Help for my mom

I'd like to help my mom lose some weight.

Her stats:
Age: 51
Height: 5'5
Weight: approx 158

I had gotten her start eating fairly well and she's counting calories. After the first week or two she said she'd lost 3lb, but now she's saying she gained a few back, though she is loosing inches. Partly I believe it's because she wasn't watching her intake as closely as the first week but also think her calories may be too low. I also told her not to look at the scale every day. The website she's using to calculate calories set her at 1300 cal/day. But I'm thinking maybe it should be more like 1500-1600? She doesn't do much hard exercise though, mostly walking and a little bit on the total gym machine. I like to make her an easy beginner type routine.

I was thinking:
Full body weight training with dumbbells 3x week and walking for at least 30mins 5x a week

What's a good FBW that can be completed within about 30 min? And will this be enough for fat loss? I don't want to give her something that's too demanding.

She's doing pretty well with diet, she wont eat anything bad if it's not there.
 
First, congrats on helping your mom. That's great. Be sure she's in this personally for reasons that are not only going to keep her motivated during these times when there's weight to be lost. She also needs 'fuel' for post weight loss.

Make sure she begins to factor this into her thought patterns or chances of reaching her goal and reverting back to old habits are likely.

What are her goals, specifically? If it's solely weight emphasized, I'd add some meat to them with things like health measures, body measures, pictures, performance, etc.

On that same token, you're right IMO for getting her away from such a strong emphasis of the scale. Given her size (not very large) the scale is going to fluctuate quite a bit given water balance. It can flux to the extent that fat loss is completely masked, so make sure she's aware of the inadequacies of the scale.

1300 calories isn't terrible for someone her size. It's not what I'd start her at though. It doesn't leave a lot of room to wiggle. I might start at something like 10 calories per pound and go from there. Adjust accordingly.

The foods that comprise those calories is also pretty darned important too. I'm not sure if you want to or if she's ready to muddy the waters yet with food selection but at the very least she should be eating a good balance of lean proteins, healthy fats, complex/natural carbs include fruits and veggies at most if not all meals. It's hard to go wrong with this.

Some form of cardio 5 days per week is just fine. I like walking and if she enjoys it, that's what really matters. If she gets bored with it, have her switch it up on certain days. She can run, jump rope, do body weight circuits, hills, treadmill, etc, etc. Options are good.

Strength training can be done twice per week. It's there primarily to help her build a bit of muscle and at the least, help her maintain the muscle she has. You're spot on with the full body recommendation.

I'm not sure what all equipment she has available to her but if you let me know, I'll gladly throw some recommendations your way.
 
Hi Steve thanks for the reply! Her main goal is to lose the weight because she knows it's unhealthy, plus she's got two grand babies on the way, I think that's pretty good for motivation. I'm not sure how far she went with the measurements, I'll have to have her write them down and store them somewhere.

Her diet is on the right track, except for once in a while she may give into something not so healthy. Personally I eat well, good carbs, lean meats, veggies and fruit, nothing refined. I think I should print her out a list of good foods because she likes to have visuals. I can tell her to eat so and so calories, this much protein and whatnot, but it'll mean nothing to her without examples. Now I know about the healthy foods and all that, I'm just not sure what would be a good macro balance for her, right now I think her carbs may be too high, about 50-55% of her diet. I was thinking about changing her macros to be like mine at a 35c/40p/25f. I just don't know at her age.

That's a good idea, it would probably be a better to start her at 2x a week of weight training since she's not that used to it. We have access to a gym, and also have dumbbells and a weight bench at home.
 
Hi Steve thanks for the reply! Her main goal is to lose the weight because she knows it's unhealthy, plus she's got two grand babies on the way, I think that's pretty good for motivation.

I'd agree.

I'm not sure how far she went with the measurements, I'll have to have her write them down and store them somewhere.

I'm a fan of having a lot of metrics. The more data you/she has at her fingertips, the better she can determine what's working and what's not working. It also helps in preventing her from freaking out when the scale inevitably ticks up a pound, two or three if everything else is heading in the right direction.

Don't forget about performance related goals relating to things like distance or speed of her walking or weight lifted in her resistance training.

People tend to feed off of increased ability a lot.

Her diet is on the right track, except for once in a while she may give into something not so healthy.

I don't think you'd be human if you didn't. :)

Personally I eat well, good carbs, lean meats, veggies and fruit, nothing refined. I think I should print her out a list of good foods because she likes to have visuals.

