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Well, I appear to be on the downward swing of my plateau -- went down to 243.0 today. My goal for March is 242.0, so I have a good shot at making it!
Yesterday was absolutely gorgeous - 72 degrees, partly sunny with a ver light layer of clouds. Took my dog Chaco (a 2 1/2 yr. old Welsh Corgi) to the dog park, where he ran for an hour with his big dog pals. What a blast to watch him there! After that, since it was my "off" day, I took a 3 mile walk along the beach at Torrey Pines. I feel so lucky living near that beach (5 min. away) -- it's like I'm on permanent vacation.
Today I thought I'd write down my thoughts about supporting others who are in this struggle.
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Giving advice and encouragement is always a problematic thing on the web. First, you don't really know the people you're talking to. I have quite a few "virtual friends" and I'm always surprised how little I really knew them if I get a chance to meet them in person. Second, it's very easy to misconstrue what someone has written in a post. Are they venting? Do they really want help? Do they think your advice sucks? You never really know for sure.
So it's a real crapshoot, that's for sure.
However, on sites like this, part of the way people get their motivation is by helping others -- passing along what they know in the hopes that it may encourage another.
It's all good when you basically agree with someone, and you're just encouraging them to do more of the same. But what if someone asks about something that may harm them? Do you keep your mouth shut? Do you only speak up if they specifically ask for YOUR help? Or do you just fire away?
Sometimes it helps to think of these questions in a different environment. Suppose you're in the gym, and you're part of a group of people who have come together to support each other and learn from each other regarding weight training.
You see someone doing "momentum curls" - the bicep curls where the person is recruiting their whole body to do the curl, ignoring form all together to make a show of the weight they're curling. While it looks stupid, it probably won't hurt that person. Do you say anything? Well, maybe -- if you're an acquantance of that person, or that person has specifically asked you for advice. If it's just a stranger, you'd probably keep your mouth shut.
Now you see someone about to do a deadlift. They're obviously not that strong, and they've got 2 45lb. plates loaded on each end of a barbell. They're about to pull up, and you notice their back is completely rounded, and that that's how they intend to do the deadlift. You can almost hear their back go out. Do you say anything? In that case, yes -- even if you don't know the person. Remember, this is a fictional group in the gym, something akin to this forum. By belonging to the group. people have signalled that they want advice and support.
The deadlifter might be angry and tell you to go f*#&# yourself, but it would be almost irresponsible to keep quiet.
Now let's move back to this forum, where people sign up to get both support AND advice. Someone asks you about a supplement that costs $60 a month, promises to take the weight off quickly, and is nothing more than caffeine and green tea. Is this a case of the momentum curler or the deadlifter?
I say it's a case of the deadlifter about to do serious injury to themselves. Why? Because these quack remedies enforce some habits that really are dangerous, specifically:
1) it reinforces the idea that weight loss and fitness are external factors, to be solved with a pill or a "magic diet." [I'm not talking here about morbidly obese people or those with thyroid problems, a tiny minority of all of us].
2) Because these remedies ultimately fail 95% of the time, they reinforce helplessness. And failure typically leads to gaining all the weight back, plus some.
3) They fill the coffers of the diet-hucksters, thus enabling them to bamboozle thousands more victims.
So, just as I would pull someone back if they were about to step off the curb in the path of a moving bus, I feel it's only responsible to warn participants in this forum about quack cures that ultimately will harm them. That doesn't mean that I'd advocate going into a forum especially set up for them, but if they came in a general forum and asked about a quack diet, I would speak up.
I know what's coming next -- what makes you the expert? I'm no doctor; I'm not a nutrionist. In fact, I ask for lots of advice myself. But after 40 years and lots of reading coupled with empirical experience, I'm able to smell a fraud a bit better. And frauds always have a few things in common:
1) They NEVER have double-blind studies in peer reviewed journals. They ALWAYS refer to some "clinically controlled" study where people popping their pills lose more than those taking placebos.
2) They invariable refer to some new "discovery" or "ingredient" that is the magic bullet that no one else has discovered yet.
3) They alway promise very quick results. After all, if losing weight was hard work, who would buy their product?
So if you post in a general forum that you've started on your path, and the way you're doing it is by taking SuperDuperSlim 9000 pills, you won't get a whole lot of encouragement from me. Now you know why.
