Heather's Success Story!

frustrated!

ok . . . so i need some advice here. i've been dating the world's most wonderful man for nearly 2 years now. i love him to death, and i would never change him for the world because he's so good to me all the time. . . . .

HOWEVER.

when it comes to my battle with weight loss, he just isn't supportive. well, no i take it back - he IS supportive, but only in a 'hey go do your thing' kind of way. which is fine. . . . . . .when it was something like quitting smoking. when it's weight loss which is really a lifestyle change, it's not quite as helpful.

i try and try and try to get him to come to the gym with me, and it's like pulling teeth. i suggest it to him, and he might agree for a little bit, but then if he actually sticks with that thought and comes with me, he'll end up spending the entire time there complaining about how boring it is. it's to the point where i don't even try to get him out anymore. (trust me, it was more frustrating to bring him than to be sad i was leaving him behind)

now that i'm the only one who goes to the gym on a regular basis, he just refuses to help me stick with it. he is always telling me i shoudlnt' go because i should be spending time with him, or that i don't need to go every day, etc. then to support my eating habits, he'll buy a huge pizza with cheese fries and soda!!! it's so frustrating!

i love him more than anything in the world. i don't want him to change the way he looks. . . . .i love him the way he is. but it frustrates me when i work so hard for something and i get no one to share my work with, and thusly it's two times as hard to keep with it. not only do i have to deal with temptation myself, but i have to deal with the temptation to just be lazy with my boyfriend!!!

and the thing is, i don't want to hurt his feelings with this. weight is a very touchy subject with him, and i don't want to imply that i want him to lose weight. i just wish i could convey to him that it's hard for me since i'm dieting to watch him eat that way and not support me exercising.

does this make any sense?!? i feel kinda mean for thinking about it that way - but i had so much family support while i was home for christmas with my mom and brother both going to the gym that i miss it now!!

anyway that's all, time for some gym rattiness. ;) then some new year's celebrating!
 
also - total calories so far = 518.

awesome!
 
Heather, nice to meet you and welcome to the forum. I read your first few entries and I like the way you think! Your paragraph about waiting out the craving was great, I'm definitely going to do that. I would like you to know that I am a pizza-a-holic, so I know how you feel. My trick is to never get a whole pizza, because then you're asking for an overindulgence. Whenever I want pizza I go to an actual italian restaraunt (the family owned ones are best) and I get ONE slice with a salad. One slice of cheese is roughly 250 calories and if you go light on your salad dressing then you have a very nice little lunch. Hey, I lost 60 pounds and had that as a lunch as least once a week. :) Glad you're part of the forum.
 
funkymonk, thanks for the awesome idea! the craving thing works until i get my period, then it's about 3 times as hard to wait it out simply because i'm starving all the time. :mad: i'm super impressed with your weight loss accomplishment!!! that's just awesome!

so i have yet to add up the calories from yesterday. . . .not too sure if i even want to do it, as it was a night out with friends that ended in a 7-11 stop for undrunk food. never a good plan. but i will add them up, simply because i promised myself i would start to do this.

and now it's 2006. . . . . .and the start of my promised 1500 cal/day plan. day one. i have yet to eat breakfast, have just been sipping on water while recovering! :p stocked my fridge up with all kinds of tasty things to help me out, and am going to try a yummy chicken with penne and cream sauce recipe i got from a low-fat recipe site.

just gotta find a way for the boy to be in on this too!!!! the support of mom and brother is SO great, but neither of them are near me. . . .brother is three hours away and mom is an hour away. :( need to find a way to get the boy in on this too.
 
oh dear god. . . . .i added up the calories for yesterday. . . . .let's just say i know now why i've been having a slow start to losing weight. (well, slowish. . .the beginning was fast, now we've slowed down)

i've got to cut back on alcohol consumption. i cannot even BELIEVE the amount of calories i consumed in alcohol last night. it seriously upped my total for the day by nearly 1000 calories.

granted, last night was pretty crazy, and it WAS NYE.. . . . .but still. i'm just in shock.

mini-goal for today. . . . .be under 1500 cals. (and i'm pretty sure i can do it, seeing as i've only been awake for 2 hours!!! :p)

start the new year with a new approach!
 
