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ive been thinkin about it lately, and i really want my entire family to change their ways and get healthy...not just for me, but for my parents who are overweight, and my younger brothers who are going to end up being overweight and i dont want them to grow up like me never being in any type of shape to play the sports i love, constantly underestimated and facing constant criticism when it came to anything involving physical activity...

i dont believe my parents care about this families health and it will destroy our lives in the long run, my being overweight has effected me in every aspect in my life, my social life, i havent joined my football team because im big but not strong, and i dont want my brothers to live a life without sports because they're great...

so what can i do to let my parents know i think we need to make a family change? im really not comfortable at all straight up talking about it so what else can i do?
 
Good on you!

Live by example. Don't just eat it because it is there, make choices with your health in mind. Perhaps buy some books on health and leave them on the coffee table.

But, I think the best answer is to talk about it. Your parents might not know they are being so unhealthy!

Good luck!
 
if i lived by my parents example i would weigh around 300 pounds but still not be "fat" according to my parents...

i made a shopping list of some healthy stuff to buy nxt time they're at the store, fresh chicken, fat free hot dogs, whole wheat buns, reallly lean hamburgers, healthy stuff right, to which i commented "to get some healthy food in this house for once"

to which my mom responded "we dont like the taste of your healthy hot dogs so dont force them on us" so obviously im just screwed since my parents dont give a crap about this families health...
 
Honestly, best thing you can do is start changing YOUR ways. When your family sees the changes you've made, not just physically but overall health, they may try to change.
 
ive been making changes a lot for the past couple months, but all my parents have done is make fun of me and talk to their friends about me behind my back...eating healthy is a joke to them
 
Try and have a sit down talk with your mom and try to come to an arrangement.

Would she let you do your own shopping? Maybe if she gave you the money that she would normally spend on you, then you can go with her and get the more healthy things.
 
FoodIsMyLife said:
ive been making changes a lot for the past couple months, but all my parents have done is make fun of me and talk to their friends about me behind my back...eating healthy is a joke to them
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Stick to your guns my man. You know and we all know that your in the right. Dont give a crap about them laughing at you, thats their problem, not yours.

My family laughed at me when I started weight training, now they want my help.
 
Really, I think you might want to think about buying your own food. It will help alot. It is not that hard to buy healthy snacks. Plus maybe, you could buy some wieghts, a workout ball and start exercising in your room.
 
FoodIsMyLife said:
ive been making changes a lot for the past couple months, but all my parents have done is make fun of me and talk to their friends about me behind my back...eating healthy is a joke to them
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Congratulations for making changes. Stay strong, and continue being healthy.

It sucks that they make fun of you, but perhaps they are doing it out of jealousy? I've found those that make fun of me for working hard, are really just envious because they have yet to find the motivation the discipline to do this themselves.

Continue doing what your doing :)
 
its not like teasing me like "ha ha, your eating healthy and we're not!" its more like "oh, would you like a slice of this delicious cake? o wait, your on a diet"

or they make fun of my want to eat healthy when talkin to other ppl, we're at my little bros bball game right? and they give out snacks at the end, one of the mothers who brought the snacks asks if i want one, i politely say no thanks but my parents have to cut in and say, "he wont eat it, heeeee's eating healthy"
 
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Um, OK that is different than making fun of you, that is trying to sabatoge your plan. Sometimes, when people do things they have doubts about they need to make sure that everyone else is doing it to--to it will 'reinforce' to them that their behavior is OK....when they suspect it's not. So, they are eating the 'wrong' foods and when you choose not to, then it's a threat/insult to them. For example, I am a vegetarian. Most people are fine with that...but sometimes people will try to argue with me and say "Why are you a vegetarian? what's wrong with meat? blah-blah" and keep on going "eeeew, eeeew TOFU! Gross!" (when they have never tried it). What they are really doing is responding to a threat to what THEY do....because the fact that someone is doing it differently makes them question what they do and they become defensive and start harassing YOU. Just listen to everyone else, buy a book like Body for Life and keep focused on you. Block them out, they are just threatened by your different way of thinking and eventually they will probably want YOUR help like the above people said. and GOOD FOR YOU for making your own decisions!
 