I think that's an excellent idea. I'm not much a fan of giving people specific food plans. Some people want it and at times I'll cave... but that's rare. I'm much more a fan of a) finding out what foods the individual enjoys and will match my idea of ideal and b) providing them a list of foods that fit the mold. I'll typically break it out by macronutrient since more often than not I want them to have a bit of each during each meal.

For instance:

Protein: Chicken breast (ground or whole), ditto that for turkey breast, lean ground beef, top round steak, eggs, low/no fat dairy including milk and cottage cheese, eggs, pork tenderloin, fish, nuts, beans, protein powder

Fats: Cold water fish, fish oil pills (I think everyone should be taking these), extra virgin olive oil, nuts, avocados, flax, natural peanut butter

Carbs: Fruit (I find this extremely important for a female your mother's size), fibrous veggies, potatoes, yams, rice, whole wheat breads and pastas including wraps, real oatmeal

I can tell her to eat so and so calories, this much protein and whatnot, but it'll mean nothing to her without examples.

Another thought is the fact that the foods in the list above aren't calorically dense compared with most crap food. Of course you can overeat the stuff above. It's just harder. With that in mind, I know thinking of my own mother, she's not the type who is going to sit there are weigh out her food and track calories each and every single day. She's not going to worry about this many grams of protein and that many grams of fat. She just isn't.

But I've had her lose weight by simply giving her a list of foods similar to that above and saying I want you to pick a protein, carb and fat and eat X number of meals. I'd add a bit about fruit and whatnot.

Regardless, it works. I oftentimes say, "Don't muddy the waters unless you have to."

You know your mother better than any of us and I'm sure you have a handle on how best guide her... just throwing out my own experience.

Now I know about the healthy foods and all that, I'm just not sure what would be a good macro balance for her, right now I think her carbs may be too high, about 50-55% of her diet. I was thinking about changing her macros to be like mine at a 35c/40p/25f. I just don't know at her age.

If you're going to go this route, I wouldn't focus on percentages as much as I would absolute amounts. If she prefers percentages, then you do the math for her after you've toyed around with the absolute amounts (grams).

In general, once calories are set, the fundamental variable to consider is protein. There's no definitive amount required but I feel it best/safest to shoot for something like 1 gram per pound of goal body weight.

Suppose this is 125 grams. 4 calories per gram of protein, you now know where 500 calories are coming from.

Next I like to set fat at something like 25% of total calories. Suppose her caloric goal is 1500. This would multiply out to be 375 calories from fat. We know each gram of fat has approximately 9 calories, so she should be shooting for 40 or so grams of fat.

We're still left with 625 calories to fill or the original 1500 calorie goal. What you do with this is extremely dependent on the individual, tolerances and circumstances. For example:

- some might do some sort of cyclical approach where carbs fluctuate per training schedule
- others might fill he remainder of calories entirely with carbs. Some might not tolerate carbs so well though so that's not always a good idea
- others might fill it with a combo of carbs and some more fats. In this case she could even bump protein up a bit to to something like 1.5 grams per pound of goal body weight.

You get the point. This is generally my thought process when going through something like this with someone.

That's a good idea, it would probably be a better to start her at 2x a week of weight training since she's not that used to it. We have access to a gym, and also have dumbbells and a weight bench at home.

I'd probably do two different workouts to breakup the monotony. For now, each will be similar in terms for sets and reps. You could do something like:

Day 1:

Squats (can be body weight, db, bb, etc)
Supine Hip Extensions
Rows (machine, cable, db, bb)
Bench Press (machine, db, bb)
Planks
Arms

Day 2:

Romanian Deads (body weight, db, bb)
Split Squats
Cable Pulldowns (assuming you're taking her to the gym)
Standing DB Overhead Press
Pallof Presses (assuming you're taking her to the gym)
Arms

2-3 sets of 12-15 reps for starters where the primary focus is on form of execution. Once 100% comfortable with each movement she can start progressing the weight. Eventually rep and set ranges can be modified and then exercise selection after a long while.

Just some general thoughts.
 
I'm a fan of having a lot of metrics. The more data you/she has at her fingertips, the better she can determine what's working and what's not working. It also helps in preventing her from freaking out when the scale inevitably ticks up a pound, two or three if everything else is heading in the right direction.

Don't forget about performance related goals relating to things like distance or speed of her walking or weight lifted in her resistance training.

People tend to feed off of increased ability a lot.

True, I'll have to remind her about her improvement in performance if she starts to base things off of visual improvement. I'll also have to steal her scale since she weighed herself again today! A good thing happened the other day, one of her friends commented that they noticed she was losing weight so that would make her feel good.

