Hi guys. Just came across your thread. I've been poking around the fitness.com site for a number of months but typically the summers are pretty busy or me so just took a quick look and then moved on. I'm a triathlon and health coach and stay pretty busy in the summers connecting with clients. Fall is much quieter though.
I've read thru your whole thread and you don't address something that I know will help you dramatically. Not sure if you would be interested but have you ever thought about cellular cleansing. Fat loss is a multifaceted issue. Most people only ever address the calories in (what you eat) and calories out (training) aspect. However, a third (and from a health aspect a VERY important one) is the issue of toxin storage. Your body stores impurities that it filters out of your system (kidneys, liver, lymphatics, colon, blood) in fat and excess water, but mainly fat, to get them out of circulation in your body. If it dodn't your body would shut down pretty quickly. If you don't address the pesticides, heavy metals, and the myriad of other chemicals that are floating around in there then you're going to have a lot harder time releasing fat. Everything you eat, drink, breath and put on your skin absorbs into your body, good and bad. Don't think it's not an issue. As you've found out. You've both done well working out and watching what you eat but the results just weren't there.
The majority of my clients cleanse their bodies and when they do they feel amazing and if they have fat to lose they release/burn it up very quickly. Once you cleanse your body it doesn't have to panic about the toxins it will release into your body if you burn up the fat. So if you don't cleanse the body holds onto that fat for all it's worth.
I'm not talking about a colon cleanse so don't freak out. Cellular cleansing thru new technology. I've been 5-7% body fat my entire adult life so wouldn't ever do this cleanse to release fat, but a LOT of my clients come to me for that very reason. I'm just telling you this because I see your frustration and know from how happy others are with the health (and fat loss benefits). If this had you lose fat but it wasn't healthy I wouldn't mention it; not worth the risk. I don't anticipate that everyone is going to be keen on it. I know it works because that's what I do for a living and have helped thousands of people directly and indirectly be very successful with this. It isn't a diet or weight loss plan though. Weight loss if you have it to lose is just an unfortunate side effect. You will get stronger, improve your performance, build lean muscle mass, release fat (if you have it, and it sounds like you still do), get more energy and feel mentally sharper. Best system I've ever found in almost 20 years of coaching which is why I'm ok with telling you about it. Of course you'll have some Qs and I'm happy to answer them if you care. If not no worries. I live/work to help people reach their goals and it's tough to watch you get frustrated with your challenges. Enjoy the day.