Hello Amanda,
I wish you luck in your journey and offer you this. Before you take action consider this.
I lost 100 pounds in about four months. That was two years ago. It hasn’t come back and never will.
I am not a doctor or a dietician. I am just a reasonably intelligent guy with a lot of free time and way too much information in my head. I found some ideas that when put to use generate the loss of an average of a pound a day. I’d like to share the basis of how it works.
Something created in the mind technically is not real. It can become real but it is not real until you take some action. Now for something completely different…
Metabolism is a set of chemical reactions that seeks to maintain and preserve the organism using the least amount of energy. It has been proven that you can reset your metabolism but it requires a change in eating habits over time. Right now there are articles in magazines that outline certain diets to do this so I won’t go into it right now. Go check it out for yourself.
It doesn’t matter to your metabolism if you are happy with the results or not. It is what it is and wants to stay that way. This is why you do fine for a bit, lose some weight and then go right back to where you started.
There is not an ounce of fat that got onto your body without you thinking about it. You thought of something then you went and got it. Since the quality and quantity that you eat is a major factor in dictating the level of your metabolism and your thoughts dictate what you eat then your mind ultimately controls your metabolism. I offer that in this line of reasoning there is a mental metabolism that hides in the background of the mind and that if you figure out how to reset that then your body’s metabolism can be put wherever you want.
Like a mechanic, you can’t repair a broken engine unless you understand it; here is a concept that outlines the engine of the mind.
In your mind, have you ever said to yourself why did you do that, you need to get moving or that’s not like you? It probably happens all the time. The thing of it is that the word you is a second person pronoun but there’s only one of you. Kind of odd when you look at it like that. The way I look at it, there are actually three main components of the mind that dictate behavior. What to do about it is a different story but here are the players of the mind.
The first one is the voice that you are familiar with. The inner monologue or whatever you want to call it. This voice is in constant action and it is how we are able to reason things out and solve problems. Since it is always doing things I refer to it as the human Doing. If you reduce the action that it does to its base function it does one thing. It compares stuff. It compares things outside to each other such as when you say a car is green and not blue. It also compares things to you such as when you say that car is better than your car and here is where the trouble starts. When the Doing starts making comparisons to you, it gets stumped because the real you at your core is an entity that is not subject to comparison. That is the second player of the mind.
Deep within all of us at our core is something that is ageless, timeless and perfect. It has no past or future and does not seek to compare things because it is connected to everything. This is the human Being. Experiences such as unconditional love, true gratitude or bliss exist in the Being. They too are ageless and timeless. An example is that unconditional love does not require that you meet requirements. It is something that happens right now and does not depend on yesterday or tomorrow.
The Doing tries to compare things to the Being and gets no response because the Being doesn’t have one. It has no opposite in existence. So the Doing, great problem solver that it is, creates something to use in comparing. This is called the Collective.
If I ask you to describe yourself, anything you say will be the result of a comparison. A woman is not a man, a teacher is not a police officer, an obese person is not a thin person. These things that you use to define yourself are part of the Collective. They are the things you believe make you who you are.
Those are the players now for how it relates to weight loss.
The action of cheating on a diet or just eating poorly comes down to one thing. A comparison. I’ll slow it down so we can see the process. Warning…this is something the Doing does not want you to know. If you made it this far without much resistance that is about to change.
Imagine you found this awesome diet that works for everyone but it forbids turkey and stuffing. There is no diet like that this is just an example. In your mind, you have pictures and memories of Thanksgiving and all the things that go with it. It’s all very real to you and it is a part of you but all those things will be gone in the future. Those memories are part of the Collective. The Doing compared a you not having turkey and stuffing to the part of you that experiences those things. If you cheat on this diet it is the result of this type of comparison. This mechanism is responsible for any diet that fails. There is more to giving up a certain food as you can see you are actually giving up part of yourself.
Since nothing created in the mind is actually real and a lot of your actions are based on a comparison to something created in the mind then most of the problems you have with eating the right food are based on an illusion.
If you can learn to see this process in action, you can control it. This takes time but it works.
