Guys and wedding rings

Daybehavior

Daybehavior

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So today I was zoning out in class and half delirious because I hadn't slept in 30 hours and I found myself focusing my professor's hands. I know he's married but I realized he never wore his ring. Then I thought back and realized NONE of my male professors (who I know that are married) wear them either.

What's up with that? Is there a good reason not to wear it? Do some married couples simply not wear their rings? Would you girls clobber your husbands if you saw them without it?

Just thought I'd ask since its been bothering me for some reason.
 
My husband has only has his for a few months now but he can't wear it to work as he works in construction so I have to remind him to put it on if we go out. I find it lying around the house in spots where he might not think to look again so I always return it to the little box it came in by his side of the bed. I'm sure he will lose it sooner or later and it doesn't really bother me because we knew this going in and didn't spend a lot of money on it.
My dad lost his after a few months of marriage and my mom bought him a new one after like 20 years of marriage or something only for him to lose it again.
I like seeing it on my husband's finger but it's not mandatory for me. I assume it will eventually get lost and that will be the end of it.
 
Don't think my husband has ever worn his. I'm not bothered one way or the other. It's just a piece of jewellery after all.

I don't always wear my wedding ring either, i.e. if it doesn't go with the rest of my jewellery or something. As said, for me it's just decoration, nothing else.
 
I always wear my ring, I'd feel strange without it (5+ years married). Though I did have to go without it for a couple days last month to get it resized.
 
I'm with you. Some men can't wear theirs' because of work, but I think it's an important symbol of your committment!
 
Monster said:
I'm with you. Some men can't wear theirs' because of work, but I think it's an important symbol of your committment!
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Why? How does not wearing the ring make somebody less committed? It's a piece of metal after all, no more. It won't give you a guarantee of your other half's committment at all.
 
I wear mine if i take it off the wife freaks out lol.. funny story thow for my birthday last year my little bro took me a to a strip joint.. i got wasted and lost it on my way home... yeah that was a rough week or 2 afterward... i work construction and wear it all the time with no problems... my first one was $500 so the second ended up being $60.. wife asked me if she should order more than one lol
 
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San said:
Why? How does not wearing the ring make somebody less committed? It's a piece of metal after all, no more. It won't give you a guarantee of your other half's committment at all.
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i dunno what you believe or what but usually giving of the vows is represented in the ring hence why the custom started... but now a days with 50% of people getting divorced i could see why people just see it as a piece of metal..
 
Primevci said:
I wear mine if i take it off the wife freaks out lol.. funny story thow for my birthday last year my little bro took me a to a strip joint.. i got wasted and lost it on my way home... yeah that was a rough week or 2 afterward... i work construction and wear it all the time with no problems... my first one was $500 so the second ended up being $60.. wife asked me if she should order more than one lol
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xD hahaha that was cool of your wife to let you go to da club, but damn, I could only imagine her reaction after you lost it.

Monster, I agree. I guess some people are just more symbolically inclined than others :) Then again, married people cheat on each other all the time (with their ring still on, I might add) so I could see how others view it just a piece of metal. It all comes down to personal preferences of course, but I was just kinda surprised by the womens' responses.

I was really naive about it I guess. Growing up, I always thought of the ring at the "epitome" of marriage. So when I realized my professor never wore his, it kinda challenged that assumption. Live and learn.
 
San said:
Why? How does not wearing the ring make somebody less committed? It's a piece of metal after all, no more. It won't give you a guarantee of your other half's committment at all.
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Because it's a public display of your commitment. You can disagree with me as much as you like, but it's undeniable, if you're wearing your ring, you are displaying that you are married, and thus, committed to your marriage.
It's just like wearing anything you're proud of, like a sports jersey, or waving an American flag on the 4th of July.
 
Monster said:
Because it's a public display of your commitment. You can disagree with me as much as you like, but it's undeniable, if you're wearing your ring, you are displaying that you are married, and thus, committed to your marriage.
It's just like wearing anything you're proud of, like a sports jersey, or waving an American flag on the 4th of July.
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I do disagree, yes, but that's not the point. The point is that I don't get what the big deal is.

I don't do sports jerseys or flags either, by the way.

And as Daybehaviour said, there are people who go out there and cheat, proudly displaying their 'committment to their marriage' while their bedding somebody else. That's about how much it means.

I know I'm married, my husband knows he's married, that's all we need. Why do I need to let anybody else know if I'm married or not? It has nothing to do with committment. To me it looks as if peeps who go bananas about their partner not wearing their ring think something like 'Oh dear, he/she is not wearing the ring, he/she doesn't love me/isn't committed/is cheating on me'.

Personally, I know I have a stable relationship, neither of us has any intentions on cheating, and I don't need my husband to run around with a piece of metal just to calm my own insecurities (if I had those in regards to my husband, which I don't.)

But....in the end, to each their own. It's like marriage itself, I guess. Some make a big thing out of it, for me it's a piece of paper which just confirms what I already knew.
 
I've never really wear jewellery, especially not rings because I find them horribly uncomfortable! My boyfriend is a guitarist so I imagine (if one day we got married...ahem...hope he's not reading this...) a ring would be a nuisance to him.

I'd probably go with the ring for the ceremony then frame it or mount it or something...haha...or maybe that's tacky.

I'd probably be fine with no ring...I don't need symbols to show my love, the love itself should speak loudly enough :)
 
Thanks. Still don't see the point, but that's alright. Different strokes for different folks....
 
yeah i know what your saying my sister and her husband couldn't even afford them so they don't i guess that could be part of it for some people to..
 
True there should be trust "ring or no ring", but without rings you are going to get hid on a lot more. This is the deal, if I wear a ring, my mate wears a ring. Or there will be "no" wedding ring at all....heee.

My husband and I both wear wedding bands, this shows the world we are both married.:seeya:
 
That's a good point Anna. You probably would get hit on less if you had a wedding ring :) Doesn't matter for some people though.
 
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