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Hi Everyone:

My story--I've always been a healthy weight without really trying, generally an active person who didn't eat perfectly but not really badly either, but things have changed lately. I'm in the middle of an ugly divorce (are there pretty ones?), my work keeps me planted in front of a computer monitor 12 hours a day, and I'm living back home for the time being. As such, I suddenly find myself with 50 pound I'm willing to donate. Where did it come from? Eek.

What I have going for me--I don't have an eating disorder, and my relationship with food is I think pretty normal. I'm not worried about being "fat," but I do want to be healthier. I don't like the way I feel right now. I have access to a state-of-the-art university recreation and wellness center not 5 minutes from my house, and a membership that runs through June. (Have I been using it lately? No.)

Well that's all for now I guess.

Best,

J. R.
 
Hello. I hear same stories everywhere and i call it sit-on weight. Its the weight you get when you work constantly sitting. So, what can you do to help it? Nothing i guess? But thats not true and trust me on this one because you can do alot. Take a very little time from your daay say half hour or fifteen minutes and do cardio just jogging and trust me this will help for sure.
 
Pirhana, while I am not going through a messy divorce, I think my living conditions are somewhat similar to you. I am currently a grad student who is also working part time at a desk job. I also spend 12 hours a day sitting in front of a monitor, or with my nose in a book. I also have access to my university's gyms and fitness programs and have been utilizing them heavily for the passed two weeks. My recommendation is to make yourself get to the gym in the evening. You might be tired and feel like you don't want to go or don't have the energy to go, but I have found that since I started going I am more energetic and genuinely look forward to my nightly workouts. They relieve a lot of stress and have made me happier, overall. I hope this helps you.
 
Emotional issues are difficult to contain i find until you let go fully, your self esteem returns as you find yourself in a better environment conducive to exercise and eating well (I know it can be hard to do this but it will come in time),I think you are brave in moving away from past marriage, i am stuck in a sour loveless marriage for 7 years and it's soul-destroying, consequently overeating and weigh in at 93kgs, 20 kgs too much!
Regards
KJV
 
In your shoes I think that I would allow the newly single state to motivate me to try to make those changes.

There is no denying that you will enjoy going out and meeting new people if you are feeling confident and comfortable about yourself. If you feel you are carrying 50 surplus pounds it may hold you back.

The forum is full of people that have lost 50 pounds and more - and done it in a healthy way. Granted - it has taken them hard work - but they have all said that it was worth it.

Once you find your motivation - the work itself will be easy.
 
It's rough trying to get back on your feet from a routine way of life. When I had my child 5 years ago I was HUGE, (approx 260lbs). Things went very wrong in my marriage when my child reached 9 months of age and I had to step up and end things between my husband and I. When we separated in 2008 my routine was in shambles. I was now the main provider and responsibility of my child's raising and development. Believe me, that thought alone can do a number on someones outlook on life. I chose to push through and be the best role model I can for my child but ultimately forgetting about myself and not giving myself any attention. My divorce FINALLY went thru and was finalized in 2011. Since then I have lost 40lbs....blah, I know, not too impressive, but I do look much better. I too sit in front of a monitor full time for my occupation and when I get home in the evenings I am mentally drained. The thought of dragging myself to workout is just as exhausting. My problem is getting into a NEW routine and developing a habit of giving myself some time in the evenings to work on me. I have a trip coming up in April which I think has given me some motivation. This week I have worked out about an hour every day which is a great start but my problem lies in committing to this NEW addition to my typical way of life.
 
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