General hysterical diet related rambling: From Flab to Fab.

AI just want you to know that you are an awesome mum and person and you do not need to live with some one that less than adores you!! I hope and wish the best for you and your sweet dear children!! please take care of you!!! it the best gift you an give yourself and those precious babes!! STAY STRONG and sending tons and tons of hugs!!!
 
AThanks Tete :grouphug: xxx

Lost a pound this week :) Eating just a tiny bit better than I have to is an achievement to me right now. I am happy to be going down a pound a week, rather than going up.

12 cigarettes, must do better.

Food
Porridge with sweetener and honey
Ham sandwich and tiny banana
6 Kiev balls with two ladles of rice and med veg.
A glug of vodka with pepsi max.
3 coffees
 
Hi everyone, happy to see so many people taking charge of their life.I just joined a weight loss program.It's a 90 day challenge I haven't received my product yet but i hear it's amazing, Its the next craze it seems like. They gave me a website and everything http://docjaay.bodybyvi.com have you heard about this is it as good as they say?
 
Oh my goodness. What a week. First off, big hugs and I'm so sorry to hear what a horrible time you've been having. Second off, I can't help thinking GOOD RIDDANCE. Seriously - a bonus if he spends time with the kids...drugs...hitting you? However much it hurts, however much the kids need to adjust..move on.


The best thing you said was that you now have hope...of finding someone a lot nicer that you can build a good life with. You deserve that - you deserve the best possible relationship and someone to be lovely to you. Take your time, get over this one, find an equilibrium again, then go find that!
 
oh noididnt realizethatthings have have been sobad.It sounds awfull.Its isthe most horrible thing to live likethat,not speaking and feeling all these negative things.Aw ruthreally youhave to figure this out.Its clearthat you have feelings for himor else youwouldhave endedthis long ago,isnt there any way to make things work?is he willing to talk or try to change things?

its really notgoodto NOT speak to him.it will make you miserable in the long run,upset ,and the list goes on and on.

isnt itpossible you can talk things out about what bothers you both?

you are doing great though despite the stress food and cig wise.

Dont find excusses to smoke more , if you can manage it now through stress you can eventually quit im sure you can.Stay strong

Sending you lots of love there!thinking of you

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
 
AThanks Jjjay... I have to move on. I am planning on taking my time... I am not going to stick with the first man that comes along no matter what his merits. I am going to only get in a relationship with someone who totally gets me, has the same principles as me, and is nice :)

Jasper... I do know what you are saying, but we have been here before. It was only 5ish months ago we were broken up for over 3 months. If that wasn't enough to make him change, when he was apparently heartbroken, nothing will. He just isn't the person I want him to be. And I didn't want much. Just for him too have a job. That was it. I waited a decade. I am absolutely ashamed to admit it... I know how badly him not working reflects on me. I don't consider myself to be the type of person who has a bf with no intention of ever having a job. Recently he has been uploading files to the internet and getting money for sales, but that's illegal. His mum gave him money every day for well over a decade, he was happy just taking it, and sitting on his arse. Someone told the benefits people about it.. They considered his income to be my income, and I am having to pay back over 20k in benefits because of it!!!! Even though it all went on nice clothes for himself, and he never bought me anything with it. Then, after all that , I found out that his mum was paying money into his bank account again in secret!!!!! His mum isn't rich. I don't know why she did it. It wasn't helping him, it was making his life worse.

I am getting older, and I just want to find true happiness, and I won't find it with him. Ever. No way. Just want someone respectable. WHO WORKS!!!!!!!!

He is saying sorry for what he did, but its waaaaaay too little, waaaaay too late.

I will be away for three days now, I shall try my bestest to be good while I'm gone, if not, it's not the end of the world, I will do a healthy shop when I get back and do a detox.
 
AHey Ruthie :seeya:

Finally i have got my act together and i'm catching up with diaries :) I am really sorry that i neglected you sweetie :( You have always been there for me and i really appreciate it so much. Sorry that i haven't been there for you too.

I have got 54 comments to plow thru! This may take some time...........

OMG i just looked at the link you put on with the before and after of Shawnnam. That is just stunning!!!!! I am sat here telling myself 'you dont want any biscuits, you don't want any' and then i see those photos and i don't want any biscuits lol i should print them off and hang them on my fridge!!!! Such a transformation :)

I'm so sorry about what happpened with Nick sweetie. Sending you great big squishy hugs my lovely :grouphug: I am so sorry i haven't been there for you at such a shitty time.

I really hope that you are having an awesome time away. Thinking of you my lovely :grouphug:
 
AHope you are having a good break - you definitely deserve it after recent events.

Can't believe it re the benefits thing - is there no way to disentangle yourself from his benefit fraud?!
 
AKate That's alright, you haven't been on here very much (tsk tsk!), thanks. Oooh, and you've re-remined me about the befores and afters :D

Jjjay I know, its crazy! They didn't even ask HIM to pay any money back! His Mum wouldn't let me say she was giving him the money. They said that as I refused to give the information they were adding an extra £250 a week onto the estimated sum of extra money he was getting. His mums husband didn't know that she was giving it to him. They would probably get divorced if he found out exactally how much it was. It was two years ago now, I have almost accepted it now. Still not happy tho.

