's never working. I end up making excuses until one day, I pretty much just stop going to the gym, and go back to eating pasta with cream sauces (garlic white wine cream sauce WILL be the death of me one day).

Because this is the first time I have ever reached out to people online, I am a little nervous. Does this mean I have reached an all-time-low? Am I that pathetic that I need to turn to strangers in order for me to keep motivated? Help me, please. I need all the support I can get, and in all honesty, I REALLY want to make this time different. Anyone have any tips? Ideas? Anything at all? PLEASE let me know.

I will try to make an effort to post as much as possible, and of course be an active member and post my comments to other people as well.

Thanks!
Laura
 
Hi Laura, start a diary in the diary section and try and write in it every day. I found that the motivation received from other people really helps along with all the great advice. Go and read other people's diaries for inspiration. Unfortunately you are the only one that can do this. We can encourage and advise you but you have to do the rest. Try not to do fad or crash diets but just start to make small changes in your lifestyle, in both your eating and exercising and don't expect miracles. It took a long while to put the weight on so it won't come off any quicker.
You CAN do this if you really want to.
Val
 
well for starters, don't compare yourself to what you were when you were 14. you were a -child-, you were -supposed- to be smaller.
second, the reason you, and probably all of us, have tried and failed 100 times is because you give up. You said it yourself. you dont see results after a month, so you figure it isn't working and give up. What exactly does that accomplish? Look at this for example, I gained something like 65lbs in 2 years. That equals gaining only 2-3lbs a MONTH. So why do we always expect weight to come off 5lbs a week? Why do we get frustrated when its only 2lbs, or 1, or nothing that week, and decide its "not working"?

My advice would be to really hold on to a better reason to be healthier than hating how you look. Its a negative motivator and just leads to negative reactions (aka, quitting). Think about being healthier, happier, and more active. And that you love yourself enough to take care of the body you have, not that you hate yourself enough to want to change it. My other piece of advice would be to think Long Term. Girl, i've lost 24lbs in the last 3 months, And i'm still pretty much wearing the same damn clothes i've worn the whole time. So what? I'll NEVER make it to my goal if I get pissed off that i'm not there yet. You never see results because you're expecting them overnight.

As for being pathetic for coming here, I suppose thats your own opinion. A rather negative one. You get information to reach your own goals where its available, and not all of our friends are health gurus, or even give a crap about health. When was the last time someone accomplished something without information from an outside source, or support from like minded people?
 
Thank you so much for getting back to me. You're right - I do have a negative opinion about myself. However, it totally sucks to see that my boyfriend has lost 10 pounds from one weekend when we went to Lollapalooza in Chicago just from walking so much. I stayed stagnant.

I understand that it does take time - more for women than more men - but I still can't help but wish that I could get back to my little body again. My goal is 120 (not too crazy), and I'm about 160ish right now. To be honest, I haven't even checked the scale in awhile, nor do I really want to. I think I'll just go by measurements than anything else.

I do appreciate your opinion though. I hope that overtime I could get a better opinion on myself.
 
This forum gives me motivation. Check out some of the before and after topics. Incredible changes will happen if you stick with it.
 
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Can someone give me advise on protein. Im not sure when i should take it, also i need someone to give me some tips on how to lose weight. i am 12 stone 4lbs and i want to get downt to about 9-10lbs. I need to look good for prom.
 
Hey Laura

Its very very cool seeing that you want to get back to where you were, before you get to far along.

I actually just helped a girl your age that used to weigh 116 and puffed up to 165 at the age of 26.

One of the big things she was struggling with was desserts and pasta's and motivation.

She had tried the gym and many many trainers, got into debt over 5k...

Long story short, the over all problem she had was her mindset and how she looked at things... She only saw the short term... suffering and lack of great food.

I hooked her up with a partner who was in the shape she wanted to be online and that was her accountability buddy.

The good mindset wore off onto her and in 45 days she lost 25lbs.

What has been the major factor that makes your break down and quit when your going strong?
 
Hey, thank you danieldash for your reply.
I actually have been trying to get off of the couch more lately - and if I do eat, I make a hard attempt to listen to my body. Now that I am back at school, I have had more opportunities to walk around, I've also had more opportunities to eat junk, which I have been trying my hardest to stay away from. The worst I have eaten at school was a lunch portion of chicken alfredo pasta, in which I may have only eaten half of (it wasn't that good). If I go out to Subway for lunch at school, I'll usually eat a 6 inch sub (club) and make it a meal by adding low-fat yogurt, and a bottle of water.
I would have to say that the factor that breaks me down is probably the lack of eating the foods that I love. It sounds like I am a lot like the one woman you worked with. I love sweets and pasta with cream sauces.
Any advice?
 
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