I can't believe that I've never browsed through your diary until today when I actually searched for it after you stopped by mine. So sorry about that!

Don't let your boyfriend get you down. Don't give in to that temptation. You really may need to have a talk with him and let him know how you feel and how it would really mean a lot to you to have his support.
 
Hey Heather, you're really doing great! I'm sorry to hear that your b/f isn't supportive like you'd enjoy. I would suggest sitting him down and having a talk with him. Just simply letting him know that this is about YOU and YOUR weight, don't imply that its anything to do with his and he shouldn't be offended. :) I know easier said than done!

However, just let him know how its making you feel and how it does not help your struggle. Let him know you think its sweet he may think you are "jsut fine" as is, but you know better for yourself and your health. Let him know it woul dbe very helpful for you to have his support behind you! And hopefully this will make him realize that he's been sabotaging you in a way, maybe not cruelly but he is all the same. And maybe letting him know that you will be sure to keep time for him in your schedule. Maybe he' sjust gotten a little envious of your gym time, versus him time. :) Men can be just oversized children at times! :D Good luck girl!
 
hippo and newleaf, i actually did talk to him about it a little bit yesterday - i don't go very long thinking about something and not telling him about it. he wants to start going to the gym with me, and said that he wants to try to eat better as well!!! so i'm excited. i'm just worried that he'll slip again. . . .he's told me this gym spiel before. but for now, i'm just glad that the dear boy wants to try for me (and for him too!). i told him that for as long as he wants to come with me, i'll support him and help him out with it. so i'm keeping my fingers crossed on that! and newleaf, you're totally right - they're just big five year olds. ;)

monday is weigh-in day, and good news to report. . . .the holiday season brought a 1 lb loss for me, and that was all!!! 187 lbs as of today. no difference from last week, but to me during the time of indulgence, that's pretty much an accomplishment!

started calorie counting yesterday. my mini-goal was met!!! and only just barely! haha. did a solid 1498 calories. i think what i'd like to do is figure out a spread for my day in terms of snacks vs. meals and calories. what i'm thinking is a spread as such. . . .

breakfast - 300
snack - 150
lunch - 300
snack - 150
dinner - 500
snack - 100

now i'd like to eventually end up at a 1200 cal/day plan, but i'm trying to start it off a little easier for myself. maybe in the spring when i'm truly used to the 1500 cal/day plan, i'll move on to the 1200 cal/day. most likely what i'll have to end up doing is breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner, snack. . . . .just because i work night shift, and it's really weird for me to have 'lunch' at like 4pm. we'll see what happens. . . . .

now time to rack some exercise up to major cleaning of the apt!! :) then gym with the boy after he finishes work!
 
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i'm definitely a junkie for this website. . . .but i wanted to post a victory!!! took the boyfriend to the gym today. i burned nearly 400 calories plus a half hour weight lifting and *counts* 100 crunches on the little crunch machine thinger.

came home to try out a new recipe that i found online. . . . .will post if people want it - i HIGHLY recommend it. it's fantastic! it was chicken, asparagus and red peppers in a cream sauce over penne. bought whole wheat penne to cut down the calories and increase my whole grain consumption. the recipe called for fat-free chicken broth, light sour cream and wine to make the sauce. . . .i found it to be REALLY limp even when reduced, so i added a little bit of flour. i'd really like to buy some whole wheat flour, unbleached. just want to make some more whole grains part of my diet. i'm pretty good so far, but my flour is that all-purpose stuff.

the boy liked the dinner - minus the veggies. he's definitely not a veggie kind of person, so i made his without the veggies. he gave it a thumbs up!

in other news, i'm WAY under my calories for the day, so far cashing in at 1054. definitely been working REALLY hard today. feel great with the boy behind my back! i'm really really trying to get him into this, and i think he's a bit resistant but he's making an effort and i really appreciate that.

challenge starts tomorrow!!!! can't wait!
 