I had a lovely time in Margate :)

I do have to say, that the diet has totally gone to shit though. And I have literally NO TIME to myself to come on the computer booohissssss. The other telly accidentally broke last week, so now, there is no way I can just leave the kids to their own devices while I come on the wicked wide web. I know I wanted to cut down on my usage, but pheeeew, this is taking the mickey. And its going to be cut off completely in two days (Nick paid the technology bills). I am in two minds about what to do- do I only go on the net on my cracked phone which jumps upon random pages, or do I get an internet connection?

I am actually going to sleep at the same time as the kiddies!

Feeling a lot better about the break up now. I did say to Nicholas that if he gets a job there is a chance I might get back with him. He has done an about turn and backtracked on all the nasty things he said about me. He can only get a house-share, not a flat/bedsit, which means he won't be able to do the stereotypical arrangement of having the kids every other weekend. He will only be able to look after them here. And it ridiculous how I feel myself softening towards him. I am worried if he comes round to much I will cave in and believe his shite about how everythings going to be magically better. But what choice will I have? I will need his help if I want to study/go out on my own.

So sorry I haven't looked at anyones pages, I do want to, but I am exhausted :( Hopefully I can come on for a bit tomorrow afternoon.

Need to do a healthy food shop.

Ps. I changed my front door lock, all by myself.... Yeeeehaaaaaaa..... GIRL POWER!

Food
Eat natural bar and an apple
Pretty sure I ate lunch... But can't remember what... Maybe I actually didn't. Hmmmm..... I actually think I forgot! FORGOT!!!!! Lily had a sandwich. I know that... Yep, I forgot!!!!! And I am not lying. You can forget to eat!!!!
Fresh pasta with tomato sauce and half a garlic baguette.
Humongous Aero.
4ish coffees.
 
AHeya sweetie :)

I'm so pleased you had a lovely time away :) and don't worry about food, i ate really badly while i was away camping.

I am not going to give an opinion on Nick hun, i know how hard it is for you with the kids on your own.

Love and hugs sweetie Xxx
 
If he's done it once, he'll do it again. I know it'll make life harder being without him but you need to think about your safety and your kids, honey. You don't want them to ever see him treating you like that. No judging here, just advice and concern. You need to do what you feel is right. Lots of hugs x Glad you had a nice time away lovely xx
 
AHe was really nasty too me for the first 4 years of our relationship. I think I only put up with it because he put me down to such an extent that I honestly believed he was so much better than me. But since then (another 6 years) he hasn't hurt me at all, except the other day. Actually, it was three weeks ago now. Its gone super fast. I don't want you all thinking that he beat me up all the time or anything :) I am happy on my own. I am better on my own. I ring him up so he can talk to the kiddies, but they aren't interested. I didn't tonight, and he didn't ring to talk to them. I won't bother any mre, if he wants to make the effort to keep in touch with them he can. I think one of the reasons I was so close to my Nan was that I talked to her on the phone every day growing up. I wanted him to have a close relationship with the kiddies. But if they don't want to talk to him, and he doesn't want to talk to them, I will stop making the effort.

Don't know whether to go to the paralympics basketball with him on friday.

I have been so unbelievably busy. Every second of my day is filled up with something. I have been meeting up with my friends and having a nice time, and taking the kids out all day to various fun things. I think stopping Charlie from playing his x-box game might be helping because the other day he said another full sentence "I want to go in there please" :D So proud of my boyo.

It was his first day back at school today (was supposed to be yesterday, but I took the kids to Chessington world of adventures). The bloody bus turned up to pick him up at 7:45!!!! Usual;ly its 9.10!!!! Not impressed at all, but they basically told me to lump it. Hope it will work out with my uni hours. I think lily is entitled to go to nursery for 5 full days a week after christmas, I hope so. That will make doing my uni work so much easier. I really want to get all A's.

Nicholas is being evasive about childcare, and basically refusing to look after them, which has pissed me off INSANELY to the extent that I feel like telling him to go and fuck himself, if he doesn't want to look after the kids, then he won't see them. I did say that to him and we had a row. He just doesn't want to look after them at his flat, because he doesn't want me to have a life. He has gone out and drowned his sorrow practically every night for the past three weeks. How is it fair that I am not allowed? Also, he told me he has no money to take them out. He has money to get pissed. Where do his effing priorities lie?


I am thinking of going to a health spa for the weekend with my equally frazzled and stressed out friend Adisa. She doesn't know it yet. But we will be lol.

My food has been complete shite. I feel like I weight about 100 stone. I just did the shopping online, and its isn't spectacularly healthy, but there is a lot of fruit and veggies. I think next week I shall go on a detox, with soups and lots of fruit. I will view it as me giving myself an almighty kick up the goddamn arse.
 
All I can say is bravo!

I'm a bit new hear so I hope I don't seem to burst in on the conversation.

I can only imagine what you must be going through contemplating the flappy bit that will be left over. I have a niece, who made the decision to change her life for the better. She has lost an enormous amount of weight, but she too will have flappy bits left over.

The upside is that she feels so much better, she is enjoying the compliments she's receiving and no doubt her prognosis for living longer is also much better.

As a life coach, I am a great believer in setting goals.

So, at some point in the future I guess you could bet that tummy tuck will be done!

If you decide and believe and keep doing what your re doing!
 
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