has this ever happened to you guys?

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sp21u9rs

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Over the course of 11 months I have lost 60 pounds. I went from 220 to 160...a size 38 to a size 32. Now I'm pretty thin and one of my "acquaintances" not necessarily friends told me I look sick. It just kind of ticked me off when this person told me I looked sick.

On the flip side, several people have told me that I look good now and that they wish 160 pounds looked the same way on them as it does me. I've worked hard to reach my target and ideal weight and I don't starve myself. In fact, I eat more now then I did then. Now I eat healthy though.

Has anybody else experienced this? It's just that it's such a let down whenever someone says things like that. The person who told me is the same person who eats burgers 24/7, ice cream, all that bad stuff and doesn't get out at all. Have you guys ever had this experience? It's like "you need to lose weight!" "stop losing weight!" "you're too skinny!" C'mon already it's like I'm doing it for myself to be healthy...not to please anyone else. Leave me be and try to get healthy instead of criticizing others for being healthy.

Sorry for the rant. I just figured I'd share with you guys. My name's Charlie by the way and I've been a lurker on these boards for some time but barely signed up a while ago. :seeya:
 
hah I had people asking me if i had cancer, and I still get people saying im skinny when i know im not skinny.
I think the question to ask is "Compared to what?". I may be skinny compared to what i was, or even to them, but im most definately not in a normal healthy BMI range, and i could most definitely be a little lighter. Im "ok" like i am, but I'd like to drop that last 10lb!
 
They do this to my husband all the time. He went from the 190s to the lower 160s and everyone thought he had something terrible. I think it's just that you can see the difference and people just tend to jump to the worse possible scenerios. Sadly in this day and age, it's more common to be pudgy and "healthy" looking (oye!) than lean and fit.
 
Yes, it happens quite a lot. I have people tell me to stop losing weight, that I am getting too thin, that I am wasting away, etc, etc... you get the picture. One gal said I needed to look in a mirror at myself...because I was too skinny!
At 5'2" and 120 pounds, I am certainly not "skinny", but am thinner than I have been in quite a long while. I look and feel better than I have for years. I just figure these people are jealous or ignorant, or some combination of the two.

For every person that gives a complement, there are two that have something negative to say!
 
I hope someday they say that to me :)...

But really, I think it is more of a comfort level thing with them. They are used to seeing you look a certain way and now you look different. I would not take any offense to it and would simply tell them I feel better than I have in years...

Congratulations on your loss, that is awesome..
 
glad to know i'm not alone. and thanks bigguy...you're right about the whole used to seeing you a certain way thing. i work in a clinic and one of the p.a.'s there used to be really big. she was always making everyone laugh throughout the day and everyone would joke around with her. she lost like 100+ pounds and she's still funny, but people don't really joke around with her that much anymore. like if shes a different person.
 
I was just going to post this exact same thread! It's really frustrating at times for me too. I went from 263-178 (as of this morning) and a lot of people are really nice and i've gotten more than my fair share of compliments, which I really appreciate.

But then a lot of others keep saying... "Stop loosing weight", "You're too skinny" "Are you sick", and even "You should gain 10lbs".... hearing people say I need to gain weight after all the struggles I've gone through my whole life makes me borderline insane... lol... I mean I prefer hearing i'm too skinny over you're fat... but seriously it kinda ticks me off, because there are thin people who i've been around my whole life who nobody seems to bother them about being thin... just because I used to be fat... doesnt' mean I need to be fat again. Also... it's not just about looks... i want to be as healthy as I can...

I'm not starving myself by any means... I pretty much eat whatever I want just in moderation and I exercise, which I happen to enjoy. I'm not going to stop eating better and stop exercise to appease other people... and I've already lost 60lbs at one point in my life and gained it all back... I'm not doing that again...and I almost feel that sometimes that is what some people want...:rant:

blah... sorry... just something that's been getting under my skin lately... Glad I'm not the only one!
 
I am totally walking in the same shoes as you, Jessfrogger! And, like you, I am determined to NOT gain back the weight! I have a feeling some people would like nothing more than to see me gain it back...and say I told you so!! I totally understand your frustration!
 
Glad I'm not the only one....


Ugh... today I'm starting get at the end of my rope... I'm 6ft and 178lbs... I am by no means skinny... I have a gut... and not much muscle definition... I wear medium shirts and about a size 32-34 waist depending on the pants. I'm starting to think maybe I look terrible, because people keep yelling at me not too loose any more weight... telling me I'm too skinny... asking if my health is ok... trying to constantly get me to eat more (even though I eat normal already)... Today a co-worker.... asked me why I lost so much weight... and I said because I went on a diet and started exercising... and she was like "No, Why?" with a dissapproving look on her face... I WAS FREAKING 78lbs OVERWEIGHT. It's like everyone thinks I have an eating disorder or cancer or something ... ... I mean a good amount of people have been great and congratulatory, but like some I feel just won't leave me alone about it... I never bring up my weight, but I feel they are constantly concerned with it... It's really getting annoying... jeez..
 
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