Hey Girl! Looks like things may work out after all. I am so glad he agreed to go with you to the gym, and hopefully it will continue since he will start feeling better too.
 
hey 1day and hippo, thanks so much for the encouragement! it really is great that he's started going to the gym with me. he's such a sweet-natured man, i know he would never do anything to intentionally block my efforts to do something, but it was just frustrating the hell out of me! we talked about it though. . . . . .and i think my working on my weight so much is kinda affecting him as well. he goes through spurts of wanting to lose weight. i think he thinks that he won't be able to do it without playing sports again, which makes me sad because his knees are bad. . . . .i want him to play again, he loves it so much. but i think he's doing more wear and tear on them now being heavy than even playing football or rugby again would do to them. i don't know. . . . .i want him to be happy and healthy, so whatever he wants to do is fine with me. i just want him to be around until we're old greyheads in our 90s. :)

so the challenge has begun! i'm loving this so far. i've started a food journal, and i've found that it makes me TOTALLY accountable for everything i eat. i've been really really strict so far, and find that i have absolutely no trouble staying in my 1500 calorie range and still eating foods that i like. i might shorten my timespan, and make the 1500 calorie thing a 2 month plan, then take it down by 100 calories for one month at a time until i'm to 1200. i just don't want to shock my system quite yet by dropping to 1200 right away.

gymwise i've been awesome. . . . .unless i'm working a stretch, i'm there every day. the holidays kinda cut into my schedule, but then my mom and brother really like to go to the gym now so that helped me. i took a yoga class on tuesday that i absolutely LOVED. conquered my fear of going to group class at the gym, and got back into something i really enjoy. am hoping to maybe get back to the yoga studio i used to attend in west philly. . . . .not sure if i'll make it just because without a car it's annoying to get up there and back. . . . . .buuut with the boy in class three days a week starting in january, this might be the perfect opportunity. it's yoga inspired by baron baptiste, and it's hot yoga - they heat the room to like 95 degrees while you practice. you sweat so much that you feel absolutely cleansed by the time you leave. i LOVE it. so maybe that will be my february goal. go back to yoga class.

and now i close, because i'm way beyond my bedtime. (worked last night) g'night everyone, and good luck to all of the challengers!
 
just had a thought. . . . .of just doing my measurements, and checking them every week.

and since you all know my weight already, i figure what the hell, might as well post the measurements on here too! then i'll do the measurements on the same day as the weigh-ins. (mondays) and we'll see how we go!!!

today:

omg i can't believe i'm posting these. . . . .embarassing. . . . .

46-41-44

wow.

all i can keep thinking of is some stupid hip hop song saying 'measurements were 36-25-34'. i have to do about 29837532982379 sit ups before i can get to 25, if i ever do!!!

anyway, so monday is measure day. just another way to see how i'm doing.
 
you are brave, because im too afraid to even venture towards the measuring tape...

I enjoy reading your entries, they are informative, and entertaining!
 
Hey there! Just stopping in to say hello! I can't wait to see how measurements go tomorrow!! I hope you have a great week this week! We have to really work it so we can WIN this challenge!!
 
goodmorning everyone!

thank you all for commenting in my journal, your support is SO awesome and i love it. it really is what helps keep me motivated when i'm feeling tired out. 1_day, i feel like it's going to take FOREVER to get there! but i'm glad you found me amusing ;) hehe
trusylver thanks for stopping by and for the encouraging words! i'm trying. :)
skinny kate - yeah it was pretty horrifying to actually type out those numbers, but in a way it helped me out because the more i'm horrified by my weight/measurements, the more i want to change them. and i'm glad to entertain!!!
christina - amen girl, this challenge is some HARD work! but wait a little bit for some good news on my front. . . . .;) thanks for dropping in!
rosered - as usual, thanks for the support chica. you're awesome!

