It's not very easy to eat smart at my mom's. All I could do is just portion control, which has been working for me so far.
Right, that's what I meant by eating smart.
I won't gorge myself simply b/c I'm eating 'off plan.' In addition, I won't make stupid choices simply b/c I'm eating 'off plan.' Ya know, I won't double up on desert instead of veggies. Or I'll have half of a serving of desert just for a taste... I'm already full so don't need a big helping. Things like that. I just make rational decisions keeping my primary goals in mind.
I feel like if I don't count my calories, I'll go overboard. I don't really know any other way to eat healthy. It is very stressful at times.
I get that. Caloric control is obviously critical. I've just gotten to the point where I don't want or need to worry about counting every morsel of food that enters my mouth. I've been at this a long, long time. Others should count every morsel if they aren't having success doing anything else. At least until they have things under wraps.
Personally.... based on my current goals I will set a caloric target for each day. Then, I will make a SAMPLE diet plan using excel. On the spreadsheet will be every food I plan on eating (including drinks) and corresponding to each will be it's caloric, protein, carb, fat and fiber contents.
I make sure that this list nets out to my caloric and macronutrient goals.
Once that's set, I can change things on the fly for the most part. If I want 4 ounces of pork tenderloin opposed to chicken, I'll do it.
This way, I don't have to calculate calories again until I change my caloric goal. I just work off of this foundation (spreadsheet), if that makes any sense.