Yesterday was absolutely gorgeous - 72 degrees, partly sunny with a ver light layer of clouds. Took my dog Chaco (a 2 1/2 yr. old Welsh Corgi) to the dog park, where he ran for an hour with his big dog pals. What a blast to watch him there! After that, since it was my "off" day, I took a 3 mile walk along the beach at Torrey Pines. I feel so lucky living near that beach (5 min. away) -- it's like I'm on permanent vacation.
Today I thought I'd write down my thoughts about supporting others who are in this struggle.
---------------------
Giving advice and encouragement is always a problematic thing on the web. First, you don't really know the people you're talking to. I have quite a few "virtual friends" and I'm always surprised how little I really knew them if I get a chance to meet them in person. Second, it's very easy to misconstrue what someone has written in a post. Are they venting? Do they really want help? Do they think your advice sucks? You never really know for sure.
So it's a real crapshoot, that's for sure.
However, on sites like this, part of the way people get their motivation is by helping others -- passing along what they know in the hopes that it may encourage another.
It's all good when you basically agree with someone, and you're just encouraging them to do more of the same. But what if someone asks about something that may harm them? Do you keep your mouth shut? Do you only speak up if they specifically ask for YOUR help? Or do you just fire away?
Sometimes it helps to think of these questions in a different environment. Suppose you're in the gym, and you're part of a group of people who have come together to support each other and learn from each other regarding weight training.
You see someone doing "momentum curls" - the bicep curls where the person is recruiting their whole body to do the curl, ignoring form all together to make a show of the weight they're curling. While it looks stupid, it probably won't hurt that person. Do you say anything? Well, maybe -- if you're an acquantance of that person, or that person has specifically asked you for advice. If it's just a stranger, you'd probably keep your mouth shut.
Now you see someone about to do a deadlift. They're obviously not that strong, and they've got 2 45lb. plates loaded on each end of a barbell. They're about to pull up, and you notice their back is completely rounded, and that that's how they intend to do the deadlift. You can almost hear their back go out. Do you say anything? In that case, yes -- even if you don't know the person. Remember, this is a fictional group in the gym, something akin to this forum. By belonging to the group. people have signalled that they want advice and support.
The deadlifter might be angry and tell you to go f*#&# yourself, but it would be almost irresponsible to keep quiet.
Now let's move back to this forum, where people sign up to get both support AND advice. Someone asks you about a supplement that costs $60 a month, promises to take the weight off quickly, and is nothing more than caffeine and green tea. Is this a case of the momentum curler or the deadlifter?
I say it's a case of the deadlifter about to do serious injury to themselves. Why? Because these quack remedies enforce some habits that really are dangerous, specifically:
1) it reinforces the idea that weight loss and fitness are external factors, to be solved with a pill or a "magic diet." [I'm not talking here about morbidly obese people or those with thyroid problems, a tiny minority of all of us].
2) Because these remedies ultimately fail 95% of the time, they reinforce helplessness. And failure typically leads to gaining all the weight back, plus some.
3) They fill the coffers of the diet-hucksters, thus enabling them to bamboozle thousands more victims.
So, just as I would pull someone back if they were about to step off the curb in the path of a moving bus, I feel it's only responsible to warn participants in this forum about quack cures that ultimately will harm them. That doesn't mean that I'd advocate going into a forum especially set up for them, but if they came in a general forum and asked about a quack diet, I would speak up.
I know what's coming next -- what makes you the expert? I'm no doctor; I'm not a nutrionist. In fact, I ask for lots of advice myself. But after 40 years and lots of reading coupled with empirical experience, I'm able to smell a fraud a bit better. And frauds always have a few things in common:
1) They NEVER have double-blind studies in peer reviewed journals. They ALWAYS refer to some "clinically controlled" study where people popping their pills lose more than those taking placebos.
2) They invariable refer to some new "discovery" or "ingredient" that is the magic bullet that no one else has discovered yet.
3) They alway promise very quick results. After all, if losing weight was hard work, who would buy their product?
So if you post in a general forum that you've started on your path, and the way you're doing it is by taking SuperDuperSlim 9000 pills, you won't get a whole lot of encouragement from me. Now you know why.