I think that's an excellent idea. I'm not much a fan of giving people specific food plans. Some people want it and at times I'll cave... but that's rare. I'm much more a fan of a) finding out what foods the individual enjoys and will match my idea of ideal and b) providing them a list of foods that fit the mold. I'll typically break it out by macronutrient since more often than not I want them to have a bit of each during each meal.

For instance:

Protein: Chicken breast (ground or whole), ditto that for turkey breast, lean ground beef, top round steak, eggs, low/no fat dairy including milk and cottage cheese, eggs, pork tenderloin, fish, nuts, beans, protein powder

Fats: Cold water fish, fish oil pills (I think everyone should be taking these), extra virgin olive oil, nuts, avocados, flax, natural peanut butter

Carbs: Fruit (I find this extremely important for a female your mother's size), fibrous veggies, potatoes, yams, rice, whole wheat breads and pastas including wraps, real oatmeal

Another thought is the fact that the foods in the list above aren't calorically dense compared with most crap food. Of course you can overeat the stuff above. It's just harder. With that in mind, I know thinking of my own mother, she's not the type who is going to sit there are weigh out her food and track calories each and every single day. She's not going to worry about this many grams of protein and that many grams of fat. She just isn't.

But I've had her lose weight by simply giving her a list of foods similar to that above and saying I want you to pick a protein, carb and fat and eat X number of meals. I'd add a bit about fruit and whatnot.

Regardless, it works. I oftentimes say, "Don't muddy the waters unless you have to."

You know your mother better than any of us and I'm sure you have a handle on how best guide her... just throwing out my own experience.

Cool! That's exactly what I planned to do for her. I printed out a list of good proteins/fats/carbs that she could mix into her meals. I know we have some fish oil pills, don't know if she's taking them though. I should probably take them too myself. Yes, although she has a scale and is using a calorie counting site for now, she's not going to want to do that forever.

If you're going to go this route, I wouldn't focus on percentages as much as I would absolute amounts. If she prefers percentages, then you do the math for her after you've toyed around with the absolute amounts (grams).

In general, once calories are set, the fundamental variable to consider is protein. There's no definitive amount required but I feel it best/safest to shoot for something like 1 gram per pound of goal body weight.

Suppose this is 125 grams. 4 calories per gram of protein, you now know where 500 calories are coming from.

Next I like to set fat at something like 25% of total calories. Suppose her caloric goal is 1500. This would multiply out to be 375 calories from fat. We know each gram of fat has approximately 9 calories, so she should be shooting for 40 or so grams of fat.

We're still left with 625 calories to fill or the original 1500 calorie goal. What you do with this is extremely dependent on the individual, tolerances and circumstances. For example:

- some might do some sort of cyclical approach where carbs fluctuate per training schedule
- others might fill he remainder of calories entirely with carbs. Some might not tolerate carbs so well though so that's not always a good idea
- others might fill it with a combo of carbs and some more fats. In this case she could even bump protein up a bit to to something like 1.5 grams per pound of goal body weight.

You get the point. This is generally my thought process when going through something like this with someone.

Well, since she is loosing weight currently I'm thinking it'd be ok for her to stay where she's at in her macros. Then maybe when she hits a plateau we can change them up. I don't think she is getting enough protein though, I think she's probably getting around 80-100g a day. Maybe if I can find a whey powder that she can stomach it'll help her get in a little extra. She's tried mine but apparently it tastes like puke to her.

I'd probably do two different workouts to breakup the monotony. For now, each will be similar in terms for sets and reps. You could do something like:

Day 1:

Squats (can be body weight, db, bb, etc)
Supine Hip Extensions
Rows (machine, cable, db, bb)
Bench Press (machine, db, bb)
Planks
Arms

Day 2:

Romanian Deads (body weight, db, bb)
Split Squats
Cable Pulldowns (assuming you're taking her to the gym)
Standing DB Overhead Press
Pallof Presses (assuming you're taking her to the gym)
Arms

2-3 sets of 12-15 reps for starters where the primary focus is on form of execution. Once 100% comfortable with each movement she can start progressing the weight. Eventually rep and set ranges can be modified and then exercise selection after a long while.

Just some general thoughts.

Awesome! Thanks for the suggestions! I'll have her start off easy and find the exercises she's comfortable with. Thanks again!
 
Great.

Just remember, just b/c she's losing weight doesn't mean things are right. Nutirional value of the calories is critical for health and body composition as well.

For instance, eating inadequate amounts of protein is a great way to wind up a smaller, still soft version of your former self.
 
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