Help!!! I feel fat

[cnmh071977]

OK here it goes... I am 30yo and in december I was 220+ lbs I am now 175lbs now looking at the numbers one could possibly think WOW me however I still see my self as the big person that I was not as I am now I look in the mirror and all I can see is fat ...People tell me I ma disappearing my mom says "you are starting to look too skinny" however all I can see is fat fat fat Is this normal does everyone go through this I should be walking on sunshine and all I can think about is loosing more weight I have been big all of my life and this is the smallest I have ever been (that I can remember ) Please help !!I would like to know if others are feeling the same way Thanks

 

[maleficent]

read around the forum - there's a few threads on this topic...

it's hard for people to see themselves as a newer slimmer self...

it's easier for others to see it - and the "too skinny" comments I'm not sure are really helpful for people -- others see "too skinny" as a something different...

when you look at pictures of yourself - now vs how you looked at 220 - do yuo see a difference? is there an improvement? Just keep taking pictures as you progres on your journey...

 

[jojoluvsu2]

I go through this myself, and I think most people who've had a weight issue for most of their life can relate. You're so used to being critical of youself, for not liking what you see. Even now, when your weight loss (which is amazing, btw!) should be celebrated and I'm sure you look completely different than you did, you're so deep into the routine of being critical it's hard to shift that thinking.

When I got down near to my goal weight last summer, I would stand in front of the mirror and pinch the fat on my sides (gotta love love-handles) and hate it! I tried to tell myself that that pinch used to be a handful and I should be proud but it was so habitual to be disgusted by what I felt.

It's tough, but it's just something that you have to work through. Try looking at an old picture from then and one from now, and make yourself say only positive things about the changes you see. I know there's more to improve, but focus ONLY on the positives (curves starting to show, double chin gone, etc) and learn to start loving what you see.

Look around on the forum too, lots of other people are going through the same things and may be better able to help than I!

Good luck, and keep up the good work!!