finishing up another 12 hour shift. i truly enjoy my job, it's such a good time. i'm paired up with a nurse for my orientation who also eats 5-6 small meals a day, and we just joke around all the time about how we're 'constantly eating'. she's so damn tiny that she doesn't need to be losing any weight at all, but she just eats a lot. found a wonderful way to politely get rid of the 293857329873 chocolates that a patient gave me (god bless her, she sent them to the hospital addressed to me personally after she was discharged) - bring them in to work!!! the vultures instantly descend upon them, and i left with probably 1/4 of what i had brought in. BEAUTIFUL idea. will remember it for wednesday.

calories for the day are fantastic as well - 1220. YES! . . . . well actually 1330. didn't count the OJ that i'm sipping on right now. water was through the roof - that's one thing i don't have a problem with, as i'm always chugging away at my water. it's just something i do automatically when i'm at work because it's so dry there. plus it's a great appetite suppressant. keeps my mouth busy.

so now for the good news. . . . .did the weight today. . . . .and i dropped a lb! once again, feeling kinda stupid for being so excited over 1 lb, but i'm just gonna be excited anyway. i'm 3 lbs away from losing 20. that's awesome. i gotta really kick some butt this next week for the challenge as well as for maybe those three lbs, and then will take some money from savings and buy a new outfit or something. :) i'm excited.

i wrote this in the challenge boards, but i've been continuing my little boyfriend saga here with the dieting/him not helping me out thing. . . . . . .it's like the boy suddenly saw the light. i don't know if it's because i talked to him about it or because he met with a personal trainer on friday (and discovered that he's 30 lbs heavier than he thought he was, btw) but he's like a new man. he's watching what he eats. . . . well, relatively, anyway. i'm going to have to work at this one to get him to eat at a semi-respectable level. he just. . . .he doesn't eat breakfast. he barely eats lunch. then he ravages his dinner as like a whole pizza, or 1/2 a bag of chips then a sandwich. it's awful, it's not nutritious (i have no idea how he gets his full allowance of vitamins), and i don't like watching him not take care of himself. the idealistic nuturer in me wants to just move in together already (happening this summer) and cook for him because he obviously can't deal by himself.

men can be morons.

but ANYWAY - so he's been watching what he eats, and he stayed up all night last night to be able to sleep with me during the day (i know, too cute). so he calls me as i'm leaving the hospital and asks if i'm hungry. i tell him yes - i'm always hungry after my shift. i just don't usually eat because i'm going to bed right afterwards. so he says ok, and changes the subject. of course i figure he's making me breakfast, and i try to prepare myself for either a breakfast sandwich from a food cart (absolutely sinfully good but SO BAD FOR YOU), or some eggs, sausage and hash brown breakfast. i start to try and calculate my calories for the day to see how many thousands i'll be over. :p well i get home and find that he has cooked me everything that i have here in the APARTMENT. he cooked me egg beaters, whole wheat toast with vegetable spread, peeled me a clementine, and poured me a bowl of my kashi cereal. now i couldn't eat the kashi so i gave it to him, because i was too stuffed after the rest. . . . . .but i was so touched! it really showed me that he appreciates the effort i'm putting into this, and i loved that.

dunno, he's pretty spectacular sometimes.

anyway, so past the mushy part. yesterday was well done, ended the day at like 1410. today we're at 1330. things are going well, my dears ;) keeping up the work!
 
Hey Heather, congrats on your pound lost! That is so awesome! :)

And also on your new success with your boyfriend! I am so thrilled that he is taking a step to better his health and that he is supporting you. Boy it makes a world of difference!! As for his eating habits, well he'll gradually improve on those I bet with your influence. :) Oryou could also perhaps encourage him to meet with a nutritionist so he can get a better idea on what and how he should eat! :) Again congrats... way to go!!
 
Congrads girl doing great you CAN DO IT!
 
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