Cohen's Lifestyle help!!!already struggling!!!

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annemarie1

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Hi, my name is Annemarie and I am in the U.K. I am not sure if this forum is same as community forum, and if read by the same group. If it is sorry if I am repeating myself!!!
This is my second time on program. I succeeded in reaching my goal weight a year and a half ago on the Cohen Program. We only had one rep here in the Uk so it was lucky for me that this wonderful program came to my attention. Unfortunately no-one it seems in UK as heard of it and it's excellent results.
Anyway, it took me just over 4 months to lose the weight BUT then less than a year ago I started the menopause early (at 39!!!) and a series of other things going wrong and I went back to my old habits (comfort eating etc...) and the weight piled back on again. So now, here I am again. I feel like a double failure as I have allowed myself to put all the hard work to waste and not kept my promise to myself that I would never put the weight back on.
So on Monday 27th August,I started again after putting off starting until tomorrow and then tomorrow again etc.......
I have been really good and not deviated at all, but now here I am on day 3 at 7pm and I am struggling!! All I keep thinking about is going to get something nice to eat and starting again tomorrow. I have tried to keep busy. I have even given myself a manicure and pedicure but I am really struggling. I know if I cheat one little bit, I will go completely over the top and eat everying and anything and then feel totally awful and wonder why did I do it, but I can't get that voice out of my head!!!
please anyone help!! any words of advice??? At least the sun has been shining. I don't know if you have heard, but we haven't had much of a summer this year in UK. Up until last week it rained everyday so that in itself has been quite depressing and not very motivating!!!
any words of encouragement would be really appreciated!!!
annemarie
 
I too am "starting over for the last time". Like many, I start off great and then slowly fall back into bad habits, and like you become victim to the "oh forget it, Ill eat what I want and start over tomorrow" trap. I keep telling myself to remember that weightloss is hard and can be a struggle- if it werent, everyone would be skinny! When I get my cravings, or feel the old habits calling, I try to dstract myself with keeping my hands busy with something else like crafting. I also have bought alot of chewing gum to keep my mouth busy. I also try to remain focused and talk to myself saying things like "think (before you eat that) and you will shrink" or flatout tell myself OUT LOUD "NO! you do not need that!" Hang in there and the hard work will pay off!
 
Annemarie,

You know from last time that first days are the hardest. I was advised to keep drinking lots of water. Get a multi-vitamin if you're not already taking one since the low calories is not enough to give you all the nutrients you need. Be tough with yourself about your commitment; you know how hard it is to start from your experience and you've already taken that hard step. All of those foods will be there (in moderation of course!) 4 months down the road when you've reached your goal. Do you have a diary from the last time you were on theprogram? Maybe reading it would be helpful now. If not, can you remember how fabulous you flet once you're body started losing the fat and weight? Can you focus on that now?

I know it's really hard. I'm only 2 weeks in it took almost all of that for me to stop being obsessed with how hungry I was. One thing I did was tell myself whenever I was hungry that if I didn't give in, my body would burn fat in return.

YOU CAN DO THIS!!! YOU WANT TO DO THIS!!! And think of how short a period of time it will be compared to your whole life ahead of you. Hang in there for yourself.

Merci
 
Hi Merci and Yarmiah
Thank you so much for your replies, I really do appreciate it. Everything you say makes sense and yes I have to say it really does help to read your messages and look through other peoples comments - you realise there are others out there who know exactly how you feel and what you are going through!!
It is now 1030pm here in Uk and I have managed to get through day 3, and am I so glad I did (earlier this afternoon when I sent previous thread, I really was struggling and about to give in). I know tomorrow is going to be another day to get through but I think (if I remember from 1st time round) once I start to see results on scales and start to see fat coming off, it gets easier and I did not want to cheat as I had more motivation to stick with it.
Thanks again for your advice and encouragement and I hope to speak to you again soon. Please let me know how you are getting on.
Have a nice day
Annemarie
 
Hi Annemarie

Well done - you got through Day 3 when you were really struggling. If day 4 brings the same challenges and thoughts remember that you felt that way yesterday and like you did then - you can do it again! One meal at a time. Relish every bite of every part of your unprocessed and nutrient filled foods and tell yourself that you are 'chooseing' to eat these foods. No one is forcing you to follow the plan by the letter, you are not depriving yourself, you are giving yourself the opportunity to live and enjoy the body, mind and soul your deserve. In everything we do we have at least two choices, to do or not to do. If you choose to do, feel empowered by it, if you choose not to do then look in the mirror or try on something you like to wear and think about how you feel about it. If it makes you feel negatively - change it!

You have taken the hardest step already - going back on the plan. Be empowered by your decision and take the bull by the horns.

Good luck and keep us posted.

Lauren
 
Hi Annemarie, Well done also on getting through day 3 when you really did feel like tossing it in. It is hard losing weight but keeping it off will be even harder I'm sure. It took me a lifetime of bad habits to accumulate all of my weight so it will take a while to re-train my brain so that I don't resort to food as a panacea for everything! It used to be a reward, stress relief, comfort food...etc. Instead of being something to sustain my body. It helps me considerably when I read posts such as yours. I know I will have to be vigilant. I don't ever want to be obese again. Keep up the good work! You know that Cohen's works so have that advantage. Also the feeling of being slim would be fresh in your brain. The "Nothing tastes as good as slim feels" is a great mantra. I'm pleased you are getting sunshine at last. Your UK summer was bleak. Our son was in Blackpool, playing pool about a month ago. Did it flood where you are? It featured a lot on our news here in Aus. Look forward to following your progress. Cheers, Cate
 
i feel such a failure already!!!

Hi cate and Lauren
thanks for your replies to my struggling thread! today day 4 has turned out to be a disaster. i was so pleased that I did not cheat yesterday and give in to the struggle, but today i missed lunch (due to appointments and being out and about and not able eat at proper time) so consequently by 5pm I felt terrible. I had to go into a supermarket on my way home for some shopping for rest of family and of couse temptation was all around me. I feel like such an absolute failure that I gave in and ended up eating a baguette with cheese and salami and then stupidly thought 'well, i've blown it today, I might as well carry on' and had some icecream and waffles. the ridiculous thing is i didnt even enjoy it, but I was so hungry and felt so weak and sick that I just gave in. I have now just come to bed and feel absolutely awful - physically sick and totally disgusted with myself. i have just logged on and read your encouraging comments you sent me after my day 3 that I now feel I have let you down as well. How silly does that seem?!!!
I guess the only thing is to start again tomorrow (here I go again!!) and try and remember how awful I feel right now next time I want to go and do something stupid like tonight. I am going to keep reading your replies as I think had I read them earlier before I went stupid I probably would have not cheated and would have been motivated by you all to just go and prepare my evening meal and have done with it. Hopefully I have learnt my lesson!!!
Thanks again ladies xx
 
annemarie- A little tip. Never be without emergency rations of crackers & fruit! I still never go anywhere without them (& water).
Jump straight back on the horse. You can do it! You haven't let anyone down! Cheers, Cate.
 
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