OK, I have some input on this. I am a parent, it is 4 of us in our family, my husband, my 2 daughters (15 and 17) and me. We are all on the same boat and I am the one that ends up encouraging everyone else. On the point of view of the parent, I think that your parents just don't believe that you are serious, as if you are doing this as a face that you are going through but that you will out grow and go back to the old ways ( I don't know how your eating habits were before all this "lets get healthy" talk, nor I know for how long you have been bringing up the subject and if you are consitant with it). I do have some tips to give you.... First you need to sit with them with some research in hand. Like, how much heart disease, diabetes, cancers and such is out there just because of the fact that people do not want to be healthy, you can tell them that maybe they don't want to get healthy, but that you really need their support because you do want to get healthy and it does bother you when they make those remarks. I was just reading a book I got, and it was talking about how the Egyptians were not as slim as we think and as healthy as we think because of their diets and how present society is following on those same foot-steps. The hardest job you are going to have is to convince them that you are for real ( this won't be easy and it could take months).

As everyone says: "just do your thing", but having the support of the entire family makes it a lot more easy, and I think that they are just not taking you serious. You really need to "prove" yourself in order to get the"respect" from the rest of the family. I don't know how old your younger brothers are nor if they are interested on following what you want, but I will tell you something.. If they are younger and your parents are not on the same page as you then they are not going to follow you either, not everyone prefers a piece of broccoli over a piece of cake ( if you see what I mean).

By proving yourself, you will probably accomplish 2 things. one is that you won't be able to stop your plan because then you would NEVER hear the end of it, so it is motivating to you not to stop and the second one would be the respect and support that you need in order to follow through.

So, the pressure is on you to not deviate from your plan with good diet and exercise.

Good for you to have made this decisions and if you don't get the support you need, we are always here :) .

BD
 
my brothers are 8 and 2, the 8 year old really isnt lookin too good right now, pudgy face, double chin, overall pudgy body, and hes only 8...hes developing a eating style of, he wants it, he can have it...whether it be a candy bar, candy, anything, my parents usually dont tell him no....and when they do he whines and
cries for it but thats another story...

my parents should know im serious by now ive been changing things around for months, asked them to buy me healthy foods for a long time, and reject the dinner their having on a consistent basis...i think the problem is that they would rather let me "do my thing" by eating healthy, while they continue eating like they always did...

so i dont think they purposly try to sabatage my diet, rather they dont change their ways of eating so the temptation of eating the foods i used to eat is always there everyday...so i just have to stay dedicated to my plan and try to generally avoid the kitchen at all times until i need to eat...
 
yes focus on what you need to do. i have a huge family back home, and it would be impossible to keep us all on a good healthy diet. My mom's dinners are for the most part fine, not extremely healthy but they always contain a carb, protein, and fat. junk food is around though for the kids. its funny tho cuz my nieces are twigs! the 7 yr old snacks a lot but is the skinniest one. shes like too skinny sometimes it worries me. the only chubby one is the 1 yr old lol but she eats good and a lot! haha. and im sure she will lose the baby fat in a few years. but anyway, they do have limits. i cant believe your parents. like my nieces can only have snacks at night on weekend nights. after school, their snack has to be somewhat healthy.

my parents obviously cant tell me what to eat anymore, and even when i was younger, it was pretty much whatever i wanted, just like your parents. but they definitely say something if it looked like we were eating very poorly. but i think that there should definitely be limits for children. the fact that your parents seem careless is horrible. kids dont know when to stop on their own. my kids will definitely never become fat. i dont care if thats shallow or what not, for me its not even just about the health (altho that plays a big part). being overweight just shows bad parenting to me. unless its just genetics but thats doubtful. i wish my parents would have been harsher on me so i wouldnt suffer the way i did and look how i look now.
 
I see what you are saying. I grew up in a home where we did not eat very healthy either and the word exercise was more like an insult. lol. For what you are saying... it seems as if you are on your own as far as family support goes. On ref. to your brothers..... if your parents don't change their way, then the kids are not going to either until the grow up hopefully not too big and realize that they need to change things like you. Good luck
 
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